i have found atleast 4 pairs of womens underwear in my house in the last 3 months and i know its not cause he is cheating because i know whose underwear they are i have also found pictures of my female friends and family made into collages right along with the panties....how common is it for a married man to steal other womens underwear...im not bad looking i am 25 years old and 110 lbs we have a fairly active sex life and he has never asked anything odd or freakish of me he is not the player type and is fairly shy but we have been together for 11 years and married for 3 years..he says it has nothing to do with me but he cant seem to tell me why?? He has also developed a methamphetamine habit in the last year that i am dealing with as well and dont know if this type of behavior could be related to drug use or not ?? please help before i file for divorce i am extremely hurt by all of this!!!
2006-07-10 14:06:53 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Cars & Transportation ➔ Car Audio
If he has a merth problem then underwear is the least of your problems. Get him clean or you get out, especially if you have kids in the home.
2006-07-10 14:11:36 · answer #1 · answered by amglo1 4 · 3⤊ 4⤋
Well dearest, methamphetamine is a drug used as an upper, that strippers have been known to use, to keep them going from their normal day jobs that start at 8am and hustling and dancing until 2am at night. So he could be getting his supply from them. Also, remember the 'hooker' scenario - almost every kind of hooker, streetwalker on up uses some sort of drug. Meth is probably not the only thing he is using. Panties are taken as trophies by men. I once had a pair that I got from a hooker. A young, and very sexy hooker that I also tried a substance with.
I hope in your sex life you consider using protection. If you're not, and you now begin to, your husband will want to know why, and it will all have to come out into the open. It might be good for you to speak to a counselor.
2006-07-10 14:48:48 · answer #2 · answered by Fun and Games 4 · 1⤊ 5⤋
GET THE HELL OUT!
That plain enough for you? Stealing panties is what serial rapists and killers do. Making collages is just plain creepy. This guy's off his nut. I don't even have collages of my kids, never mind a bunch of chicks I barely know. (let alone their panties)
The drug abuse may be a coping mechanism to help him drown out the bad thoughts, but it will only work for so long. Eventually he will act on his impulses (to rape or kill) if he doesn't get professional help.
How he treats you is no indication, whatsoever, of what he is doing outside your home. Many social deviants maintain normal home lives which leave the spouse completely unaware of their true nature. That does not mean that you are safe.
2006-07-10 14:18:30 · answer #3 · answered by normobrian 6 · 1⤊ 5⤋
wow, I'm really sorry. I really don't think that that's common at all. Tell him that if he won't give u a logical answer- no matter how stupid it is- then u will either file for a divorce or move away temporarily. Even if he is stealing otehr women's underwear that's just wrong. Hope this helps : )
2006-07-10 14:11:27 · answer #4 · answered by lostluver14 2 · 1⤊ 5⤋
Drugs? I would say get help.
Stealing panties, I wouldn't touch a girl's panties unless I have some attraction toward her. But, that's me, I'm a one-gal kinda guy.
2006-07-10 14:12:13 · answer #5 · answered by Mickey S 2 · 1⤊ 5⤋
Nah, he's just a pervert...
He must like to sniff at them and probably chew on them for a while and then let them in the drawer.
It's a pretty basic instinct, I wouldn't worry a lot.
But, hey, maybe he is just training to be a hound for the cops in case one of your friends disappear!!!
2006-07-10 14:14:23 · answer #6 · answered by Transgénico 7 · 0⤊ 5⤋
There is something wrong, from a mans view I will say there is more to it than you know. Get out now, turn your life over to Jesus and get to a good spirtual church. Put your life in Gods hands.
2006-07-10 14:19:54 · answer #7 · answered by Josh S 7 · 1⤊ 6⤋
Bring in the stretcher have him wrapped up and sent away... Gimme a P Gimme an S Gimme a Y gimme a C gimme an H gimme an O...
PSYCHO
PSYCHO
Definitely do not bring any kids into the world with him.....
2006-07-10 14:11:59 · answer #8 · answered by JDINFLA 3 · 1⤊ 6⤋
The both of you need counseling. Nothing will change until then.
2006-07-10 14:22:50 · answer #9 · answered by LadyK 3 · 0⤊ 6⤋
Get out while you can! whack-job alert! Open your eyes!!!
2006-07-10 14:11:08 · answer #10 · answered by bunnykillerv 2 · 1⤊ 6⤋