Hello,
People always felt that I'm too kind and that some people just walk all over me, is it possible that once you have reached adulthood your personality can change so you are not so forgiving and don't let others take advantage of me so much?
I'm not gonna be such a nice guy any more I think don't seem to get me anywhere at all why is this world so sad?
Thanks!!
2006-07-10 12:40:36 · 31 answers · asked by East Bay Punk 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, Mr. Nice guy sorry to inform you that you cant just change you good heart for a bad one. What you can do is start protecting your self by first listening to your intuition. Your are not here to save the world . You will not get a gold metal for being kind but karma will reward you at some point. Monitor the people you let in by getting to know them before you start giving everything away.
If you listen people usually tell you their true intentions without you even asking them. So pay attention and listen. Always put you first no matter what because if you dont protect you, nobody else will.
2006-07-10 12:51:19 · answer #1 · answered by butterfly 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
do not under any means quit being nice, there are too few of you in the world today, most guys are just concerned with T and A and it seems that you go beyond that. Ok, so don't be a doormat just be limited in your availability to people and start asking for some favors in return. or if someone asks you to do something tell them you have plans even if it entails just watching tv. life can suck for nice people but karma finds a way to take care of the mean ones and it is usually twice the pain.
2006-07-10 12:55:11 · answer #2 · answered by osu2720@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it may be possible to change your ways, because if in time, you are hurt so much by people taking advantage of you, you will automatically become more cautious, untrusting, and maybe even put up walls around you that no one can get in anymore.
Thats what happened to me. I was nice, until so many people f@$# me over, and Im not nice anymore. Now people ask me why I am so mean, and I tell them "I just hate people". And most people arent nice, so I dont care.
2006-07-10 12:47:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you have to necessarly change your ways...
I to have been treated bad by other people because I'm a nice person, and it's not a matter of changing your personality just being nice to those who deserve it.
There's nothing wrong with being a good person, I always go by the rule: "Treat others how you wish to be treated" and if your not getting that then they're obviously not worth your time, not all people are mean :)
2006-07-10 12:54:00 · answer #4 · answered by iwantcandy_63 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once there was a snail. The snail was crawling along and suddenly it saw a mirror. The mirror rose up in front of it and the snail looked in it and said: "Oh Mirror, how beautiful you look! Let me just...." and before the birds could shout 'Who's-a-pretty-boy-then?' the snail was onto the Mirror like a shot! Eventually the snail crawled away...and left. The mirror walked dejectedly on, almost ready to break down, till a monkey spotted it and asked it: "Hey, Mirror, what's wrong with you?". The Mirror replied, "well, this snail came up to me and said how beautiful I was then just crawled away." "Well, now you know, Mirror, these guys just walk all over you and leave you covered in slime!"
2006-07-10 13:32:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You maybe were to nice. There are people that are nice and then there are people that are to nice. Being bad doesn't make it better or make people say ohh no he's Bad. Why don't you just be nice and Bad sometimes. Stand up for yourself. I'm a nice person, so I've been told but I don't let people use me as a rug.
2006-07-10 12:45:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
most people take kindness for a weakness and they take advantage of you and all the nice things you do and that is very sad because after you get used several times you kind of turn angry towards people
2006-07-10 12:47:23 · answer #7 · answered by sclady62001p 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its is possible for someone to be too nice. When people see this, they tend to take advantage of the situation. Its life. Thats just how it is. You just have to toughen up and move on.
2006-07-10 12:44:36 · answer #8 · answered by Diabla 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ah darling, i think you are very upset and you must be hurting right now,but please don't stop being nice!!! you don't need to change who you are,if someone doesn't like you for who you are,they're not worth it! find someone who will appreciate you!!! this world is a nasty greedy place these days, and sometimes i feel lost in it,as i am always nice and would never hurt anyone,but seem to constantly get hurt myself!! i will never lower myself to nasty peoples level,and you shouldn't either!! good things come to those who wait,so don't give up just yet! :)
2006-07-10 12:47:55 · answer #9 · answered by geri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may change a bit. you don't have to be a doormat. before you help someone see what they are doing to help themselves. if they're doing nothing then don't help them. as you get older you get more cautious. it doesn't mean that you're not still going to be a nice guy, just more careful. not everyone is out to get something. there are good people around.
2006-07-10 12:45:24 · answer #10 · answered by gonetotallymad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋