I dated a guy a couple of years ago, twice, for a month each time. After the fact, we were friends, and that lasted my entire senior year. Now, he is married and has a kid, I am currently with someone else, and I'm still dreaming about him. I really want to forget about him, though, because for one thing, he never treated me right, yet he still won my heart. For another thing, the obvious, he is married, and he isn't for me. And lastly, I am with someone else, and it's not fair to my current boy friend that he has to sit and listen to me talk about him all the time. Now don't get me wrong, I really do like the guy I'm with, but I just can't seem to get my first love out of my dreams and thoughts. How can I best go about forgetting him? I know I'll never be able to let go completely, but I need to at least eliminate him from my dreams, because that's when it effects me most.
2006-07-10 15:42:45 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The first guy represents a wonderful fantasy for which you find exciting and passionate. The second guy or your present boyfriend represents reality. Maybe you should take a large step backwards and end your present relationship. You sound like your young, with your whole life in front of you. Maybe you would consider taking a break from dating for at least 6 months and concentrate on yourself and building new dreams on how you really want to live your life.
2006-07-10 15:50:42 · answer #1 · answered by somerset 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are always looking back at the past. You should start seeing what's in front of you a guy who is married and has a child. It means he doesn't love you anymore. You keep thinking he still love you, but yet you still haven't seen the big picture. He is happily marrried. You just have to see it the light. Hope he gets out of you dreams and be replace by your current boyfriend.
2006-07-10 15:51:37 · answer #2 · answered by Berties 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont need to forget him, just remember where you are and where he is and respect that.. Never forget your loves there very special times, put them away but don't forget, use them as a guide in love and life...As for your new boyfriend sitting wile you talk about your X.. Sweetheart, you can remember with out always bringing him up.. Sounds like to me that you can say I want to for get, but you infact dont want to..What I feel is you dont the love you had before.. if you did you would'nt keep thinking of him...I really dont know what to tell you except be happy with what you have , lifes to short to dwell on the past... Good Luck.. LOL ROB
2006-07-10 15:58:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well apparently you need counceling.
You need to find out why you are still hooked on a guy who treated you badly. Why you want to make all the wrong choices and why you subject your boyfriend to this!
After you get some counceling, you will be able to deal with this and make a better wife for your boyfriend...(I am sure that he is being very patient about this, but, this isnt going to last forever!!)...
I wish you well..
Jesse
2006-07-10 15:47:10 · answer #4 · answered by x 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well U need 2 Just be in tune with your current guy and try to forget him I know it's hard cause I felt that way at one time but I'm completely over him I just don't go to places that he goes to and I've learned to stop talking about him that's a good way to ruin what you got with your new guy.Good Luck
2006-07-10 15:47:19 · answer #5 · answered by sugarbdp1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry honey, there's really no getting over your first love. I've been away from mine for over 30 years, have dated other men, and he is married with kids of his own, but I still dream about him. I know we will never be together again but it just keeps happening. I don't fight it anymore and sometimes I even try to go back to sleep so I can revisit the dream. They were happy times and its just your memory reminding you of it. Don't fret about it!!!
2006-07-10 15:51:13 · answer #6 · answered by Tamara 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time heals all wounds sister. It will definitely help to find a guy who sweeps you off your feet. I thought I was with the perfect woman once and she left and I dreamed of her. Then I found a more perfect woman and when that one left I dreamed of her instead. Now I have an even better one, and my dreams are calm.
2006-07-10 15:47:25 · answer #7 · answered by chris w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to listen to yourself.Sounds like you could talk yourself out of him. Dreams are ok , Fantasy's don't hurt nothing. But don't let it run ur awake life. You know yourself hes wrong for you . Stop living in a fantasy world and see what you got right in front of you , before its gone and a dreams.
2006-07-10 15:52:50 · answer #8 · answered by porcelain65711 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm, sounds to me like you don't like the person you're with that much...if you did you'd think about the first guy less.
Try to stay focused on all the bad things that happened between you. Also, maybe engross yourself in a hobby that takes up your time. Do you like to read? I know it takes my mind off everything else but what's inside the pages!
2006-07-10 15:49:00 · answer #9 · answered by s_ann77 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are with the right person now. Or you wouldn't be dreaming about your first love. Any why are you talking to your current boyfriend about it?
2006-07-10 15:47:23 · answer #10 · answered by Kali_girl825 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋