hes had lied to me twice about how many people hes had sex with because hes embarrased . its really hard for me because i am a virgin . weve only been together for 2 months and we both have really deep feelings for each other>>BUT now that i really know i dont know what to do PLEASE HELP ME I NEED SOME ADVISE
2006-07-10 08:31:59 · 24 answers · asked by mbashm101 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i don't think you should stay with him. not so much because of the 21 people, but because he lied to you. he did not even give you a chance to discuss it with him. bad news. i speak from experience when i say this. a guy who lies like that will continue to lie to you, about even more disturbing things in the future.
DO NOT GIVE THAT MAN YOUR VIRGINITY. HE WILL NOT CHERISH IT.
GOOD LUCK
2006-07-10 08:36:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry sweetie but the answer is No and here's why: He lied. A MAN never needs to lie because he knows who he is and what he's all about. Frankly, his amount of sexual partners doesn't mean anything. I'm sure this intimidated you, but just between us girls, a man can have sex once and be better in bed than a man who's had sex 1000 times.
I just wouldn't trust a man who lies. No matter what his reason is.
2006-07-10 15:44:25 · answer #2 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been out with about 15 guys in my 21 years had sex with about 6 of them and when I met my boyfriend, he only went out with about 5 girls and he is 4 years older and I felt a little embrassed and now we joke about it all. He is not intimidated by that. It is cause you are still a virgin and he doesn't want you to feel a certain way, like he is there to take your virginity and leave you hanging. So talk to him about the lie and sort it out with her and give him a chance.
2006-07-10 15:42:54 · answer #3 · answered by angela414_7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it doesn't matter how long you have been dating for cuz people can be dating for 3month and have sex but some could be dating for 3years and not have sex so it all depends on how you feel with the situation and there is nothing wrong with being a virgin some poeple rather wait and most people think its a new thing and they want to try it out but its just a fad there are other things to do than sex so good luck and if he keeps lieing to u then dump his sorry a$$
2006-07-10 15:40:06 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How important is it to you that your boyfriend be a virgin also?
If you want to be with someone who hasn't had sex before, then move on.
As for your current boyfriend... whether he has had sex with 1 other person, or 50 other people, he's still had sex. The number doesn't really matter. Just be sure it was protected sex!
What are your reasons for not having sex? Does he respect your reasons? Can you trust someone who isn't open & truthful with you?
What's done is done... you can't de-virginize him, so its your decision... What do YOU want out of a partner???
2006-07-10 15:45:18 · answer #5 · answered by .·:*RENE*:·. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A relationship should be from the time you start dating forward. It shouldnt be about the past. He lied because he was embarassed. If you cant let it go dump him, but he deserves a chance to change and start over new. He felt intimidated by the fact you are a virgin. When you start a relationship you shouldnt worry about peoples pasts too much. most people have a past. a new relationship is about the future.
2006-07-10 15:35:26 · answer #6 · answered by bertino p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends on how old he is ... and is he telling the truth this time around?
Is he fifteen and had sex with everyone in town ??
Or 43 and had sex with two dozen women (and men)??
Might be a bit of a difference there. The question is do YOU want to be one of many or would you like someone not quite so promiscuious?
2006-07-10 15:42:00 · answer #7 · answered by twstdlzrd211 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No u shouldnt stay with him the fact he had sex isnt as bad as knowing how many hes had sex with but more than that hes lied to you and this isnt really a big subject to lie about so think of wat else he might lie about... I honestly believe u could do better and its a good thing ur still a virgin (i am too)
2006-07-10 15:37:50 · answer #8 · answered by Fumadero 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummmmm honestly, its none of your business unless he is diseased or something. you thought he was born the day before he met you? don't be ridiculous, what he did before he knew you has nothing to do with you. i think he's fine, but i think the bf should think twice about continuing to date you if you are honestly considering holding things he did before he even knew you existed against him, thats pretty uppity of you. he didn't murder anyone, he had sex. pssssssst he's a guy, if someone is giving it he's going to take it! and one more clue for you, after 2 months you don't have 'deep' feelings for each other, its called the infatuation stage, look it up. i think you need to grow up some before you pursue anything like a serious relationship.
2006-07-10 15:38:32 · answer #9 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i understand ur point, but all that sleeping around was in the past. before he meets u, now the only thing for u do is to make sure he sincere with u and let him know that if he is care about u he should not have to lie. ask him to be honest with u at all times.
2006-07-10 15:39:57 · answer #10 · answered by ivelisse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋