My best friend got married just last year. She is always comparing her wedding to my wedding. She thinks hers was better because hers cost more. But anyone who went to my wedding has told me mine was better. I was in her wedding and it was horrible. Everything needed to be perfect, and it had to be her way, it was aweful and one of the worst days of my life. I have never said anything to her, so I won't heurt her feelings, but I can't stand how she thinks her wedding was so perfect, when it wasn't. Will she ever stop talking about this, should I tell her one day five years from now that no-her wedding wsn't any better than mine. Help
2006-07-10 16:19:41 · 8 answers · asked by Melissa R 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Well I think that telling her that her wedding was bad, or that yours was better, is just going to fuel her fire. I think that maybe the best way to stop having this argument is to say the next time she brings it up, that everyone thinks their own wedding is the best. Of course she thinks hers was the best. You think yours is the best, I think mine was the best and my mom thinks hers was the best. Because the day is so important to you, why make it a competition?
You could try telling her that you don't like comparing weddings, they are over with and you'd rather look forward to the long and happy marriages you both have ahead of you. You could also tell her that you can't compare weddings that were different, or that it's just plain not a competition.
Hopefully once she sees that it's not a topic you want to bring up, and you aren't going to even humor her with a conversation about it, she'll get the hunt and stop going on about it.
2006-07-10 19:17:44 · answer #1 · answered by ykokorocks 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have the same thing with my wedding and my friend's wedding. Though my cousin has always called my wedding a shot gun wedding just because I was pregnant, even though our son was 100% planned. My husband and I paid for most of our wedding ourselves and we are only on a disability pension. My dress was hand made by myself and my mom, customized because my boobs were bigger but not my belly yet. We did the wedding and reception in the same hall and had more of a tea for the reception than a sit down meal. The band was live and free as my husband's step-brother was the lead of the band and offered. My cousin did the pictures.
My friend got married last year and had all roses, store bought wedding dress, bride's maids dresses, flower girl dresses, junior bride's maid dress and she bought her mother's dress. The guys were all in full suits and her photographer was a photographer from the city newspaper because her dad works there. The wedding was at her family's regular church and the reception was at a well known banquet hall with full sit down meal there and open bar. I am not saying that mine was better or hers was better. Mine was what I wanted and I hate hearing them compared.
2006-07-11 00:38:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds conceited. Conceited people just never quit sometimes. If she was told that she was conceited, bossy, and downright mean, it might bring her down a peg or two - but you shouldn't be the one to do it, because saying something like that to her might ruin the friendship (unless you are willing to risk the friendship). You are right in not saying anything to her about the wedding, because by doing so, you're just lowering yourself to her level, and that makes you no better than her. Blow off what she says when she starts comparing her wedding to yours. If she is this bossy and has to have things her way, I am afraid to see the way she acts towards her husband. In time, she will stop comparing her wedding to yours when she realizes that no one cares.
2006-07-11 00:26:01 · answer #3 · answered by c.grinnell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is jelouse of you. I had a sister n law just like that. She alway's compared my wedding with hers. and she told me no one liked your wedding pictures and mine turned out better than yours. It's childish. But, I would just ingnore it. Like I said she is jelouse of you. Eventualy she would get over it. I bet your wedding was the bomb compared to hers. And, No one can compere their wedding with some one else. Believe me my sister n law tried and ****** her wedding reception up big time just because she wanted to copy off my wedding. She made a fool out of herself LOL i can look back and laugh. That is what your going to do. So, don't let it bother you.
2006-07-15 00:56:43 · answer #4 · answered by sweat mamma bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It probably wouldn't matter if you told her that five years
from now, she sounds like one of those people who has
to be #1 always, you could just try to ignore her or say
something like"well whatever, the end result was the same,
we both got married."
2006-07-11 00:23:14 · answer #5 · answered by frustrated 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My friend's husband showed up to their wedding in shorts with his cell phone on his belt! Their video is a joke! But at least she realized it.
2006-07-11 00:03:43 · answer #6 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why do you care? You won, yours was better. Just ignore her, I mean is she really a good friend? You call her your best friend, but I'm here to tell you my best friend doesn't act like that.
2006-07-11 02:24:20 · answer #7 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to grow up and quit trying to compete over things that really don't matter to anyone else
2006-07-10 23:25:45 · answer #8 · answered by monica 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋