i've been separated from my husband for 4 months, we are filling for divorc.I want to date other men is it too soon? or should I wait for a longer time?
2006-07-10 13:40:17 · 20 answers · asked by euniceart 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
my father dated someone only a few weeks afer divorce and that ended horrible... maybe wait a year, maybe wait 6 months. it depends on how you feel. if you think you're ready, go for it. even if it's just a few short relashonships to have some fun
2006-07-10 13:42:55 · answer #1 · answered by kale 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no right or wrong grieving period for a bad marriage. Depending on your circumstances (length of marriage, was someone unfaithful, are there children...) 4 days, 4 wks, 4 mos or 4 yrs-it's up to you.
I was 42, had a 2 1/2 yr old and the ex had been having an affair since our son was 6 mos. I was separated in Nov, started the paper work in Feb and went out on my 1st date at the end of March. Did I feel like it was too soon? Sure-I was married and faithful but when I looked at HIS timing-I did the math and decided that even if I wasn't divorced, I'd been "single" for 2+ yrs and didn't know it.
FYI: I met my BF of almost 2 yrs on-line. He's wonderful, and faithful and secure. I met him in broad daylight and got to know him VERY well before getting intimate with him I made a promise to myself that I would go for quality over everything and that's exactly what I've got now.
Good luck. Be VERY careful. And remember, the next guy you date will more than likely NOT be the next Mr You. Don't be disappointed but just take your time. It'll be worth it in the long run.
2006-07-10 20:55:46 · answer #2 · answered by nu_shashita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well one factor to consider is the state you live in. Why?? Because if your not leagally divorced some states believe ur still committing adultry. But if your
if one of the lucky ones then my best answer is when ur tired of sitting at home alone, when ur tired of the same old ****. Some people start right after seperation and some wait years, this is ur decision and you have to be able to feel comfortable with yourself before you can feel comfortable with someone else. You'll know when your ready, and don't let anyone push you into dating, even your best friends. Thier not always right!!!
2006-07-10 20:50:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not too soon to date, but just date. Don't make marrige plans, or don't even become serious. Everyone needs some companionship from the other sex (if they are straight). Find someone with the same interests and have a casual relationship. There will be a period that your emotions will run wild. Just be prepared.
2006-07-10 20:43:54 · answer #4 · answered by Dumbass 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are free, sweetheart. You answered me the question about anger and resentment and I am going to answer you this one. I just finished sending my husband a letter asking him for our separations. It is over! Now you know where my destructive emotions were coming from. You are free now and may start to meet new friends. Don't be afraid. If you think that people are going to talk about you, they will, but just remember that if doesn't matter what, they will always find a reason to talk. If you just stay going out with your girlfriends, they will say that you are lesbian, if you don't date anybody, they will say that you are hiding something, if you start to date a man they are going to say that you had him while you were with your husband. Live your life, be careful, but enjoy each one of your days.
2006-07-13 12:29:14 · answer #5 · answered by Candy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on if you still love and have feelings for your husband. some people that file for divorce still have feelings for the other. but if there are no feelings at all I'd say start seeing other men when you want too.
2006-07-10 20:45:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give him any leverage. Wait until the divorce is final.
That is the only reason I would suggest waiting.That doesn't mean you can't go out and meet people, though.
2006-07-10 20:53:15 · answer #7 · answered by Sara B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if it was me. I would have already dated before now if the opportunity came up. I would think 2 months would be a good "grace" period.
2006-07-10 20:44:22 · answer #8 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what Honey go out with that new man if it makes you feel better then go out a 2nd time...But it is a little early to fall in love so watch out...You know they treat you pretty good at first..
2006-07-10 20:46:43 · answer #9 · answered by canuticklemepink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on why you separated in the first place. If he broke your heart and you are very angry or pining for him, I would wait. Otherwise, go for it. Let's face it, nobody died here.
2006-07-10 20:43:41 · answer #10 · answered by butrcupps 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋