Son doesn't want nothing to do with the potty...?

Question

My son will be 3 in August and he knows what he suppose to do in the potty. He even tells me when he has to go but refuses to go and will also refuse to wear big boy underwear, says he doesn't like them and tells me he wants to continue to wear his diaper.

Answer 1

i just got this email of a three day potty method.... i went through the same thing and now my son is 3.1 and trained. first get him ready by having him come to the store and pick out new big boy underwear. and big boy wipes. then sit with him and explain to him what a potty is for and have him throw out all his diapers... then there is no turning back... just keeping reminding him that we make in the potty and try catching him before accidents constantly having him check to see if he is dry and doing nothing else for the first three days. ask him are you clean and dry? if he has an accident don't get upset.. have him help you clean it and remind him he needs to st ay clean and dry. first dah just leave him with underwear and eventually a dd pants. you must really focus on him during these first few days and whgen he goes get really excited.. treats can help as well. setbacks will happen until he is about 5.. so don't stress too much about accidents. i use a pull up during night time and naps.email me if you have any other questions [e-mail]

Answer 2

What is up with parents today? Since when do we let parenting books and society tell us what is right for our kids and when?! Every child is unique and not all will be potty trained at the same age. If your son knows what the potty is for and isn't ready to start using it yet, then give him more time. When our kids hit the age of 18 we don't start forcing them to have sex because it's "natural" and many other 18 year olds are doing it. Why should potty training be different?

There are many 3 year olds that are still in pull-ups and even some 4 year olds. It's not the end of the world.

Answer 3

How tall is he? My oldest boy did not want to go because he was not tall enough to pee standing up! Which, of course is how boys pee! We had to wait until he was 3 1/2. And it was so easy. I highly recommend it. I did the same with my other 2 boys and all of them were trained in a week or so with very few accidents. At 3 1/2 they have much better muscle control and a much longer attn span. If he doesn't need to be trained to go to preschool or something I would just let it go. Put the big boy underwear up and don't say anything else. Continual accidents can get very frusterating for both of you and make the process take that much longer. Just remember it will come, you never see 10 yr old in diapers!

Answer 4

I started out by buying a simple white potty that looked the closest to a regular toilet. No bells n' whistles. Then I got her the "Feel N Learn" pull-ups which are great because when they are wet, they feel wet to the child. Then we had a "sticker" program. I would put her potty in front of the toilet and we would both go potty together. Every time she was successful, she got a sticker that she placed on the bathroom cupboard beside her potty chair. That way she was able to see the rewards of her efforts. And I also made a big effort to praise her really dramatically! Then we'd both empty her potty into the toilet and wave and say "bye-bye peepees/poopoos, thanks for coming out!" She'd sometimes just sit on the chair and "pretend" to potty just so she'd get a sticker! But she quickly figured out that she needed to produce visible results... It took about 2 months. Then I took her shopping and let her pick out her own underwear (Dora). She was so happy to wear them and very, very proud. She had a few accidents but I never made a big deal out of them to her. It got tricky when we went out because it's important that as soon as said she had to potty, we had to pull over right away. I was sure NOT to fall back on the pullups just because we were out. It just prolongs the process. She was able to wear underwear during the day and a pullup at night. Then, eventually she lost the nightime pullup and I woke her at 2am and took her to the potty - every night for about a week. And then that was that.

Every child is different tho - the key is to make a big fuss when they go and not make a fuss if they don't. Good luck with it.

Answer 5

I agree with your 3rd to last answer but make a game out of it and a big deal when he uses the bathroom. I am a single mom of 2 boys and I had great luck with it. My boys responded within a week of doing this. My youngest started to potty train by the time he turned 18 months just because my oldest was training at the same time.If you want to brighten it up throw in some Froot Loops and you will be suprised. Also take him to Walmart and have him pick out his own undies. Once he does tell him not to let whatever character get wet. If you need more help please IM me

Answer 6

Tell him that there are no more diapers at the house and that he needs to wear big boy underwear. Once he starts pottying in his big noy pants then he will not like it and wan to use the potty.

Answer 7

I have the same complaint with my 2 year old daughter. She started out training herself at 16 months. She did great until recently when she started avoiding the toilet as well. I have been sitting her on the toilet and asking her to go, but it's no use. She used to wear panties, but now has no interest. I am so frustrated. You can bet I will be checking back with your question to see if you get some good input. Good luck.

Answer 8

he may not be ready dont push him all you can do is support him my son was not fully potty trained til he was 3 1/2 i started a cpl months b4 he turned 2 it takes time and patience and my lil trick was food coloring in the potty hell like the way the colors change and swirl around good luck

Answer 9

You cannot make him, it is a power thing right now as he is aware obviously. I would let it go, act like it is up to him...giving them choices helps them feel empowered. My daughter regressed around 3 and then one day "Santa" called her right before Christmas and asked her to use the potty and all of a sudden it was a done deal no going backwards, she begged for big girl pants and we never had another issue. Have his favorite character call him for encouragement (like a friend making the call to your house).

Answer 10

My daughter is 28 months old and is potty trained! We started with the pull ups and told her that Dora and Cinderella would not be happy if she went pee or poop on them! That was that! She had a couple of accidents,but did not want to go on them! We also would do a potty dance after! Pee pee on the potty(clap clap) or poop poop on the potty(clap clap)