ok my bf is really my type and im only dating him cuz i feel sry for him. (i know that sounds really bad) but he is more of a friend then any thing. how do i brake up with him with out hurting him?
2006-07-10 13:05:27 · 25 answers · asked by Pantera_Lover 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It will not be easy because your relationship can never be the same again. Hopefully he will be mature about it and continue to be your friend... but probably never a close friend again. It's too strange meeting the next boyfriend(s).
Explain to him how you feel. He'll be relieved if he has been wanting to break up with you too, or he'll want another chance.
Realize that most people cannot change. Decide ahead of time if you want to give him another chance or not. Don't string him along any more. Decide and let him know.
I suggest you try to do something nice together first, as friends. Show that you can remain friends. Then break it to him. Be clear and consistent with your message.
2006-07-10 13:12:59 · answer #1 · answered by Plasmapuppy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Damn girl....You're only with him cuz you feel sorry for him.... what kind a friend are you? Just be REAL tell the man this isn't working even if it hurts him at least let him know. I'm sure the truth from you his girl/friend has got to better than finding out by reading yahoo answers. Life is too short people keep saying I don't want to hurt them the truth may sting but at least it's the truth instead some BULL. Give the man some credit he may just be able to give over you.
Kimberly
2006-07-10 20:19:35 · answer #2 · answered by kimberlycan2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not possible to do without hurting him unless he feels the same way. you got yourself into a real rat trap. once you get in it, there's not a safe way out.
break up with him like you would any other guy. the fact you did what you did to him is what is going to end your friendship, not how you decide to break up with him. friend's don't do that to each other.
if you want to keep him as a friend, tell him the 100% truth with the understanding that he may still reject you and hate you for it. you are at his mercy on if he wants to keep you as a friend. apologize and ask this exact question, "can you ever forgive me?" if he says yes, great. if he says no, tell him you understand and you wish the very best for him.
2006-07-10 20:14:34 · answer #3 · answered by Choose Life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two choices, the chicken way where you slowly lose contact with him, or the hard way, the letter or phone call telling him that you just need a break and you would like to remain friends, but never stay friends at first!! He will be too clingy and think it is going to get better --you have to wean him away from you.
2006-07-10 20:11:15 · answer #4 · answered by enigmatic12be 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth. You're not that into him...Not only will it do the trick but it will destroy the guy's ego...Well, if you were dating him because you felt sorry for him, don't you wonder if he wasn't dating you for the same reason? He felt sorry for you? Break up with him as soon as possible so he can find a girlfriend who is really worthy.
2006-07-10 20:09:39 · answer #5 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Panther. Maxim actually gave a pretty good answer to you question I think.
The way to hopefully not hurt his feelings is to tell him that you "don't feel that way for him anymore."
He's allowed to save face, and everybody knows that this happens in life. Feeling go away. Even if you didn't really have them to begin with, that should work for you.
2006-07-10 20:15:41 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him as nicely as you can, don't make him sound undesireable, tell him he's a great guy just not the guy for you and you want him to find someone who is more his cup of tea. he'll live. and also remember you aren't doing him any favors by being with him, in fact if he reads this he'll be truly insulted as he should be, all you are doing is getting in the way of him finding a girl that appreciates him.
2006-07-10 20:12:11 · answer #7 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well go to the movies and sit in the very back and make sure no one can see u, then have hot and wild sex with him, but not too loud, then break up with him when u guys r about to go home so he will at least feel good that he got some sex out of u.
2006-07-10 20:10:05 · answer #8 · answered by lbtgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi dear,
The best soln would be to confront and tell him .It might hurt him but later on he would understand.But remain to be friendly with him.Tell him there is no emotional tie up.U could also introduce him to ur other g/fs.He may just like one of them.
Coool baby!
pradeep
2006-07-11 11:43:53 · answer #9 · answered by pradeep s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its wrong to date someone just because you feel sorry for them, Just sit down somewhere and be honest the longer you wait the more pain and guilt will eat away at you.
2006-07-10 20:10:00 · answer #10 · answered by Neek-Neek 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋