Ok. I thought i had this great thing with a guy. We weren't officially going out. But we talked and flirted as if we were. Then i found out that he had just started to go out with this other girl. I was heart broken. So i told myself not to like him anymore. It worked, or at least i thought it did. But then he sent me this e-mail about how he screwed up and he still wants to be really good friends. And how he doesn't blame me if i don't want to go out with him ever again. So it made me think if i do still like him. I have been thinking about him a lot.....? I am so confused!
Then on top of that. He sent me another e-mail saying that he still liked me and hoped that i still liked him. I don't know if it was a line.... or if he really means it. It is breaking my heart all over again.
2006-07-10 13:35:57 · 39 answers · asked by nobody is home 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh yah. And his name is Tommy. He's a really great guy too.
2006-07-10 13:38:18 · update #1
And i don't want to date. Plus he is still going out with the other girl
2006-07-10 13:44:12 · update #2
A lot of these ppl are probably right.for those of u who r reading this ,this is the great buthole tommy himself.what i did was wrong.it wasnt the best decision ever made by me.and now i myself is confused just as muh as you are.this thing i started with this other girl was very unexpected.but all you people hav to know this is not completely my fault.the girl who is asking this question had told me that i couldnt call her or talk to her or see her as much as i usually do.she said things were not going to work out because she didnt want things happening.so in my confused mist of things i went and made a stupid decision.because this girl had told me that it wasnt going to work out (a girl who was practicaly my girl friend and i really did want things to work out)i decided i would have to move on even though this girl meant so much to me.i figured if i didnt mean the same to her then why bother? i was suppose to go c her one night but upon my arrival to the place i received a call saying that she had left.not moments later i received another call this time from another girl,offering to go see a movie with her.i accepted thinking nothing of it except for a saturday night plan.after hanging out with this girl and flirting endlessly.we finally decided to go out.although it was more her decision than mine.i still felt terrible for what i had did to the other girl(asker)but i knew i couldnt lie to her for that wuld only make things worse.i am now confused at what to do because i still have feelings for both of these girls but im not sure if the one i am not dating has any for me.wich isnt necisarilly a bad thing but it still hurts me.so dear asker and friend i do not know what to tell you.i will tell you this.the guy still has feelings for you and still wants you to be his friend.he screwed up but not in a completely bad way.if things dont work out with his girl friend than he doesnt want to date u just because he got dumped or just because he needs to make someone jealous or just because he needs a girl friend...its because he truly does care about you and he still wants to make you happy even if in the process he gets hurt.
2006-07-11 06:40:22 · answer #1 · answered by scottishmohawk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When u come into this relationship, you have to think twice. You ask yourself what kind of relationship are you looking for?
Try to understand the situation first, whether this guy is going out with normal other girls, it is nothing wrong as you and him is not an official bf and gf. even thought he is your bf, he still have the right to have own friends but of course there is a limitation.
But if you think this guy is cheating you, please leave, otherwise you will not be happy.
As yourself whether you are really love him or not and whether your feeling tell you that he loves you? If yes, try to give both of you a chance to make the things work. If either one not, please give up and look for better relationship.
Good luck!
2006-07-10 13:51:16 · answer #2 · answered by ssnchen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe in the saying that everyone deserves a second chance, but if you have any feeling what so ever that he might just be playing you then you shouldn't get involved with him. The best thing for you to do is pray and ask god if you should give this guy another chance, he is the only person that can answer your question effecently.
2006-07-10 13:47:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate it when guys use the guilt-trip. You said "And how he doesn't blame me if i don't want to go out with him ever again. So it made me think if i do still like him." He's trying to make it seem like you're in the driver's seat, which you are not..trust me. He is. You'll make it too easy for him if you decided to go out with him after what he did.
You thought you had this great thing with this guy...well obviously, he didn't think the same about you when he choose to go out with someone else..sorry to say!
My opinion...don't give him the time of day...He knew you liked him!!! so if he really liked you, he should have went out with you in the beginning!
2006-07-10 14:18:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you known him? How well do you know him?
He hurt you once, do you really really really think he wont do it again? Time and again I have heard this. We men screw up things pretty good, then out of remorse we apologize, ask for a second (or third or trillionth) chance and you gave us that last chance. Only to fall again in the same merry go round.
Best bet? He regrets it, but he will do it again and again. Copy this answer and let him have it. Then wait for his reply. If you want to give him that chance make sure he knows and understands it is only one, this one.
Good luck
2006-07-10 13:43:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really means something if he is willing to leave someone else to be with you. Dont think too much into it. He isn't doing this for the purpose of breaking your heart all over again. He's obvously really into you, if you feel the same way then go for it.
2006-07-10 13:44:35 · answer #6 · answered by CB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you found out he is seeing another girl is a Red Flag for you to move on. Listen to your gut instincts and don't cloud your judgment and common sense of the words he use to bring you back.
It is best to move on from now as the pain later on will be worse and take longer to heal. One wise thing to do in the dating scene is to keep company with genuine female friends that you can trust. Girls that know a lot about the lies and tricks a lot of guys use on their girlfriends.
One thing that works for me is that i stick around girls that know a lot of guys. Girls that i can trust and hang out with them when they go out and you will be surprise how this experience have made me wiser in the girls that i approach. For there are genuine people out there that if you are lucky to find them can teach you a lot about relationships.
Another thing that works is to have friends that are divorce and are willing to tell you the pit falls to avoid. I have such a friend and her wisdom is a valuable source for me.
2006-07-10 14:01:37 · answer #7 · answered by Premio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I wouldn't fall for him again. If he did this to you once and you take him back, chances are he will do it again. But if you feel in your heart he is sincere and that you like him a lot and enough to give him a chance go for it! But personally I wouldn't go for it because this only tells you that he's coming back to you because the other girl dumped him!
2006-07-10 13:41:26 · answer #8 · answered by xSilverStarx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's sounds like you guys are really young.
He's keeping the field open and his opportunities fresh. I would be his friend, but no more dating until you get to know him.
If you two were dating and he starting dating someone else.... then that's fine. If there is no commitments or ring, he has the right to see someone else.
2006-07-10 13:40:58 · answer #9 · answered by yadedyah_dc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a fool. A real man knows what he wants and he does his damnedest to take it. If it was you, darlin' he'd have nothing to do with this other girl. Hold out for the real thing.
Something to think about: Are you attracted to a certain 'type' or are you looking for a REAL experience....don't answer now....really think about the ramifications of that.
2006-07-10 13:39:45 · answer #10 · answered by mickeycushman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋