My son is a compulsive liar.I think he may need a psyciatric evaluation,but i don't know how to ask a doctor about this.His biological father and other family members have mental disorders and other serious problems like this.What can i do?
2006-07-10 12:39:23 · 27 answers · asked by emily o 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Take him to a doctor as soon as you can. Ask for a referral to someone who can treat your son. I was diagnosed with a mental disorder at 18 (I'm 23 now) and from what various doctors tell me, I've had it all my life. So you can imagine the problems that I'm faced with today.
2006-07-10 12:44:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
One thing you could do is stop tarring an eight year old with a brush by automatically assuming he'll turn out like those others. Look at yourself for a while - do you ever tell him he's just like his dad etc? I hope not. Other than that, I agree with some others here - let him not fear you for telling the truth, give consequences for when/if he lies and rewards for when he doesn't, start talking to him like a small adult rather than a child - he's well of an age where you can level with him now...
I'd certainly think he's far too young to be going to a child shrink - do you want him to feel bad about himself at such a young age? I wonder if it's not just bad parenting that you can do something about, rather than something that's inherent to him through his genes. Go easy on the boy - and start being the parent.
Good luck.
2006-07-10 23:03:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are worried I would seek a professionals help.
Especially if this type of condition runs in the family.
I would tell him that you don't like it when he lies and that you won't listen to him if he lies. Then be sure to give him lots of praise when he tells the truth and how proud you are of him for telling the truth.
Also, maybe try giving him 2 journals. One he can write fiction (call it the "make believe book" or something fun sounding) and the other for real things. If he has some family problems then maybe the lies are a coping mechanism. Giving him a new one may help with the lies.
Good Luck!
2006-07-10 12:47:25 · answer #3 · answered by az 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a private appointment with your GP. It's probably better if your son isn't there for this as it can be quite emotional. Just explain the situation to her/him and say that you really want to help your son. S/he will be able to direct you to a child councilor that will help your son learn how to deal with his urge to lie.
Your doctor will not judge you and neither will the councilor. There is no blame here. Your son simply needs to learn a coping skill that will help him succeed. You have already done the most important thing which is identifying this as a problem that can be fixed rather than a bad habit that must be punished.
2006-07-10 12:46:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, take him to the doctor. It can or cannot be serious. depends on the Lies. I f he lies that he cleaned up his room or that he made his bed, I don't think thats such a big ceal. But if its something big like- He saw somebody killing another (don't know where that example came from!) that is serious and needs the proper attention
Good Luck Finding An Answer!
2006-07-11 01:04:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he afraid that he will be in trouble if he tells the truth. Are there really nasty consequences. Lying can be a learned response to fear. However if he lies for no reason then an evaluation would be appropriate. There is a mental health diagnosis for pathological lying but I can't remember the name of it.
2006-07-10 17:22:03 · answer #6 · answered by Elwood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, be more strict. You're most likely not disciplining him thoroughly. He should fear you to a point. Not enough to be scared of you, but enough to know that if he does something he's not supposed to, then he'll be punished.
Secondly, he might have one or several problems such as ADHD. You should take him to a psychologist and have him accessed. Ritalin is wonderful for ADHD. My nephew takes it and it's done wonders for him and my family. Without it, he's literally a vicious, life-sucking demon from which there is no escape.
Good luck
2006-07-10 12:45:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Teach him that bad things come out of lying, and that even if the lie keeps him out of trouble, the problem always escaltes no matter what he lied about. If that dsen't work, encourage him to become a politician.
2006-07-11 04:26:36 · answer #8 · answered by FootballFan1012 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is quite simple
" doctor i feel there is something wrong with my son and would like some help"
Doctors face a lot of things in their day. Your problem will be one of many. If you can't get help for your son who else will?
2006-07-10 21:52:11 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
here's a thought: confront him when you know for a fact he's lying. Then if he continues, beat his tail or some sort of punishment that he hates. If he has a mental defect, get him help from a psychologist. In the meantime, beat his butt. It never hurt me. Hey, I wouldnt lie to you.
2006-07-10 15:40:43 · answer #10 · answered by Starry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋