Should a guy tell his wife if he has had an "emotional" affair if he has since broken it off?

Answer 1

no. but you should feel like $hit for doin it!!!!!!!!!!!
i would ask God to forgive me though.

Answer 2

I've been told that there are things that should never be said or done even between husband and wife because somethings you just can't take back.

By human nature, each couple goes through many experiences, some are accepted and some are not accepted by our concept of what a good marriage should be. But the experiences are very human, and that is why marriage is work.

If you feel the dire need to talk about it, test the water, etc., why not just talk about in a hypothetical context. Also, ask yourself, how you would feel if your wife told you she's had an emotional affair with someone else?

'Just remember, though, that for a woman, her husband's emotional affair can be more traumatic than a mere physical one.

Answer 3

Why is this in "ettiquite"?? It should be in 'relationships' because your problem is that the guy who is having an emotional affair is obviously not receiving what he needs from the relationship and has to seek it elsewhere as a result. He should examine what he is missing and figure out if he should break up with his current girlfriend or examine the faults in their relationship and try to work on them. I would go with #2, without divulging a senseless 'emotional affair' issue that will just confuse the girl.

Answer 4

No, if you haven't allowed things to get physical, I don't believe there is a need to tell her. The price of relieving your conscience will be extreme pain for her. If you've broken it off, I hope that means you've learned that affairs of any kind aren't worth it, and that you know how to avoid falling into that trap again. Just learn from the mistake. If you believe in God (which I do), do talk to Him about it too, rather than your wife.

Answer 5

This is a difficult situation.

First of all, you should recognize that if you have had feelings for another woman, this is an indication that something is wrong in your life. You might want to get the help of an ecclesiastical leader or professional counselor on this one. Telling your wife about the affair might be part of that healing process.

Answer 6

I'm not sure exactly what you mean by an "emotional" affair. If he didn't have sex with the other person, then he didn't sin against his wife and it's really no concern of hers. You're free to love anybody you please, as much as you please, and for as long as you please, even if you're married. The only stipulation is that you reserve sex only for your spouse. If lust was a big part of this other relationship then it might be better to tell her, since she could help you resist it. But anyway, I'd say you're under no obligation to tell her (since you didn't do anything wrong), but talk to her if you feel the need. The choice is up to you.

Answer 7

if there was sex involved with the 'emotion', or even if there wasn't, you should tell her. you don't want to end up on jerry springer or maury.
if you have doubt about whether or not you should you tell her,
ask her, hypothetically, what she would do in a situation like that but don't refrence yourself. don't wanna self incriminate here....
i suppose the answer to that question is another question,
did you love the other individual and do you love your wife. if you say both, then you love neither. no one can live with less than half a heart.

Answer 8

Yes!
My husband was having an 'emotional affair' with my best friend. Yeah, I know. Ouch. But the point is, I wanted to know everything. (he didn't tell me, someone else did, and I found out that way) He came completely clean, gave me as much detail as I asked for, and I forgave him. She, on the other hand, didn't want to tell me anything, even after I confronted her, so to Hell with her. Yeah, and you should probably ask God to forgive you too

Answer 9

No!!! You never tell women the truth unless it benifits you. If you tell her you are screwed and if she finds out you are screwed, but right now she doesn't know so you don't have a problem. Why create a world of hurt for yourself? Your wife thinks the world of you right now (maybe) so why go and ruin that image for her. Just make sure you have covered all your tracks and she can not find out. Now go do something nice for her !!

Answer 10

Yes, in my opinion.

But it should be done respectfully and as sincerely and openly as possible.

And by "emotional" affair, do you mean non-sexual? If the wife found out later, she would may think "why didn't he tell me?," or "if I couldn't tell then, could I tell now?," or "can I even trust him?"

Answer 11

Today I read an article on that. If you broke it off because you felt remorseful, and because you really want to be with just your wife, they advised to keep it to yourself, because of the fact that the news could severely damage her, not to mention it would probably end the relationship.