how to break up with your gf?

Question

hey i've been dating this girl i can never see her cause im moving up to reno nevada and she lives in Chico, Ca she knows im moving and still she still will go out w/ me how do i tell her that we cant be together any more cause long distances relationships never last

Answer 1

tell her you met someone else.......a guy, that''''ll get her gone

Answer 2

CONGRATULATIONS for making a responsible decision based on logical thought and being your own man. Long distance relationships are relationships on hold, they are not real.

Breaking up is always hard and what works for one person doesn't always work with another person but here are some tips, that I've picked up from mistakes and successes, maybe some of them will help:

1) Meet early in the day, on a weekend like right after lunchtime 2-3pm.

2) Pick a neutral location, with (NO BEDS lol), etc and not a restuarant, etc. as things might get ugly A public place like a park or a lake, or even a shopping mall food court that's not too busy etc... with some semi-private areas is good. In your car is OK as a last resort.

3) Make sure both of you have transportation if possible, or be in the car parked near her house.

4) Have all of her stuff in your trunk car in a box.

5) Do not tip off your friends or her friends beforehand if possible

6) Just tell her that your relationship has been really fun and awesome, and you have strong feelings for her, but a long distance relationship is not for you.

7) She will get upset. Let her and be silent and listen to everything she says.

8) The only reason you can give that she can't legitimately argue with is that this is what you really want. That should be your answer to every question.

9) Do not get drawn into a fast question and answer session. If she asks you a question, stop, think about it honestly, then take a deep breath and re-word the question and repeat it back to her, then answer honestly, that this is what you really want.

example of 9:

Question: When did you decide this? Just now? Don't you think that this should be a decision we should both make?

Your answer: I think you're asking me whether this is a decision I made on a whim? It isn't. I've tried to think of ways we can make this work, but I can't get away from the fact that I do not want the long distance thing. I just don't want to have a relationship like that. I don't want it.

10) HOW TO END IT. Eventually, after about 40 minutes, you will have put in enough time. Any further conversation is totally unproductive and you need to end it and get out of there. Dinner will be coming soon and you don't want to get sucked into that.

Eventually she will say something like "well then where does that leave me?" or "what do you expect me to do?". Here is what you answer:

I don't really have a right to tell you what to do. I said something really shitty that made you upset. I know you have all kinds of good friends and family that love you, I'd expect that you'd use them for support right now. That's what I'm going to do. Give her a kiss if she'll accept it and TAKE OFF.

Go out with friends who aren't also her good friends and blow off your stress, but don't get in a situation where you could bump into her again, even if that means sleeping over at a friends house.

Only give her the stuff back if she asks for it now, or makes a big nasty deal about getting it. Otherwise, just tell her that you have it and that you'll bring it to her. Then go over the next morning (early as possible) and drop it off.


Good luck, sometimes the best thing you can do for your life is end a relationship, hopefully some thing I said here will make it easier.

Answer 3

Long distance relationships can work if the people involve want them to work. However in this case i wouldn't try it both people must have the same desire for the relationship and clearly the two of you don't. My advice is to be honest just tell her you can't do the distance relationship. Regardless, of what she may say just stand firm and break things off now. Don't feel like you have to try the distance thing for awhile that will only drag out the inevitable best to let it burn now. At least you know you were honest with her and yourself.

Kimberly

Answer 4

Well I guess it depends on how you feel about long distance relationships and her. Personally I don't think they work well, but I have to say I am now married to my long distance relationship. I am from Buffalo, NY and I was dating a guy for a few years there and I told him I am moving to California. One year later I found him on my door steps. He missed me and came out. The relationship for the year apart was hard but it all depends on your comittment to the person. If you are thinking of breaking up with her, then you just need to tell her your feelings. Or keep the relationship going and let it fade on it's own. That's happened to me before. It makes the breaking up part easier. But in the perfect world we should be truthful.

Answer 5

Tell her. Honestly and nicely. Let her know that you aren't sure if you are able to stay faithful and that may be she would meet someone to. Not saying she would cheat, just letting her know what if she finds someone she really likes and she don't want to do anything about it because she's are stuck in a long distance relationship and wants to be faithful to you. Just be sweet about it. Tell her you still care for her and want to talk with her but just don't want the heartache of a long distance relationship.

Answer 6

Be straight up. Say look long distance relationships never last and I want to end this on a friendly basis. If we continue to do the long distant thing then there will be cheating and a bad break up. Leave on good terms.

Answer 7

Tell her that it is best if you end things amicably now, and not try to drag it out, and act as if it can work. That only causes hard feelings, and hurt. Tell her that you still would like to correspond, as friends, once you move.
Long distance relationships can occasionally work out, but it requires even more committment that is normally required in a relationship...on both parties. If you're already thinking it won't work out, it won't. Get out of it, don't lead her on.

Answer 8

Well. Girls are typically really senstiive, This is an obvious fact. I think the best way to break it off is to explain to her why it isn't going to work anymore. She may try to negociate her way out of being dumped by saying things like: "But I love you! we're so good together" don't get guilted into that. You'll just feel worse, and once its over you'll feel a lot better.

Answer 9

just be honest and tell her face to face, just tell her the truth and be as honest as you can, she deserves that, it would be so wrong to just up and leave without saying anything, you'll end up just keeping her hanging on causing her prolonged unnecessary heart ache, I'm sure you wouldn't want that for her, it might be difficult for both of you, nobody likes dumping some one and nobody likes to be dumped, make sure your doing the right thing for you and if you feel you'd be better off, then you have to do it but in the right way, if she cries then try your best without over doing it to comfort her but don't go back on it because it makes you feel bad to see her so sad, be strong your bound to feel at least a little guilty if she cries in front of you, hope it goes well and good luck. x

Answer 10

There is no, nice or easy way my friend but how ever you do it try to think of how you would feel if it was you getting dumped... Boy I just read some of the answeers you got and its very hard for me to understand how people can be so stupit and heartless..Young man you must like her so treat her as so.. be kind..Be a Man.... Good Luck with her and your move... ROB

Answer 11

If long relationships never last then don't say anything...it will fall apart naturally or you'll still have a girlfriend...either way you can't lose. If you just don't want to be with her, then grow a pair and tell her.