Is it ok to approach a girl just to ask her if she wants to meet up for a date sometime?

Question

Well I get alot of anxiety about rejection, so I was wondering if I can try a short and simple approach. If I am with a bunch of friends, and I notice a girl sitting down, can I just approach her and basically tell her I'm with a bunch of friends but would like to go on a date or for a cofee or something like that.

If that's ok, what exactly should I say, I mean the exact 2 or 3 sentances that I tell her to try to secure the cofee date or meeting with her?

Answer 1

of course!! I think that's cool. Girls like guys that are assertive. Just walk up to her and make a little conversation. Maybe what book she's holding, what she's wearing, etc. Then just say something like, hey I'm with some friends right now but would you like to get some coffee with me sometime? Make sure you get her phone number. Go for it - good luck! Don't worry about getting rejected. It's going to happen no matter what. But the more you try it, the less anxiety you'll feel and the more comfortable you'll be.

Answer 2

Yes, it is perfectly normal to want to do that.

There are a few suggestions that you might want to consider though:.

Open communication is very important to all of us, especially women. This builds trust.

No matter what, you must think of something that the person and you have in common and start up a conversation first with her and get right into talking as much as possible.

Be a genuine friend too. Only want the very best for her and make sure she is happy too. She will very much appreciate that and open her eyes to you in that way in a big way. Then ask her out for a "Meet and Greet" at a local coffee shop.

The Meet and Greet can easily be done first , just make sure that you've had a conversation with her beforehand. It isn't dating, it is just a way to open a door to conversation with her first.

Answer 3

Be casual and ask if she wants some thing to drink.... coffee, tea, soda, etc.
Don't pop the date question until after you get to say a few words ... then maybe suggest seeing a movie. At least that's something to talk about - what's playing, what's coming out soon.

Have a little story or question or two ready in case the conversation lulls.
Did you watch the playoffs?
Have any dogs (pets, siblings...)?
Try to relax and act like you would if you were going to get a cup of coffee or ice tea with a friend.

Answer 4

Your approach is OK. How about "Hi! I'm with a bunch of friends, what are you doing? I'm doing (fill in the blanks). I noticed you because (fill in the blanks - nothing rude or in the realm of "you're really hot") Hey, would you like to go out for some coffee sometime?" Don't say date,just out for x...You can start "dating" after the non-date *lol
Though I think it should be unscripted, but definitely try to strike up a conversation first, chances are that maybe you'll find out that YOU'RE not interested.

Answer 5

You can take that approach, but I doubt many women will respond well to it...there's little chance I'd agree to meet a perfect stranger for a date, I want to know if there's any chemistry/connection first so I don't waste my time or his (a lot of people don't casually date, just to be dating).

Maybe a better approach would be to just ask for her phone number (or offer her yours if she's reluctant to give hers) and tell her you would like to get to know her better, but are with friends (if it's true) and cannot really sit and chat...or possibly print up some business-size cards with your photo, phone number, and email address on them...walk up to a woman you find appealing and tell her the "would love to chat but am with friends" bit, then hand her one of your cards and ask her to contact you...

You really need to get over your issue with rejection...it's a part of life, and WHY allow a total stranger's rejection of you to bother you? You don't know each other, there is no emotional or time investment, just an attraction that isn't mutually felt...don't take it personally, as if she finds you a horrid person, she doesn't know you and you don't know her...you may be getting anxious over rejection by a woman who might have turned out to be a nightmare...

Take it in stride...rejection happens...acceptance happens...the rejections make the acceptances all the sweeter!

Good luck!

Answer 6

a good approach is to not even ask a question but to make a statement like "hey, we should go out sometime" in a nonchalant and disarming way. This works well if you get to know the girl and have things in common. Say you're talking about something you both like, your approach could go something like this "that's awesome, I'm into that stuff too, we should go out sometime etc. etc."

Answer 7

Sure, if she has already made eye contact with you she might be interested already. It never hurts to take a chance. I wouldn't go directly for a date but ask her for some coffee to start. Something non-threatening. There are no 2 or 3 sentences that will always work. Just be honest and don't try to play games. We always know!!

Answer 8

Ya it's o.k as long as your goal is not only to get in her pants. You should tell her you think she is beatiful. Beautiful is much more of a compliment than hot. Never use hot because it is sometimes considered a insult. And then ask her if she'd like to go out with you sometime and write down your phone # on a napkin then give it to her and say see you around.

Answer 9

If your friends are cool than you can ask the girl to hang out with all of you and if she says yes then before the day is over ask her to go for coffee sometime or a walk in the park.

Answer 10

It works with some, but it depends on how confident you are when you ask and how the girl is feeling about you.
You have a 50/50 chance of her saying yes.
If been out on a date after someone came over and asked me before. And I've asked people out the same way with positive results