What the signs of a man having a good woman and what do the man have to do to keep her eyes from wondering?

Question

I really don't know what to look for in a good woman that's going to stick by my side thru the thick and thin times.I'm 44 years old and i would like to be sure that i have the right ideas about the lady that i choose to be my mate.I can't put up with anymore women behaving good in the beginning of the relationship then after a while the real person comes out and it seems like they put their man on the back burner and start putting their friends first.Is there any young good ladies out their these days that's willing to give a good man their all?I'm been making some bad choices the past few years.What do i look for in a nice lady now,and what do i say to her that's nice without getting slapped?Ladies,describe the good characters that i need to start looking for.

Answer 1

Well i am being genuine in my answer, however, the way that you presented this question is a little confusing.You are 44 years of age, have you ever had a ?mate? DO YOU MEAN WIFE, ? DO you mean you want to meet a good woman? TO STICK BY YOU THICK OR THIN, ? What is your nationality,or race?
As far as women behaving good in the beginning, and then after a while the "real person " COMES OUT" well, from what i am reading and my personal observation of the way you explained it is, "YOU" are not communicating clearly, and someone is reading the right signals,incorrectly..

Your good woman may need to find out if "you" are the Good Man, she wants,



ALL OF US, SINGLES, AT FIRST PUT THE BEST FOOT FORWARD, (NICE, ATTENTIVE, CONSIDERATE, ROMANTIC,) and just wanting it to be "yummy"

iF YOU DO NOT HAVE THINGS IN COMMON, TO KEEP HER INTERESTS AND VISA VERSA,IT WILL START TO FADE, the excitement, etc, and your great good woman, is now busy sometimes , and puts you in whatever order you fit in her life,, If you want to find "a good woman" AS YOU SAID, AND HER STICK BY YOUR SIDE, GET YOURSELF A FEMALE GERMAN SHEP, THEY WILL BE EXACTLY AS YOUR NEED YOU DESCRIBED,

I TRULY DON' T WANT TO OFFEND YOU, IT IS JUST THAT YOU CAN;T TRAIN A WOMAN, BUT YOU CAN A DOG,,

I AM PRETTY SURE, YOU ARE INLOVE WITH LOVE AND WANT TO KEEP IT ( ith your good young woman) LIKE IT WAS IN THE BEGINNING, THEN BE A SWINGIN BACHELOR..LOTS OF BABES, AT YOUR SIDE, ALL THE TIME, OR
LEARN A LITTLE MORE ABOUT WHAT MAKES THE RELATIONSHIP WORK, AND YOU ARE DOING THIS BY POSTING YOUR QUESTION.. PLS BE SURE YOU WANT THE ANSWERS,, AND ARE WILLING TO SEE THE WHOLE PICTURE, AND KNOW THIS, IF HER EYES DONT EVER "WANDER" how will she know you are the right choice?

AS FAR AS THE REAL PERSON COMES OUT REMARK, IT TAKES TIME TO GET TO KNOW SOMEONE, SOMETIIMES A PERSON CAN BE SHY, OR RESERVED UNTIL SHE IS COMFORTABLE THAT YOU ARE "A GOOD MAN", and then, when she is comfortable, and trusting, she relaxes more and then it is not that the "REAL PERSON COMES OUT".. but there is more to her than just hugs, kisses, and goo goo eyes, the real person could turn out to be very interesting and indeed stick by you thick and thin, but it takes time, and seasons, and sick days, bored days, sad days, and glad days, and most of all If you do not have anything in common or have the same dreams and goals, you will eventually fade................and fade,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,
and if you are looking only at what "your needs" are, you are going to have to get AND TRAIN A dog,, that does exactly what you want, and is never going to put anything else first,, US WOMEN, ARE COMPLEX AS YOU ARE, WE HAVE CERTAIN NEEDS, AND HAD A LIFE BEFORE WE MET, YOU, AND IF YOU WANT TO BE SO POSSESIVE, AND HAVE HER DROP EVERYTHING, AND HER OWN CHOICES, AND JUST BE AN EXTENSION OF YOU,, THEN ONCE AGAIN, A GOOD GERMAN SHEP.. FEMALES ARE EVEN MORE LOYAL,

YOU CAN NOT OWN YOUR MATE? (unless it is a --------------D.OG.) you can not own her choices, nor her past, her present, and You can not own her future,WHEN THE RELATIONSHIP REALLY BEGINS, IF YOU BOTH WANT THE SAME KIND OF RELATIONSHIP AND LIFE,, IT WILL HAPPEN







You can only own your memories and what you choose to think, and want,
A good character does not mean that your love of your life,, loses herself in the relationship, she still has her own choices,, yet hopefully, if you are right for each other, you will share, give and take, and most of all be williing to l
listen and learn about eaach other and each others needs,,
and if you both are the right answer, for each other, than it can be the "mate"

YOU ARE LONGING FOR,
GOOD LUCK,

Answer 2

I judge my men by the relationship that they have with their Mothers. Why not try it in reverse, watch your potential mate interact with her Father. If she loves him and respects him, chances are she will be able to love and respect her mate.

Remember that a relationship is a two way street. It takes two to make it and two to break it. If you learn to share in the responsibility no matter how good or bad you are half way there.

As for "behaving good in the beginning", that is something that we are all guilty of. If you continue to treat her the way that you treated her "in the beginning" she will continue to respond the same way. A woman can only do to a man, what the man allows himself to except.

Perhaps you said it best, you have "made some bad choices". Choose to treat a woman like a woman and she will act like a woman. I wouldn't say that we "change"...we adapt to what our men do to us and for us. You give we give...you take we break.

I could go on and on about this, but there isn't enough time and space here. Good luck in your search for a mate.

Answer 3

Sounds like you've had some bad luck.
I'm 44 and Married female, BUT maybe I can help.
1st of all you should by now know what to say without getting slapped, if your still getting slaped then you havn't learned. LOL
On the 1st few dates if you grab her butt and try to stick your tounge down her throat your going to get slaped.(I'd slap you myself).
Holding hands, your arm around her waist, and a sweet kiss on the cheek is going to get her attention...
Showing a woman that Chilvery is NOT dead is wonderfull.
A Woman loved to be treated like woman....Respected,Protected with tender loving care.
If you both find that you like each other and want to maybe start a relationship...you BOTH need to be straight up with each other.
What you want/expect out of a relationship. and
She should do the same with you.
Do you want a guys night out..?
Will she have a girls night out?
Remember unless your dead, your NOT blind.
This goes for married folks too.
Remember a woman has had her friends before you walked in.
You can't just start datiing and say..OK, now I"m #1 and your FRIENDS are just whenever.
Inotherwords acting like a jellous babboon.
Hope I've helped a bit.

Answer 4

Every man has a diffrent idea about a good woman. For some it is sex everyday, or keeping up the house, good cook, good caregiver...etc. What do you really want? Make it clear to that person. Every one puts their best foot forward at the begining of a relationship. that's the hard thing. There are plenty of girls out there that need to be loved but most of them are hidden and afraid to get hurt. It's the women who put themselves out there that you need to watch out for.

Answer 5

For me ...my guy has to share some of my likes and dislikes just like do his...is willing to go out with him and do wht he likes. And he does the same for her.....they are always together....If he wants to go out with his friends...then I tend to "wonder" why? It shows me he is still a little immature about his responsiblities at home..My children are grown and out on their own...I am glad ..this way I can devote my time to my guy. Be yourself...dont try any "stupid" pick up lines...at your age it would only make you look foolish...

A mature man who is confident and acts confident is a real turn on....Good Luck

Answer 6

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