I've known this chick for a long time. And one day we had a really good time together. So the next day I asked her out. She said Yes. We went to a really boring movie and so I held her hand. When the movie got out I choked and didn't say much to her. The next day I felt bad so I decided to text her. We talked for a bit and I said sorry about last night, you looked bored., and she said dont worry about it. Then I asked her if it was cool that I held her hand and she said yes. So then I felt fine about the whole thing. But the next day I wake up, and turn on my phone, and she sent me a text that said we were better as friends. So I was like whatever. But after she broke up with me, about a week later she started texting me almost every day. But now we still talk every once in a while, but not as much as we used to. And sometimes we still hang out.
Does anybody got any clue whats going on? I need some help here.
2006-07-10 11:53:33 · 17 answers · asked by the greatest advice giver 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It could be a number of different things:
1) She's a lesbian.
2) She wants to be a lesbian.
3) You broke her heart by not buying popcorn.
4) You had some snot on your hand when you touched hers.
5) Her mom is the one doing all the texting.
6) She's embarassed by her herpes.
or
7) She's pregnant with another guys child.
Those are the only options so narrow it down and you've got your answer.
2006-07-10 12:02:03 · answer #1 · answered by Stephen Hawkings Mentor 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be at ease my young brother. A girl is a fickle creature, the young ones can be testing their "powers" on boys as they come into their own as women. I would advise you that less is more, sometimes a little mystery is just the thing for a fledgling romance. Be yourself, if you disagree, disagree. Don't scare her with how excited you are to be with her. Show her you have other options, let her wonder what makes you so hard to figure. Right now you're an open book. Trust me, it will get better.
Peace
2006-07-10 12:05:41 · answer #2 · answered by badslaw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My honest impression is that you're fairly young and new to the dating scene. I think you shouldn't be hard on yourself for "choking"... just relax and be in the moment.
Odds are this woman you are interested in is just as anxious as you are and frets over "mistakes" she made (that you probably didn't notice or attributed to her reacting to one of your "mistakes").
It could be that she feels that now that you're established as "friends," she can text you every day and not worry about you misconstruing it. On the other hand, perhaps she's changed her mind.
Here's my suggestion as to finding out what is going on: ask her. I think that the more experience people get with relationships and dating, the more likely they are to simply be up-front about their feelings and concerns... and I have to tell you, it's a lot more fun & easier that way :)
2006-07-16 08:20:13 · answer #3 · answered by Simenzo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she is still having fun, not ready to be with anyone. For my boyfriend and I don't like the title cause it messes up the everything. Everybody know that we are together. we had decide to do this because I never really wanted to be with anyone and miss all the fun. It's on 7 years now and it still don't seem like we are together. it's that or she is messing with somebody else and don't want to tell you to save your feeling. I say give it another shot and if she still don't want anything like that then you go out and have fun and show her what she missing out on. On top of that you'll maybe find somebody that wants to be with you. Like the saying goes " There's a lot of fish in the sea".
2006-07-10 12:11:40 · answer #4 · answered by rosie G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the problem with ur 'GIRL' friend is that she can't make up her mind and trust me, shes not THAT into u, i say u just let her go because u're better off finding someone else who doesnt play games like how she does because u gonna be the one who'll get hurt at the end so move on. i think what she's trying to do is to find a better guy she likes, but in the other hand, she cant find anyone and she gets lonely so she comes back to you, i seriously think you should just forget about her because seems to me all she wants to do is to play games! you can do better!
2006-07-10 12:00:02 · answer #5 · answered by Jade 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does seem a little confusing. From what i can tell she seems to be a little confused herself. The female mind can be quite complex, but dont worry about it. Im sure you are a wonderful person and that if this girl isnt the one for you, you will find someone. Dont give up..
2006-07-10 11:58:23 · answer #6 · answered by smilenbhappie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's playing the field, and not respecting you -- the best advice of ll is to just say **** it - don't put her up on a pedastool, and then try to climb up there to meet her. She blew you off and it's her loss - just by the way you described the situation I can tell your decent and deserve better than a brush off
2006-07-10 11:58:38 · answer #7 · answered by ryandebraal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it wasn't like some dramatic thing you guys had to go through to break up. i think you guys are getting used to the just friends basis again which wont take long if you both put in effort. there's no hate or bad feelings in your situation
2006-07-10 11:57:34 · answer #8 · answered by metronome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the sign of someone that doesnt know what they want. You just need to let her figure it out on her own. It happened with me last year.
2006-07-10 11:59:36 · answer #9 · answered by TJ B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you call yourself the greatest advice giver....then go and ask this question. get a grip pencil neck. you blew it.....now she thinks (and she is correct) you are an kook. you will never get any further with her or any other girl if you continue to act like such a douche bag
2006-07-10 11:59:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋