ok. i'm 18. and i met thi28 yr old. we dated for almost a year. we both changed for each other, considering the age factor. i acted more mature, he was rather childish at times. I didn't live with him, but i cooked, cleaned, did his laundry etc. so it felt like my home. About a 2 months ago, he started asking me, r u sure you're ready to settle down, then eventually, he would say i don't think its going to work.wewould try to seperate. but would end right back with each other. we started talking about marriage and kids...which for him i was ready for that, and i'm already a certified pharmacy technician at 18! itsnot like i don't have anything going on for my self. i'm making money...but any wayz. one night while he was sleepin i realized he had hid his phone. so i got it and found out he had another woman. and they were planning a family and she was moving in with him in a few weeks. she's 27. I confronted him, he admitted. And just dumped me for her. i need advise. i'm hurt.
2006-07-10 13:30:47 · 19 answers · asked by kittiekatblue 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sweetheart, consider yourself luck that you didn't marry the butt-head, have a baby and find out when your son is 2 1/2 that your "loving" hubby has been seeing another woman for the past 2 yrs. I'm 45 and this happened to me about 3 yrs ago and it doesn't matter how hold you are or how long you're with someone, to be taken for granted and lead on, when you love someone, is never fun and it's always a little hard. Take it from me, you WILL come out of this WAY ahead of the game and I can almost guaranty that he will dump her in a fashion similar to how he treated you.
I'm living proof that you can come out on the other side of a very painful situation and end up on your feet, with your head held high. Work hard to get established as a pharmacy tech, perhaps a pharmacist, make good money and the guy will follow. You've got a lot of time ahead of you. Don't waste too much on a jerk.
2006-07-10 13:43:06 · answer #1 · answered by nu_shashita 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Chalk this up as a learning experience. Every guy you date, you learn more about what you do and don't want out of relationship. Most 18 yr olds think they are ready for marriage ( i know i did when i was 18) but now at the age of 30, there is no way! A person changes dramatically between the ages of 18-22--these are not the years to make major life decisions. You will be and think totally different in a few years....and hindsight will probably show you that there were red flags you missed in this relationship. The important thing is you listen to those small doubts you have about a person and if it seems wrong, it is!
2006-07-10 20:39:11 · answer #2 · answered by silvertulie2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is obviously a dead beat and I'm sorry you had to waste your time on a guy like this. I know it is hard to get over someone that you loved and did all those things for. That's the way my ex husband was I did everything in my power for him, and he left me for someone else. I'm just glad you did not get married to the man, and then he do that to you; either way it still hurts. This just shows his true side and who's to say he won't do the same thing to his wife? You have alot going for you at a young age, don't let a man change that for you. You'll find someone that will treat you the way you should be treated, and you'll forget about the other guy. Don't let it get you down you did nothing wrong. Good Luck!
2006-07-10 20:43:18 · answer #3 · answered by Lil's Mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh no. I am so sorry this happened to you. I know you are hurt. I wish I knew what to say but all I can offer you is a shoulder to cry on if you need it. Best thing to do I guess is keep yourself busy with work or hobbies or someone else.. maybe a close friend to spend time with. Hard as it seems.. sooner or later you will overcome this hurt and anger. It will take some time, but you can be strong and get past this chapter in your life. Good Luck.
2006-07-10 20:38:13 · answer #4 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is SUPER MESSED UP! Girl I really feel bad for you! Especially because you are 18 and you shouldnt be going thru that type of crap. You need to have fun! I wish I could be young again! I think honestly you messed up because he was much older than you. Be alone and hang with your girls. Then date around when your 'e ready. This time find someone closer to your age. It will be better for you. Keep your head up. I've wasted 4 years on a dead relationship when I was your age. Don't end up like that cuz its even WORSE!
2006-07-10 20:41:54 · answer #5 · answered by BigBrownEyez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he couldn't be honest with you to begin with, then he's not worth it. he should have been decent enough to not string you along. you obviously have got some things going for you, and maybe he wanted someone that was just as immature as he is. don't worry about it! it's hard, but every minute turns in to an hour that turns in to a day, then a week, and month, and before you know it, you're life will move on. he's not worth the heartache. take up a new hobby or something to make the time go by or treat yourself to a vacation!!
2006-07-10 20:34:47 · answer #6 · answered by scorpiotreefrog 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I believe that you should get over him. Because, one he is to old for you and I think he was looking out for you. It seems he doesn't want you to waste your life by settling down. I mean you are only 18. So I think he made the right choice in finding someone his own age. Sorry, but it is fact.
Ta-Ta
2006-07-10 20:35:36 · answer #7 · answered by Need Quite help 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a big Jerk... get over him, he was obviously using you. If you could get him back... maybe call the other and say that you are his friend or something.. and say that you are only 16... Give him the taste of his own medicine... He's is a foul jerk, and he needs to be put down a few steps...
Do something to really set him back... he deserves it.
2006-07-10 20:39:24 · answer #8 · answered by Kristin M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is obviously an a s s hole!!! He used you too. It will definelty take time to get over him. Focus on your job and try to find new things to do or do things youve always wanted to do that you havent done yet. Start dating again. This time try someone a little closer to your age.
2006-07-10 20:33:38 · answer #9 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had a friend in a similar situation. age factor is a big thing people underestimate it. you just have to get over him. that's all. take some time for yourself don't rush into anything. and when your ready look for someone around your age. try finding someone who you can relate too. i.e. is doing their career track like you.
2006-07-10 20:35:41 · answer #10 · answered by Orselo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋