How do you tell a woman with a mustache that ...well...it's not good that she has a mustache???

Question

I feel bad for her. It's her right I guess. But...you know how people are. I guess I am used to it. Yet it is NOT attractive. How hard would it be to shave or wax or even get laser treatment>>>yet I don' t want to hurt her feelings as she is nice.

She is a coworker...in her 50s or something..not a 'girl'...and no i don't want to have a relationship with her...but she's a nice lady. I don't talk to her much anymore because I have been depressed so that makes it even harder.

Answer 1

well, this is a tough one and I see your dilemma. I appreciate you being sensitive to this. I think you should take her out and talk to her.. ask her if she realizes that it is obvious and if she wants to find some other alternatives.. If you have a friendship with her, then this will be easy and she will respect you for it.. There are ways she can combat this, including,.but not limited to, waxing, and laser treatment. tell her that she is beautiful, but she could be more beautiful if she could consider doing this and that you feel she could avoid a lot of ridicule because of this. I hope this helps you. I am Italian and I have this issue at times, I try to wax, or bleach this area, but If my friend told me it was noticeable, I would make more of an attempt. I am pretty and it hasn't come up, but I notice it, so I try to eliminate it or decrease it so it's not quite so noticeable. I applaud you for caring about this girl enough to realize that it may be an issue for her and if you help her with this, she will respect you forever for it. My best to you and your friend.

Answer 2

She probably knows she has a mustache. If she's in her 50s, chances are she has either gone through (or is going though) menopause and is growing one because of that, or she could have had a hysterectomy. My grandmother did, and has a horrible mustache. LOL

This lady knows she has a mustache and probably isn't willing to do anything about it. Even the most ignorant women know what waxing/shaving is. Maybe it really doesn't bother her.

If I were you, I wouldn't say anything...it's not hurting you because she has one, is it?

Answer 3

Well, you don't say how you know this woman, whether she's a girlfriend or a stranger or co-worker or aunt or whatever, and that makes a lot of difference on how you tell her or whether you tell her at all. Odds are she knows she has a moustache and may know how unattractive it is, so telling her may be "rubbing salt in the wound". On the other hand, if she may truly not know, you may comment on other women and their moustaches as you go about ya'll's day, or see a picture or such that has a woman with a moustache, and comment on that picture. If she says she hates her moustache too, you can act surprised to notice such. That may sound very elementary, but peoples' emotions are some of the most elementary characteristics of their being, and you're being sensitive to what may make her feel better may be all you need to get it across to her how she looks, if you need to at all. God Bless you.

Answer 4

I think advising her that her mustache is not attractive is akin to asking someone with Parkinson's to please stop shaking. Unless you know the person well, you have no way of knowing what difficulties she has. Perhaps it is a hormonal issue, but then again, imagine if she were clinically depressed.
I realize that you mean well, but telling her it is unattractive just means that you want her to change because you don't like it. Why is the way you think better than the way she thinks?
Of course, you probably don't want to be mean about it and think that perhaps she doesn't realize what it looks like. In that case, there is probably some underlying issue; as you point out, it must be pretty obvious to her.
My advice would be to get to know her better and find out what she is really like. At the worst, you might find a way of introducing a way to help her get rid of it and, at best, you might find that she is just fine as she is.

Answer 5

An idea:. Write an annonimous note in her purse telling her that you saw her in Walmart (or somewhere public like that, so she won't feel it is a co-worker) and that you think she looks really great. But the mustache is the only flaw.

I would never never never tell a co worker that something is wrong with her appearence unless we are 'sisters' close to one another. Really, she would be hurt forever.

Answer 6

If she is in her 50's she knows she has a mustache. Just leave it alone... if she does anything besides laser it will come back thicker everytime. Maybe she doesnt know about laser treatment....

Answer 7

Maybe she doesn't care about such petty things, as apparently you do? Maybe she is above that, and is worrying about bigger things? Maybe she truly believes that beauty resides within. Don't be shallow dude. Anyways, mustaches are great for storing little snacks when she gets a little hungry.

Let it go.

Answer 8

How do you tell a woman with a mustache that ...well...it's not good that she has a mustache???

just say......."Excuse me Madame....that is a mighty fine mustache you're sportin'... but you have remnants of lunch on it...so ya might want to go to the car wash and wash it."


*don't ya think that will work????

Answer 9

If she is a good friend, just talk to her about it. If not, you may want to talk to one of her girlfriends if you are afraid of offending her. If you are a good friend, better that it come from a place of concern, than from someone who comments in repulsion. Many people are shallow, just don't be an insensitive jerk if you bring it up. Think about what you say if you are going to say anything.

Answer 10

You have to make fun of someone else that has a mustache while you are around her and maybe she will stop to think about herself.