Why is it people are always busy,why it never slows down there being busy?

Question

I have a hard time trusting people,so it takes a while for me to. But after 6 months to a year,when people I meet get know me and me them. I start to trust them. Just when I do,things change too fast for me. The people that I know change in ways like this:

Only care about themselves (school,job and money,etc...)
Only care about the items. IE: Cars,etc...
Don't communicate as much anymore (Telephone,Snail Mail,E-mail,IMing,etc...)
Start to have additude/mentality of "only myself,I and me".

I understand I know and the world has a right to improve themselves like going to school or going to work,being a relationship,etc... But it never seems to end and keep on happening over,over again when from one group or another that I go to.

I have a job (a pathetic one that pays $5.15 per hour,due to needed SSI and have to uphold the guidelines to it). There have been times I've been busy too but I at least was able to be communicative towards people I know,have time,etc...(not doing the things that I mentioned). Due knowing how it truely feels to be hurt,rejected,outcasted,abando...

For the past 8 years now,I've seen to many people become that way. But never say or do these things towards anyone else that I know (they are friends with too). Why is it people in my life are always busy for me but not towards anyone else that I know (they are friends with too) and why it never slows down there being busy?

Answer 1

Unfortunately, the world is going at a faster pace than we used to. For example, my Grandmother was born during horse and buggy days. Now she's jetting all over the world. We're sending people to Mars and beyond.

Just think where we'll be in my lifetime. Can you imagine life without computers? The faster the world becomes the more demanding it is on us as individuals.

We all don't have our priorities straight. Many think that career/money is all that matters.

The first thing you need to work on is your trust issue.

There is a better way.

Answer 2

I believe it is possible that you have less distractions than other people but more importantly, most people have instincts about other people and will only give when the other person has become vulnerabale to them. If you are so guarded with who you trust, others may perceive that mistrust and make a mental note and move on to other things in their life. Relationships only happen because we become entangled in one another's lives. The only way to entangle oneself in anothers life is to be involved and preoccupied with many activities and concerns of another. If your job doesn't offer you a worthy challenge, try working part-time for more money and volunteer for the other part doing more fulfilling work. Maybe with a more comple life, you will find common interests with those you wish to establish an entangled relationship with.

Answer 3

It shows that you are unable to attract people and be desirable. I think you should start working for a higher paying job which means you have to improve your abilities. Just sitting there and complaining is not going to change anyone. The easiest thing is to change yourself. Become more qualified, mature and more positive minded. The change will reflect in your face and people will be attracted to you.

Answer 4

First have confidence in yourself. Its nothing bad in you...it is something lacking in THEM. People tend to value less, whatever they get easily; trust, love, money, sex, education, friendship, relationship etc. But they do care, if they get any thing with little difficulty or extra effort. Put price on your trust, love and friendship. Don't just throw it on any one. You'll be surprised, how same people will change their stance towards you.

Answer 5

This is just a maybe thing- but I suspect sometimes you want to take too much of your friends' time. They may want to be friends but not spend too much time with one person. Sometimes people need a lot of shallow friendships before they find others to spend a lot of time with or be best friends.

Answer 6

What exactly is it that will make you happy in your life ?

Make a list of those things and then get on with the business of positive living instead of this negativity spin.

Answer 7

You must be a" bummer "to them.....try not to expect so much out of friendship....everyone in some way thinks they are better or more unique than other people...just the way things are............"different strokes for different folks"...........

Answer 8

staying busy and active helps me forget all my worries and just live life

Answer 9

are you drunk? what aer you talking about?