So I found a hotel receipt in my boyfriend's pocket. He doesn't know I have the receipt, but I have been looking for an apartment so that when I let him know that I found it, I will be ready to move out. The problem is that we really can't afford to live alone. We have a 1 yr old daughter. What do I do? I am already embarrassed about what he did so I don't want to be with him any more, but I want our daughter to be well taken care of (he is a great father).
2006-07-10 09:12:52 · 29 answers · asked by Diamonds_4Ever 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
His name was on the recipt and it was from a night that my daughter and I were out of town (at my mother's house). Teh hotel is a few blocks away from our house.
2006-07-10 09:48:39 · update #1
You don't have to stay together in order for him to be a father. You can decide on joint custody on the child. If you can't afford to live on your own, try to find a friend or family member that can temporarily take you in while you earn some money.
Also, I think you should straighten things out about the receipt. Don't just automatically assume that he's cheating. If he lied about where he was going to be that night, that's a different story. Either way you should talk to him about it.
2006-07-10 09:16:00 · answer #1 · answered by youdontknowme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say if this is indisputable proof of wrong-doing. A hotel receipt by itself does not mean anything. That said, let's assume you do have this proof: Being a great father is certainly an asset (and may be the one thing upon which your bf may redeem himself should this be evidence of infidelity), but especially since you have a child together, your relationship deserves more respect. As painful as it may be for you, you need to bring it up for your and your daughter's sake. Don't be rash. Bring up your concern in as unemotional tone as you can muster. Speak only of the facts and try not to be pulled off center by his possibly defensive responses. Listen to his answers. If it turns out there is indeed an indiscretion, then consider the options for your relationship and your family. Every child deserves two parents. You know he's a good father, but should you split up, can you guarantee she will have good step-parents? Imagine what partner you would have, or he would have. Would they treat your daughter with respect and have her best interests at heart? Good luck to you~
2006-07-10 16:25:02 · answer #2 · answered by Finnegan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone else said get a roommate, which would work if you could find someone reliable to split your bills with. I live in South Florida, and we have something called Rent Free Realty. I don't know where you are, but you might want to look into them. They only charge the people who list their properties for rent and they have a huge database, so they can help you find something that meets your needs. If not, then I suggest you pack your bags anyway and see about staying with a friend or relative until you can get back on your own. Good luck, and I know this is tough, but you made the right choice.
2006-07-10 16:17:08 · answer #3 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that even though you're embarrassed about the situation, you still need to take care of it. I know it will be embarrassing to tell him you found the receipt, but do you really wanna be with someone who does that behind your back?
And ask your parents to help take care of your daughter, or to help pay for an apartment. I hope everything works out okay.
2006-07-10 16:16:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should you be embarrassed, he's the one who might have done something wrong. Are you sure he didn't lend his jacket out to a friend? Or has his behavior given you reason to think he has been cheating. If so, then your doing the right thing, save some money or if you need to borrow it until you get on your feet. If he is cheating you deserve better and so does your daughter. Good luck!
2006-07-10 16:16:21 · answer #5 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are making an assumption about the hotel room. You might be 100% correct about your suspicions, but I would still confront him about it before you move out.
If it doesn't go well, look for a roommate, another single woman or even another single mom you can split the bills with. Good luck.
2006-07-10 16:16:31 · answer #6 · answered by Christina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The queaston is do you still love him? if you have a child together and there is room to work things out than maybe that would be an option......he would need to come clean to you thou and be honest.......if there is no room in your heart for him to make things better then it sounds like you need to leave anyways...as for not having enough money...well sounds like you may have to get a second job or just a better on.......and if he is a great father to your child he will always be a great father.......everything will work out the way it should.
2006-07-10 16:19:33 · answer #7 · answered by Lindy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know that the hotel receipt was from a night he spent with another woman? Have you asked him?
2006-07-10 16:15:49 · answer #8 · answered by TKO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront him... get it out.. maybe it was for something harmless like an actual buisness trip... instead of thinking he was sliding around with a local harlot, and leaving him in the dust and essentially screwing up everything over nothing... listen to what he has to say first... if you move out first then find out it was nothing... your all done. Good job screwing up the kids life forever... always ask first when kids are involved.
2006-07-10 16:16:49 · answer #9 · answered by need to know basis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, maybe you can talk to him and agree to live together but not be together. I'm thinking what you're thinking as far as the hotel receipt, however, have you tried ot talk to him about it. Make sure it's what you think it is?
2006-07-10 16:16:43 · answer #10 · answered by purpleama456 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋