how do I get my kids to listen?

Question

to stop playing video games all day

Answer 1

Give them more choices. Give them a choice in the situation that still ends up being what you wanted from them to begin with. The more they feel like they have control of a situation, the more cooperative they are. It'll change your life in a snap.

If they're done with everything they're supposed to do for the day, what's wrong with a few video games? Perphaps you're being too controlling of them. If they haven't done what they were supposed to give them an altimatum. Be fair but stern. When they've done something nice, reward them with praise and love. Treats aren't always necessary. Punishments aren't too useful, it makes children hate their dictator parents, who rule with an iron fist.

Answer 2

Number 1: You give 3 warnings; if they don't listen by the third warning you start punishing.
Number 2: If it's necessary take away the games.
Number 3: If that works you always limit their time to play/ If it doesn't work then ban them totally from your house.
I would say those are the only options. Hope they listen. Oh, and don't let them win against you, that just makes them sure that they can do it again.

Answer 3

You are the parent...take away the video games. You control their lives and their behavior. When their behavior isn't appropriate then you punish them. You should be scheduling their day and defining when playing video games are appropriate. If they aren't listening to you then the video games disappear for a week.

Answer 4

Your best bet is to set ground rules and stick to them. Use their video games as incentives to do things if you must. But when you discipline them you can not vere from what you tell them. Make a list of chores for them to do etc and when they get that done tell them they can play for an hour. When they are on the games and you tell them to get off, give them a few minutes to get off if they do not get off you take the game away from them for a few days, if after that they do it again a week and so forth. you have to make sure that what ever you tell them you stick to your guns. Kids will always try to see how far they can push you. if you would lilke to talk more email me at [e-mail] or see if i am on messenger at afvet3471

Answer 5

This is what I have learned and I am still experimenting with it. First, look for a book title "Don't Shoot the Dog!" Its about behavioral training and let's face-it. Kids are an 18 year social experiment in behavioral training.

Ok, you want your kids to listen to you. Give them a choice in behaviors that you want. For instance, you want them to take a bath and/or brush their teeth, they want to play. Ask them, "Would you like to brush your teeth or take a bath?" They only have two options, but allowing them to choose gives them a sense of power in their decisions and not a parent telling them what to do.

Also, let's say they are behaving in a manner that you may not like, for instance yelling in the house. Let them know that yelling is not appropriate and that it hurts your ears when they do. Also, ask them if that is appropriate behavior, it may surprise you that they know its not appropriate behavior and they'll stop.

Keep in mind, this is not a one time event. It takes practice on the part of the parent to modify a child's behavior. Be patient. After your attempt to modify the behavior, analyze the results and continue to improve on the technique.

This is what we use in our family and it does work. Be patient.

Answer 6

Aren't you the same person who hasn't had sex yet? Hah.

Well, the answer is: wrong question.

Kid don't listen. It takes a while to get through.

Rather than talking, get rid of the video game systems. Remember: you're the adult, and you're in charge. You don't want them wasting away in front of the tv? Get rid of it.

Answer 7

Why can't you banned them from playing video games for a while... Or take them to a park or the Incredible Pizza! I took my niece and nephew there! They loved it! Just take them out of the house and play some outdoor activities..

Answer 8

This girl needs professional help. She claims to be "scared and alone" in her other post and a virgin who has never had relationships and here she has kids who won't listen. I don't think Yahoo Answers is equipped to deal with schizophrenia. She just wants attention judging by her picture. Good luck, call a professional.

Answer 9

tell them with autorithy that they need to stop playing all day and tell them the days and the hours you let them play. That they need to do what you say cause your her mother and because if they dont do it, they will not get privileges when they want something or you will sale that video games or dont buy them more.

Answer 10

Tell me more about this video game setup that only kids can turn on and off.