My bf went to mutrle beach w/ his family and called me before he left. He said that it was for a week. Well Half the week is over and he still hasn't called me or txt. Should I be worried? or mad?
btw do you think i should dump him? He has known me for 1yr but has never held my hand or really ever kind of held me or anything.... (we're in JH... so the only thing we've done is slow dance at dances....) at one time, my friend was telling him it might be a good idea if he just broke up w/ me and then he started mentioning that there are like 7 other girls he could go out w/ and he can't see himself breaking up w/ me
help please?? I'm confused..... and on top of all that I have a friend (yes a guy) who is just a friend, doesn't want to go out but he wants to makeout w/ me.
I need help here people
2006-07-10 14:53:49 · 23 answers · asked by Miss Hawt Feet 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hes a loser and don't make out with a guy for that reason have some magnetism and connection or interest.. the guy should have called you by now hes having fun and being inconsiderate. if u went wouldn't u want to let him know step by step how ur day is going and the fun ur having or not or wotever .. so hes a loser threatening u in a way that ur history as there are women on the waiting list that is so egotistical and who needs insincerity .. has your folks show u love and respect? accept nothing less than..
2006-07-10 14:58:59 · answer #1 · answered by gypsygirl731 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am also in JH and I have a bf that I've had since Valentines day, and he hasn't held my hand or anything yet either. I don't think u should be worried, some JH guys just aren't ready for that they are too shy and worry about how u'd react if they did hold ur hand. Ask him if he will hold ur hand, if he is a little shy then u make the effort. Also just remember it is only JH there are a billion more guys left for u to date before u find the one u want. It's summer, and he can't see u or call u every day he's with his family, and not every guy wants to hang out ALL THE TIME. It isn't like ur gonna marry him tommorow u have time to just have fun, u don't need to be a hands on, call everyday couple. Also don't make out with the other guy (JH shouldn't be that seriouse especially if u aren't even romantically involved with this guy).
2006-07-10 15:07:29 · answer #2 · answered by politicaltnt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm the frick down first off. You are in junior high, and im guessing 7th grade because thats when the magic light comes on in dudes that arms the penis, dont say its BS because i have been there and the only thing on a 6-8th graders mind is sex, sex jokes, sex magazines, videos, ect. Ok now time to get down to the real buisness:
A: you dont need a b/f now, you can have one but its only for convenience, its nothing serious.
B: Making out, touching, sexing, or any physical contact of any time at your age is just nasty and i dont advise it because it will seriously throw you off track ( been there done that and it will trust me)
C: dont dump the dude because he hasnt called you, there is a thing called roaming charges that will kill the bill
D: if this kid has 7 girlsmore than likely he has already been looking other ways than you so if you want to dump him just do it like i said this is a middle school relationship and is not techincally real.
E: stick to slow dances please, the world isnt ready to see middle schoolers macking in public
2006-07-10 15:24:48 · answer #3 · answered by Sparky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Don't worry.... never worry. That's the last thing you need to feel.
We all play different roles in life....friends, children with parents, students, and romantic partners. It's helpful to remember that each of these roles has it's time and place.
You are too young to have a committed romantic relationship. Why do I say that, when you feel the way you do? Because romance builds over time and requires both people to stand on their own two feet, while enjoying time together.
You have your life, and your boyfriend has his. The time you may spend together may be nice, but fretting about it when you are apart is really neglecting the other things you need to do. Forget that he's not calling. He's busy with his family, and you need to be busy with your own, rather than chasing more boys.
Men go nuts for women who are self-reliant - good grades, good athletic skills, and plenty too busy with other things. During your boyfriend's absence focus on your summer work, your room (keep it clean) and your exercise and sports program. Believe it or not, these all build your self-esteem which boys go for every time.
When your boyfriend returns, be pleasant, but not needy, and remember what a good time you had catching up on things when you weren't spending time with him. Believe me, he'll notice.
Good luck. And be patient. You have a long time before you need a full romance. Keep focused on your own family, your reading (even during summer!) and doing what your parents tell you to do (no matter how dumb it seems).
Andy
2006-07-10 15:09:29 · answer #4 · answered by Andy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie...
First of all if you're in JH you're probably what...12 or 13? Listen I am old enough to be your mother so let's pretend that this is a mother to daughter talk.
This guy didn't hang the moon so kick him to the curb - don't be desperate for any guy. The right guy will come along and will want to be with you.
The second guy that wants to make out with you, but just be friends is a total jerk - don't give him the satisfaction of using you - because that is exactly what he wants to do.
Save your heart for the right guy - trust me there is someone out there - just don't be in a hurry to find it.
But back to the first guy...just let him go...if he were interested he would've called you, but he didn't...let that be a clue.
Good Luck - Remember you're are worth a lot more than what these guys see you as.
Now as your pretend-mother - go clean your room - just kidding. : )
Stay confident.
2006-07-10 15:01:56 · answer #5 · answered by Wanna-be-Dear-Abby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to have a DTR (Define The Relationship) conversation with both of these guys. If you've been in a relationship with guy #1 for that long, you should have a right to know whether or not its going to go somewhere. As for guy #2, you'd probably better set up some boundaries. Especially if things are going to get serious with guy #1. But whatever happens, you have a lot of time to decide what you want. Don't jump into anything that you aren't ready for. Good luck!
2006-07-10 15:00:49 · answer #6 · answered by miss_freakin_amazing 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First guy (who just a friend) is into friends with benefits all the rewards but none of the issues of having a relationship giving him rthe ability to makeout with you and then makeout with another girl when your not around.stay far away,yes it can be fun but it causes lots of problems,don't go there untill he is ready for a relationship.
This is about your bf-You need to realize part of being in a relationship is trust if you can't trust your bf to go away for a weekend you need to dump him.It is not fair to him or you.He has probably not made a move cuz of two reasons
1)he is too nervous
2)he is not sure if you want him too
In this cause you need to make the first move ask if he'd like to come over to your house after school and watch a movie ,not to romantic try something like for richer or poorer if you are both allowed to watch pg-13 movies,it has tim allen and christy alley it is very funny.The slowly start movie closer maybe star a little away ask him if he wants a drink or get up to put the movie in and get little closer to him then you were when you get up each time you move get closer ,watch his body language does he look nervous then move away if not slowly stroke his hand with one finger ,gently then slowy put your hand into his ,pay attention to what he does,if he nervous scoot away and wait till next time you hang out to try this again. if he seems ok with it after a couple minutes like 5 minutes not too long not too short remove your hand and set it next to his.Look at him ,give him a quick but encouraging smile like 2 or 3 seconds and then watch the movie..Most guys will get the hint and not long after that will do the same you did and start holding your hand.After the movie is over tell him that your glad he made the first move.It always helps a guys ego and his nerves when we females allow the men to think it was their idea even if it wasn't.Trust me it works with my guy.If you ever wnant to chat put your yahoo adress down and I'd be happy to help.We girls have to stick together.
2006-07-10 15:18:53 · answer #7 · answered by movin12006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You boy friend is completely normal and you shouldn't dump him. You are only in junior high so it sounds like taking it easy on holding hands and taking it very slow is very smart. Your friend doesn't sound like a friend at all if he just wants to make out. You don't need to worry about having a serious relationship until later high school or even until after college. Just relax and have fun in school and with your interests.
2006-07-10 15:01:02 · answer #8 · answered by mattwbell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's junior high!! You shouldn't be physical with him anyway. Not holding hands is a little bizarre. Think like this...you are like what 12? This isn't going to be the guy you will marry...I would say move on and don't let some immature BOY bring you down!!!
2006-07-10 14:59:30 · answer #9 · answered by bebelucy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yo bf prolly didnt have any service or anything and didnt have access to another phone..but u should talk 2 him and see what he is feeling and tell him how u feel about yall relationship..if it doesnt work out, then u will jus have 2 move on..and dont make-out with that guy if he's not ur boyfriend..he is prolly jus tryin ta use u fo his own pleasure..if he really likes u,then yall shud go out..if yall do go out,watch how he acts and if he just wants to make-out all tha time,then he doesnt reli like u
2006-07-10 15:06:46 · answer #10 · answered by Britt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋