I’m close friends with a girl who I liked, so I told her 3 weeks ago. She responded by saying that she just wanted to be friends. But over the course of the last 3 weeks she has kissed me many times and we have cuddled together intimately a lot. I would say we act as boyfriend and girlfriend.
She rings me 1st thing in the morning and last thing at night, and many times during the day. She wants to hang out together each day. She has told me everything about her! We talk for hours. She says she wants to meet my family.
She still says we are friends. Says she has gotten hurt by her last two boyfriends not long ago and is scared of giving her heart away again. She still talks a lot about her last boyfriend who hurt her badly – Basically used her and then suddenly stopped all contact with her without explanation!
Does she even like me? Am I being played for a fool and don’t see it? Help please I'm really confused!
2006-07-10 08:53:30 · 14 answers · asked by AskingQuestion 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
she definitely likes you. because she's been hurt she's wanting to take it slow, and not so willing to put herself all out so soon. she is telling you the truth about being scared of giving her heart away. when she feels she has enough trust again, you will be the boyfriend. support her and keep up with the patience.
2006-07-10 09:09:03 · answer #1 · answered by gurrrly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To point out the obvious - she likes you. She's doing the smart thing and setting boundaries for herself and for the both of you, knowing she's been hurt before, and proceeding cautiously. The kissing and cuddling is definitely intimate - it allows you to be close without making her feel committed too soon or trapped, making her second guess herself and her feelings just because she's not really healed yet. She's trying to work out just how much she likes you, learning to trust you slowly, and becoming comfortable with the idea of a relationship again. The real question is what do you do about it. If you like her enough to be patient, then wait, definitely. When and if she's ready and sure, it will happen. And as long as you do the same, by setting boundaries for yourself (lines you will not cross until you are officially a couple, for instance), you will be able to come into a trusting, mutual relationship slowly and comfortably. Being patient can really be tough though, so it's up to you to decide how much you want it, and under what circumstances.
2006-07-10 18:07:02 · answer #2 · answered by kiddprincess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello? What part of "We are just friends" don't you understand???
After 3 years you have heard the "friend" speech before and is not going to get any further than that. She likes you as a friend and she is not going to jeopardize your friendship by telling you that she has no romantic feelings towards you, she won;t do that because she doesn;t want to hur your feelings, but those feelings are just in terms of a friendship.
She has told you about her ex so she is not over him, if she talks about other people romanticaly is because she is interested in them not you ,..... do you want to know why??? Because when you are really into someone you are NOT going to ruin your prospects talkind about your ex..... get it?
Sorry dude, she is your friend and is going to stay that way. If you are confused buy the huggin and kissing, don;t be fooled, it doesn;t mean that you are his boyfriend, but rather that she really needs consolatation.
2006-07-10 16:01:25 · answer #3 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is using you. Not in a mean way tho. More like she's looking for comfort from a guy and you just happened to have told her your feelings. espeically if she's been hurt recently. I wouldn't put too much into it becoming a relationship but I wouldn't let her act that way cuz you may end up feeling hurt in the end.
2006-07-10 15:59:10 · answer #4 · answered by fille_morte 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She likes you she is just scared of getting together and then ruining the greatest friendship she has ever had. Let her see that you are there no matter how scared she is. She like you all the same. Once she has settled with the fact that you are there through it all. She will let you in.
2006-07-17 15:09:39 · answer #5 · answered by Trin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she basically doesn't want the commitment, yet she wants the benefits of a relationship. while she does have a motive for this (not wanting to be hurt again), it's not fair to you because she's leading you on. tell her that unless she can commit to you totally, i don't think its appropriate for you guys to even kiss if you are "just friends." she needs to heal first, then maybe you guys can become a couple.
2006-07-10 15:58:44 · answer #6 · answered by flowerchild 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it slow. Don't scare her off. You are on the right track. All relationships should start off as friends. You're enjoying your time with her. So don't try and push it. or you may end up losing her.
Just enjoy her company.
2006-07-10 16:02:44 · answer #7 · answered by serenity seeker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, she likes you......and she likes knowing that you care for her in that way and she can be non-commital to you. Basically getting her cake and eat it too. Next time she kisses you or tries to cuddle, just say that "friends" don't do that. Make her work to get your affection....
2006-07-10 17:40:26 · answer #8 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she dose like you , she just needs time to get over the last relations she was in. Just let her know that you are there for her. and eventually she will let you know.
2006-07-10 17:33:49 · answer #9 · answered by Chaos_angel0 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy the time that you are spending together.
Do not get caught up in all of this mental crap.
She likes you.
2006-07-10 15:57:59 · answer #10 · answered by Matty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋