why do most women with a child or children get offended if a man might not want them?

Question

why women get mad at men who wont date them if they have a child or children

Answer 1

Because when a man does not know you have children he knows there is NOTHING in his way. He can take you out, have sex anytime, there is NOTHING to ruin HIS fun. But when there are children are involved, it takes away from the good time that they can have with you. And remember it is NOT his responsibilty any way, so he is not obligated to be with you. So a woman feels no one will ever want her BECAUSE she has children so she will NEVER have anyone in her life for REAL. She feels she will never have a real relationship with a man because of the child or children. And sorry to say it, but most of the time it is true that she will be alone. The children will almost always be the STOPPER for her. So she feels cheated always. I have known woman who have aborted many babies because they know having a child mean't that they will be alone forever. and that men will only come for sex and leave. I have known some who have given their children up to foster care for the same thing. No this is not right. And I do not condone it. But because it is so hard to raise children alone many women cannot cope. Now remember not all women take the same path as the ones I have mention above. I know of several women who feels that it is the end for her in the matter of getting a REAL relationship. And they have decide to put themselves into raising their children and they have not had a relationship yet because no one wanted them. But they are happy and raising wonderful children. And have thrown themselves into other hobbies and opened up businesses. I know of only one who met a wonderful man who accepted her and her child and he adopted her son. And this man loves her son as if it was really his own. And i know he loves her. You always see them together.

Answer 2

there are two types of men who won't date women with a kid. the first is just not ready... blah, blah ,blah, but very up front, and respectful about everything. they are great! better to weed them out before you get your heart broke. the second kind of man will not have the balls to tell you the truth, they act like your child is the most disgusting vile creature to ever have the nerve to be born and they take it personally that the child even exists. some of them go so far as to treat you as if you had a child to inconvenience them, when the child existed long before you ever met them. if i got turned down by the first kind, i wouldn't be mad, maybe a little bummed. the second kind of guy would make me mad. not because he wouldn't date me, but more because he wasn't grown up enough to tell me the truth, and treat me as someone who could handle it. the other reason would be... viewing other people only as extensions of themselves, and how their lives are affected by the fact other people have lives too!

Answer 3

why do you prejudge women because she has a child or children would you like to be judged because you have children. In my book it takes a real man to date a women with children, some of us wasn't given a choice to be single my husband passed away. With that attitude you might be single for a very long time

Answer 4

Because they are insecure. If a man doesn't want anything to do with you because you have a child or children, then he is not the right man for you, and a secure woman would recognize this and thank goodness she didn't get too involved.

Answer 5

If dude, does not want to date you because you have kids then be thankful he is being up front about it. Don't get mad because he is being totally honest. Many men just want the mom and not the kids even though they may have a string of them around town. But, be happy he is being honest, saves a lot of heart ache and hurt in the long run.

Answer 6

Please dont classify all single dating moms into that category. When I first started again the very first words out of my mouth were I have 2 kids if you cant deal with that I totally understand just tell me now. My kids are my word but I understand that someone else may not be loking for that type of committment. Luckily I found my now husband who adores the kids as much as I do. You have the right to choose to not get involved with someone for whatever reason, sounds like you may just be dealing with the wrong type of women. Hope your future dating ventures go better

Answer 7

I'm here to tell you it is the same for a man that has kids... Women don't want to date us either. So don't get mad just look for a better quality of man.. There are good ones out there you just have to look for them..

Answer 8

not all women are offended but for those who got offended it's because their children/kids is already a part of them...men should like/love the women for what she has anyway.

Answer 9

I don't get offended if they don't want to date me. What offends me is that I make it clear that I have children, and they come first, and the men say that's fine with them, and they are lying. Then they want me to blow off my kids to do things with them, and whine about how much time my children take, and so on. If you know, then don't lie about it.

Answer 10

Because they want you to raise some other dude's kid like a fool.

Do you work hard all day to spend your money on some other dude's babies??? If you are impotent this is an option for you. Also if you are 'firing blanks'. Otherwise get yourself a mail order virgin bride from Russia or the Phillipines.