I recently moved and had too leave the school I was going to. I have a boyfriend and we went to the same school. We don't see each other but we talk on the phone all the time. He has been going through family problems. And now he's talking about breaking up with me. We love each other a lot! But like I said he is going through family problems! And he is thinking about breaking up with me! I don't want to lose him and I really love him! Please give me some advice! I really appriciate your answers!
2006-07-10 11:13:23 · 27 answers · asked by simply me™ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I meant to put 10 points.
2006-07-10 11:16:09 · update #1
I really need your help!!!
2006-07-10 11:45:08 · update #2
i know he's going through right now, but your his girl. you're the one supposed to be there for him, you know, be there to hold him down. so if ya'll really love each other, ya'll will stay together through the bad times. if you are at another school, you better watch out. there's always some ho waiting around the corner for your man. trust me, i'm 23, been there, done that. good luck homegirl, and God Bless
2006-07-10 11:19:53 · answer #1 · answered by Selena Jade's Mommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
horray! 2 points .10 2 go.
let's c if i got this right. u and ur boyfriend went to the same "school". case solved. he's too young to have a real realationship and probably u r too.
stay in school.
(ull grow up and realize u need more than just sex and unexpected pregnancy from a man and then b counted among those many monoparental families)
if he's "talking" and "thinking" as u mentioned about breaking up, perhaps he didn't realy love u enough. but ur saying that u "really love him". don't u think love has to b comming from both directions?
advice: stop bagging, give him some space. continue ur studies, and wait a few days or weeks for the outcome. i cannot promise u it will b a good one.
still i tend to think he's not the right guy... well at least yet. (being still in school)
2006-07-10 18:39:16 · answer #2 · answered by James Blond 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you two do not really know what true love is yet...It sounds to me that your boyfriend wants to leave you for whatever reason and he is using his family problems as an excuse....Talking on the phone is not like spending lots of time together...The best thing I can suggest to you is that he really wants to move on let him...You do not want to be in a relationship were only you do all the work, and he does what he wants to...You are young and you can and will find someone that fits your needs better than him!!!!
2006-07-10 18:27:08 · answer #3 · answered by newyorkcitypimp1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From reading your question, yo obviously are not mobile. So, in the midst of family frustrations, it is easier to have and talk to a friend who is a friend, than a girl/boyfriend. Adolescent life is hard enough, and you have the rest of your life to form a relationship with the opposite sex. If you are truely meant to be, a break in the relationship will not harm, but probably will give you both time to breath and regroup. Just because you don't go steady, or whatever, does not mean you can't be friends. Besides, being in a relationship with someone that does not want to be, waste of time.
2006-07-10 18:21:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if yall are within driving distance, then you can atleast see eachother on the weekends when ur parents have time. if he told u that family problems mat be a factor in wanting to break up with you, then he just wants to end it without hurting you. also, long distance relationships are super hard to maintain. you may be happier with someone else anyway. plus, if he is really cool, then having an easy break up would keep yall as friends in the future for the off chance that yall may eventually live in the same neighborhood. if the break up goes smkoothly, then you may have a chance in the future
2006-07-10 18:17:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont really know what to tell you but just tell him that you will alwayz be there 4 him and that you love him very much and you couldnt live another day without him in your life...tell him that you cant lose him....and tell him that you care 4 him and stuff like that...tell him thaat if he feels the same then yall can work out anything if yall put yalls mines to it......but maybe he needs a break....if he does tell him that you will give him a break....becuz thats all you can do...you will do that becuz you love him so much....but if he loves you, he will be coming back to you no mader what!!!! good luck!!! I hope i helped....
2006-07-10 18:21:16 · answer #6 · answered by Gator chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
am well you know that you can force something that is not there and he just does want you there anymore and if you insist on it you are the one that can get hurt. so i can only tell you so much but it's you choose and choose what is right and there is a saying you don't know what you have until you loose it and well i think this guy does not appreciate you but if he does he will try getting back with you once he realizes that you are the best (PS i don't think his mature enough to handle many situations at a time so keep supporting him moral support and let him no that you there if he does not want you there) and if he leaves you you can always be his friend
2006-07-10 18:32:21 · answer #7 · answered by Nar-Nar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really loves you and you really love him, you will be together eventually. If you start to get clingy and won't let him go, he will feel smothered and will want to break up all the more (he can get rid of girlfriend stress much easier than family stress). Give him his space. He will respect you for it and appreciate you more. And when you are able to be together (after he has sorted out his family problems) you will be happier without that stress.
2006-07-10 18:19:11 · answer #8 · answered by jbunk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you hanging on to this relationship? You said "we don't see each other" so what is the point of keeping up the bf/gf scenario? Don't tie yourself or him up when you could both be dating other people and enjoying that aspect of growing up and being a teen...it doesn't mean you can't remain friends...
Let him go...you would both be happier (after the hurt is over) with the opportunity to date someone local, that you can see and spend time with...a telephone cannot make up for that for very long...
It's what's the most fair for you both...you'll be fine, truly...
2006-07-10 18:17:54 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well talk it over and see what happens.
If he wants to break up with you, well thats okay. He'll later relize what a mistake he made.
As for his family problems, that should not affect his decision on breaking up with you in anyway. If he loves u he'll stay with you.
Later on see if you could go back and visit him if u moved out of state.
Even if you guys do break up, stay good friends with him even though youll be hurt. He'll appreiate that he can still keep you.
2006-07-10 18:25:41 · answer #10 · answered by Kendy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋