my parents are wierd, we don't spend much time together, about 3 hours a week, max. And since they're always working, i have to take care of the house, make dinner and stay ontop of my homework. And i do it everyday of the year, EVEN, When I'm sick. And they act like they rule the house, when in reality i could easily change the locks so they can't get in.I maintain the house, when i do see my parents we do almost nothing but arguee, and i've been stronger than them since i was 10 so they stopped trying to beat me up as punishment, They may make the money, but i will be doing that myself soon. I want to just leave my house early (17) and let them see what happens to the inards of "their" house and what little relationship they have left. I really don't know when they come home every night, i just know that during the night i hear them about.Is it normall to resent them this much? How bout morrally correct for them to make me take care of the house for little more than food as payment?
2006-07-10 14:32:56 · 16 answers · asked by dancarrasquillo@sbcglobal.net 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It is perfectly normal to resent them. You be insane if you didn't.
2006-07-10 14:47:36 · answer #1 · answered by Briana 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry for your suffering. You are growing up the same way I did. But I got no food as a reward. I joined the Navy at 17 and never looked back. I do not visit my Fathers grave, and rarely my mother. I graduated high school at 97 lbs. and 5' 6 ". Things are always darkest before the dawn. I spent my whole life trying to find out where I am and where to start, but always lost. There is no good answer. Seeking help from any kind of counseling might place you on the right track. It is too late for me, but counseling might be beneficial for you. Not only the people with the problem need counseling, most of the people that they affect need counseling to understand what the HELL happened. GOOD LUCK, and I am now very sad, just remembering how I ended up this way. What you are going through is NOT NORMAL and I wish I could tell your parents how much they are hurting your life.
2006-07-10 14:45:25 · answer #2 · answered by Joseph L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well see it this way, maybe what they are doing is wrong, and i think what they are doing is wrong, but use this time to make you a stronger person and go out and get a job part time and save your money so that when you are 18 you can just leave. see if you had not gone threw all of this even though it is sad, it has only made you a better person, and you will find it easier to be a stable reliable person in life for youself and who ever you end up with, as well as trustworthy. thier mistakes are making you a stronger person. if they wont let you get a job you could always get your self claimed incouragable with the courts wich means you are considered an adult and your parents have no control anymore. either way you only have one more year so i would just make the best of it and then get out of there. good luck!
2006-07-10 14:41:11 · answer #3 · answered by Blonds Rock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm gonna ramble now! I had prblms w/my parents when I was young too. They always made everything my fault even when I could see they were acting outrageous especially my mother, I wound up on drugs for 6 yrs or btr cause I never had the support or self confidence to do anything else. so of course after that it was easy to take the blame & be given the blame for all that happened.
I hope your not & praise you for being drug free
If I had been drug free I would have not forgotten all the things that were so clear at the time, and I could have moved on instead of coming back believing that my mother missed me & wanted a new realationship w/me. And now shes been doing the same thing to me for the last 3 yrs, ive been putting up w/every ounce of it too cause she still uses that It's not my fault it's yours, I can't explain how she works that so well.
So I wish I would've went w/my gut & left & not looked back, why is my heart bigger than theirs? I would say more power to you especially if you know your in the right!! Go w/your instincts and I hope you have more self respect for yourself than I did, you can save yourself some heartbreak in the future. They always said blood is thicker than water, but I have never been able to find that true.
2006-07-10 15:16:31 · answer #4 · answered by North of Heaven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry things are tough for you. Yes, you must find a way not to resent them, or it will eat you up. I'm not saying that they're right, and you're wrong.
I was in a similar situation back then. It's frustrating when your parents aren't as mature. Just don't let bitterness get the best of you. Move out when you're eighteen or graduate from high school. They'll really be screwed up when you're gone, and you look back and wish you'd done more to help them once you get over the bitterness.
2006-07-10 14:41:31 · answer #5 · answered by chdoctor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do they not see that you obviously need to have some mom & dad time.
we all take advantage of the best things in life & sometimes we realize it when its too late.
unfortunately, they havent realized this for most of your life. its not the cleaning & caring for the house that they will truely miss, that will be a simple thing, but what they will realize is that they have missed your life...
I have a 17 year old daughter & we are really good friends. We are about to go see Pirates of the Caribbean. Last weekend her best friend turned 17 and they had a small party at the lake & they all wanted me there. We have fun together...
That is what they are missing out on...
come over & go with us.... Johnny Depp... baby
show them your question on this site & see if it helps
2006-07-10 15:02:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's wrong to resent them. Take this as a lesson and hopefully when you are ready to have a family you won't repeat the cycle. Do what you need to do to take care of the house so they have nothing to complain about and more importantly, think of school. That will be your outlet. Education will be key for you.
2006-07-10 14:38:26 · answer #7 · answered by charmed_4x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a big problem,but a common problem.Maybe you like there paying for everything,too much.You need to realize how hard it is out here. Bite your toung and Waite.Your time is coming.No from what you tell us,thing's are far from right at your house.But,don't be jumping the gun.Don't burn your bridges before you have another one built.Good luck.
2006-07-10 14:45:27 · answer #8 · answered by Wishee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called emancipation and it's legal for minors who have it together when their parents don't. It's a legal remedy for abusive relationships and it separates you legally from their control. This also means that you have few rights for continued support, but some states have a mechanism to help until you're 18.
2006-07-10 14:43:03 · answer #9 · answered by Lonnie J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sympathize with you because I have always been the one to have to take care of the house when I was younger and I'm the youngest of 3 kids and the only girl. Take it from someone who knows....when you move go far away.
2006-07-10 14:40:57 · answer #10 · answered by BbyGrl80 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree it sucks, but when you get out and are paying bills and trying to make it on your own, it gets really tough. I'd suggest sticking it out until at least you graduate high school if you haven't already and make smarter life choices than your folks have. Always remember to treat your own kids better than your mom and dad have you.
2006-07-10 14:37:42 · answer #11 · answered by April T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋