i,m 16 and getting married in one month with the love of my life? I FEEL READY? WHAT DOI YOU THINK?

Answer 1

I remember when I was 16, I wanted to marry every girl I fooled around with. It was a fantasy dreaming time. Of course I never carried it to fuition. At that age you both want to be wanted and want people to respect your "maturity". I hope your not marrying for those reasons. I had two good friends in highschool that started having a strong relationship at 16 years old----they are now married and have three boys. They could have been married then and it would have been the same relationship now. Only you know deep inside if you can handle it, and if you can't, then here comes your first "big" life lesson. Some of the most fascinating people on earth have have all kinds of crazy life stories, maybe your destined to be one of them. Don't let anyone make decisions for you, but seek the guidance of those in the "know". Best wishes to ya and good luck!

Answer 2

I think if you have to ask people's opinions on here that you really aren't ready. I got married 2 weeks after I turned 23 and sometimes still wonder if I was really ready even then. I was pregnant at the time as well, but that wasn't the reason we got married. I am 25 now and although I have never had a second thought about whom I married, I do wonder from time to time, once in a while when I am having a bad day if we should have waited another year or 2.

Honestly 16 is way too young to be getting married, I am not saying that you should shop around and date other guys, just spend more time getting to know each other, if you already know that you want to get married, what is the big deal in waiting another 2, 3 or 4 years.

Please re-think this decision as choices this big affect the rest of you life.

Answer 3

When I was 16 I was with the "love of my life" and I am still with him and we are getting married in 2 weeks. I don't see any harm in waiting a few years and making sure. I feel like I should even give it more time just because I'm only 21. But, if you get married too soon then cheating becomes more serious and stuff. If he's just a b/f then it doesn't seem as bad....WAIT a few YEARS

Answer 4

You know i was 16 when i was first really asked to get married..In such a state of " Love" I said yes....but never went through with it...and i can't stress enough what a great deceision i made to say it wasn't happening....I'm a sucker for love....been engaged twice before the real one...and now at age 24 getting married in 2 more months...to the most amazing man...my advice is to wait it out..if you have such strong feelings for eachother perhaps you can committment party...invite friends, family, etc. and extange vows to eachother, but don't make it "legal" after all the only difference is a piece of paper that legally bonds the two of you! Being married in the heart and soul is much more important...

Answer 5

16 is a little early but if you think you are ready you should know whether or not you want to spend the rest of your life with him. I am 16 and I'm getting married in nine months. You have to make sure your absolutely ready for this huge change in life. Research says you should be engaged at least six months before marriage that's why I'm giving it nine just to be positive that I'll like the life style with my man. Good luck and be careful!! But follow your heart!!

Answer 6

I'm 20, ya know, I'm ready and just waiting till the time is right in my life and his. by that i mean, I'm want to marry him so bad, but i know in the long run, i need to have some kind of good education to fall back on in case, God forbid, something happens to him. And he needs to figure out what he wants to do in life as well. Take some time to step back out of the "i love him" world and really try to look at the whole picture..the next 2yrs, next 5, 10...what does it look like through eyes that aren't covered completely by love? There are romance and reality. Both can co-exist if you know what you are looking at and for. Really KNOW the person you are marrying. You have the rest of YOUR life to spend with him. Just make sure you get as much out of YOUR life as you can with and w/out him. And as with everything in your life, RESPONSIBLITY is an incredibly HUGE factor, especially now that you think you are ready to be married.

But also, if you have to question whether or not you should at this age....and what other people think, then maybe not.

I don't know whether or not you are or are not a Christian, but if so, really pray and seek God's guidance on this type of life-changing event. It is a sacred bond b/w a man and a woman that should be taken with extreme care and thoughtful consideration.

Answer 7

I hope you're not expecting a lot of encouragement from everyone on this site. Nothing is going to change your mind now because you are convinced you have the love of your life at your side if you've agreed to marry him. Please keep in mind that you will both change a lot in the next 10 years and in order to grow together, it is a lot of work, true love or not. Also remember when things are rough that real love is a choice to be devoted to that person for the rest of your lives. Romantic love is a fleeting feeling that you may feel now, but real love in a marriage takes devotion, committment and a lot of compromise. Nobody is ready for marriage, it is something that you have to adjust to on a daily basis. You must wake up every morning and re-devote yourself to your spouse. Remember: kindness is the key to a happy marriage.

Best wishes. God bless!

Answer 8

One of the most beautiful things in this life is the power every one of us has to make his/her own decisions...and live with the consequences. Marriage is like any investment, the rewards can be wonderful. However, investment experts always recommend that we only invest the money we are willing to lose. So, are you willing to lose a sizable portion of your life (to trauma, unhappiness, etc.) because you believe you have enough life experience to join your life with that of your future spouse? More to the point, are you willing to pass on to your children such example of hasty decision-making?

You're just 16. Take your time to enjoy your teen years, maybe college, maybe a career or an avocation. Are you happy with yourself or trying to look for happiness in somebody else's life? Because no matter what age you are, if you don't love and accept yourself (keys to happiness), you'll be miserable and make others miserable.

Love is like a wonderful flower that takes time to blossom. Don't rush it. It's better to have a good relationship when you're ready than just rushing to marriage. Otherwise you'll end up saying "I'm unhappy but at least I have a husband!"

Answer 9

I got married at 16, my husband was 20. we have been married 5 1/2 years and have two kids. Alot of people told me that it was a mistake but they were wrong.
Good Luck.

Answer 10

You are too young to even know what the love of your life is. Know doubt you feel grown up and ready to marry, but lets be serious now...way to young. And your parents are crazy to allow you to get married