cheating friends?

Question

I am really close to a couple, I have known the guy longer but the girl is a good friend. I recently found out that she cheated on him really early in their relationship. I don’t want to loose their friendship, but I would want to know if it happened to me…what should I do?

Answer 1

If this happened REALLY early, like they were dating for 3 months when she cheated and they've been married for 8 years, then don't bring it up. But, if they've been together 8 months, they you should say something.

Answer 2

Make sure that person never finds out you know, and don't say a word. Friendships are valuable and it's up to them to work it out. If it was early in the relationship and stopped, it hopefully won't happen again. If it is constant abusive cheating, definitely tell the other person, but they may not have been fully committed earlier on when this happened.

Answer 3

I think you should talk with the individual that committed the act and if she is a friend as you say she is then she will understand where you are coming from and should be thankful that she has a respectable and trustworthy friend that would look out for her as well if he was the one that cheated. If she cares for him and wants to make something out of what they have then she should be woman enough to tell him as to not have any secrets between the two. On the other hand sometimes things are better left as they are!!!!!

Answer 4

Sooner or later he is going to find out. If he finds out that you knew all along he isn't going to want anything to do with you. But if you tell you will most likely lose her friendship. He does have a right to know though. What would you do if he wanted to marry her, you knowing that she wasnt always faithfull to him. Be a friend and tell him.

Answer 5

I'd stay out of it. It happened a while ago and nothing good is going to come of this from you opening your mouth about it. She'll be mad you betrayed her confidence and he'll be mad you rocked the boat. If she's still cheating, I'd then tell her, "You've got one week to come clean before I tell him what you're up to," but if she's not and she's been faithful ever since, stay out of it. Nobody likes a buttinsky.

Answer 6

well just stay out of it don't turn this into Jerry Springer it's none of you business , just be there for her if she needs a shoulder to cry on, but let her tell her man but if this bothers you then stay away from them, sorry honey this is not your problem don't add more coal to the fire in the ON run you will loose 2 friends..

Answer 7

Cheaters, for the most part, don't value the sense of Trust and the sense of People of others. They are not genuine. They tend to be selfish and so me me me at times.

Finding out those types of people are easy too. they are so predictable and easy to spot in real life. Just look for the ones who look at other people when they are with the so called person they are attached to.

Answer 8

Stay out of it. It's not your problem and you shouldn't make it your problem. Telling can only end things badly. There is a chance that your friend will blame you for ruining thier relationship.

Answer 9

Do you know if he feels the same way? Also, more importantly, whose place is it to tell him? I could see telling her if he tried to cheat with you - otherwise, I think what you need to do is talk to her about the situation, maybe ask what their arrangement is regarding the past... That might provide an opening for you to get her to think about what she should do.

Answer 10

Wow, this is tuff. But you have got to remember that apparently it was along time ago and not your business. He might know about it and forgave her. No matter your intentions your friendship might change and you need to be ready for that.