Unfortunately we are living in a society where child sexual and physical abuse are on a constant rise. These people grow up with issues ranging from insecurity and mistrust, to becoming perpretrators of abuse themselves. What is the message that God has for these people, both the victim and the 'victimizer'?
2006-07-10 11:22:40 · 14 answers · asked by Daniel 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Be a realist. Pedophiles have a very high recidivism rate. Forgivess is for you, not for him. You can forgive him so you can feel better and go on with your life, but don't trust him, don't expose your vulnerabilities to him. If he hasn't been outed to the police or his family, then he may still be an active predator. You may do any number of potential victims a great service by bringing his crime to the light.
2006-07-10 11:38:48 · answer #1 · answered by Skeptimystic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FORGIVING Somebody (and you can do this by yourself with GOD's help) SET's YOU FREE, not them.
They will Reap what they have Sown, GOD will see to it, you cannot hide from GOD. GOD will "see to it" by the Spiritual LAW's that HE put into the EARTH befor Mankind was introduced to the EARTH. These Spiritual LAW's work on Automatic. There are some SIN's where if you push GOD far enough, HE will JUDGE YOU PERSONALLY. It's in the BIBLE, but most of the time, YOU reap what you have Sown. Hope this helps. Ditto.....
p.s. Just because you Forgive them, letting YOU off the HOOK, dosen't mean that they shouldn't be Punished for those SIN's, that's why we have Law Enforcement and Court System's, and for some sin's, we should push for "the full extent of the Law".
MERCY should be shown to the level of the Person's worthyness of MERCY.
LAW with-out MERCY is a bad thing. Each case is different. Hope this helps. Ditto.....
2006-07-10 15:20:00 · answer #2 · answered by maguyver727 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Daniel, I am in the same situation. Check my profile if you like re: confronting my abuser. I have and am still dealing with all the issues that you have listed. I don't know what God's message is, but sometimes I feel its so unfair that my abuser (and cousin) walks around free as a bird with his family, while no one knows "our" dirty little secret from long ago... It really is awful for the victim because no matter how old you get, that filthy memory is always there. I hope you have found a way to deal with your situation. Peace.
2006-07-10 11:44:10 · answer #3 · answered by Poetess_4U 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh, you know this is a hard question to answer...but I'll try.
Let's see, depending on the person, if they are a TRUE Christian or not a Christian...I think that God don't let people experience things for nothing, it's obviously for a reason...maybe it's so that person can give their testimony to help someone else. But to answer your question, God doesn't make someone do something they don't want to do, as that person has a choice, when Jesus died on the cross, freewill was given as well as a chance for eternal life, so the victimzer chose to do the assaulting on their own freewill, of course God knew what that person would do before they did it, but he would be going back on his word if he was to make that person do something that they didn't want to do...I hope I didn't confuse anyone!
2006-07-10 12:32:29 · answer #4 · answered by nubiestyme2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God loves each child way more than we can imagine. And He loves the perpetrators too, but He does NOT condone that kind of behavior. God proves all throughout the Bible that He loves children with a special love, and those who hurt His children will have to deal with Him.
I don't believe that God would want you to "hang out" with that person, even if He does want you to forgive them.
My ex abused my children and I admit to homicidal thoughts. We don't hang around him anymore, but I have come to a point in my life where I have forgiven him because my hate was only hurting myself. God helped me through it, and there were many days when God had to hold me in His loving arms because I couldn't make it on my own.
He wants to hold each of His children, if we will let Him.
2006-07-10 11:49:36 · answer #5 · answered by songoftheforest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to forgive the person who assaulted you as much for your own sake as for theirs. Do not let yourself continue to be a victim for their crime. If you let this hatred or fear continue it will poison your life and they will win. I was abused as well and I can tell you that although no one is glad that they have experienced this it can either make you bitter or make you better. It's up to you. It is through suffering that we come to empathize with others. You were a victim once do not let your victimization continue. For me healing began when I confronted the person and spoke up for myself and took the higher road and forgave. I refuse to continue to play any ones doormat.Peace to you and God bless.
2006-07-10 11:41:21 · answer #6 · answered by Debra M. Wishing Peace To All 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Salvation and healing. God gave man freewill. Man needs to protect the children don't vote for people that refuse to protect our children. Gods messeage is suffer not the children to come unto me. And its better for the person to have a millstone put around thier neck and cast into the see than to hurt one of the children. To find Salvation ask Yeshua into your life and to forgive you for your sins.
2006-07-10 11:31:13 · answer #7 · answered by David 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The victim should still forgive the victimizer, just as God does. and the Victimizer needs to see what has become of his actions, and that God has forgiven him/her.
2006-07-10 11:46:12 · answer #8 · answered by libbykins202 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the person is sincerely sorry for the act, you should forgive them
If the person still has an appetite for that assault or sexual abuse, you should kill them out of pity.
2006-07-10 11:26:59 · answer #9 · answered by keats27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what your going through...and everyone sins whether it be small or big..but the only true way you can be forgiven is to forgive, b/c that person will have to face there demons either in this life or in the next and they will have to face God and their sins before him, so my advice is to forgive them so you are in the right and your heart is free
2006-07-10 11:38:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋