2006-07-10 14:44:39 · 14 answers · asked by boxergirl 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's hard to break up because you've invested time and emotions in the relationship. Even though you know it needs to be done, breaking up is like failing and no one ever wants to fail.
However, if it's time to call a halt, do it. Don't invest any MORE time or emotions in a no-win situation.
You'll probably never "get over it" in the sense of forgetting about someone you thought you loved, but it won't hurt after a while. You'll be too busy building a relationship with someone else and applying all the lessons you learned while involved with your prior boyfriend. You'll grow and mature and eventually find the right guy. But never forget that old saying, "You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince charming."
2006-07-10 14:52:33 · answer #1 · answered by CarolO 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard because your severing the emotional ties to someone. This is never easy and often many people delay the break-up because of fears of being alone. The thought of living without that emotional tie you've grown used to can be frightening and seem lonely.
However, if you know its the right thing to do, then you have to do it. Breaking up comes down to respecting yourself (and your partner if respect is deserving) enough to know that the right decision is to break it off.
It hurts, but you will get over it. It may take time, especially if your prior relationship was long. It's OK to be single for awhile to overcome your past relationship before moving on. Take your time and be honest with yourself and you'll know when your ready to find someone else.
That someone special is out there waiting for you. Good Luck!
2006-07-10 21:51:51 · answer #2 · answered by chalis913 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Off course you do! Believe me, I have been in situations that I thought would just kill me. I have learned something important though, from each relationship you obtain knowledge...this knowledge can be used to determine what is suitable and unsuitable for your next relationships. Often times feeling lonely is the main reason why break ups are so hard, perhaps enjoying a favorite pastime will help out...and perhaps even dating again will help out.
2006-07-10 21:49:57 · answer #3 · answered by ucyimadiva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is real love, not infactuation, not lust, or to avoid being lonely you will always have feelings for that person. Breaking up is hard because you have become use to things, the fear of having to start over is overwhelming, especially if you have been in a reltaionship for a long time- to fear of investing that kind of time into somebody and then have to walk away, or be hurt......... But if you really know it's time to leave- just go, the person God intended you to be with will arrive eventually. keep your head up
2006-07-10 21:49:52 · answer #4 · answered by nexus2k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes is hard to change a habit you've been doing and thinking would go on for ever but getting to the break up is hard cus you have to tell yourself you were wrong and start over again . time is the only thing that heals for you and it gets easier and before you know it your in love again or just happy being yourself
2006-07-10 21:54:27 · answer #5 · answered by wilco254 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's because no one wants to be alone. No matter how independent you may think you are we all want to be loved and cared about. It takes time to get over such things. You need to give yourself time to mourn the relationship and in time your heart will heal and you will be ready to start anew with someone else.
2006-07-10 21:47:59 · answer #6 · answered by bebelucy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you will get over it the sooner that you get over. Meaning the sooner you let loose and start networking again making yourself available and open to conversation, basically mingling, you will see that you still have it and be ready to share your best side with someone new!
2006-07-10 21:47:22 · answer #7 · answered by Saude! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i'm sorry to hear that but you will find another true love if you have to break up over something that happened it was never meant to be but trust me and hang in their you will get over it. it might be hard but you'll find someone better.
2006-07-10 22:09:52 · answer #8 · answered by babygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its so hard becuz u think that u are in luv with that person and u believe that the relationship is gonna work,it hurts becuz ur feelings are deep and u have been with em so much u dnt want to be without em.
2006-07-10 21:49:49 · answer #9 · answered by pinkranger 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard..but you cant stay in a relationship if you dont love the person it will just make things worst... and it will pay off in the end
2006-07-10 21:48:48 · answer #10 · answered by sexylady4ever05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋