My ex is going out with his ex for the third time. What do I do?

Question

My boyfriend and I recently broke up (two weeks ago), but we were planning on getting back together with each other. However, while we were broken up, his ex called him and told him she still liked him. Now, he's pursuing her again. We're the only two girls he's fallen in love with (so he said). The thing is, he dated her for two months in his sophomore year, and two months in his junior year. They never worked out. They cheated on each other and whatnot. I've made it clear that I still have strong feelings for him and that his ex was wrong in stepping in like that.. They're going to wait a few months before actually going out (so she said), so that will help. My question is, his ex is one of my really good friends [about that, i asked her completely before i went out with him if it would bother her and she said NO, so that's why i went out with him] and we're all in band together. That means I'm going to see them at school every day and weekend. How do I get over him/deal with that?

Answer 1

First off ignore the stupid suggestions from level ones.

You just found out why people shouldn't date their friend's ex, even if they say it is okay with them. It was a bad relationship to get into in the first place, but you gained some firsthand experience, fell in love, and now you get to learn how to move on. Their "new" relationship will probably fall apart as fast as it started, but I would advise you against getting back together. You need to either find a new guy to chase after or enjoy being single and drama-less (or drama-lesser).

Answer 2

Well since you said in another question that you answered that you wouldn't date a black man because they are not your type, I guess your options are limited. You need to grow up, and stop chasing someone you let go of. I believe that what upsets you is that he didn't sit around and pine after you, but got right to business. You are upset because he found someone else before you did. Don't be so naive next time to think that a guy is going to wait for you to make up your mind. Regardless of what he may say when you are breaking up with him, if an opportunity arises for him be with some else, he'll probably take it!

Answer 3

Sorry to hear that! It's a lot to deal with when your so young and still in high school. You have to think about what's going through his head. Not being with you makes him feel alone so he fills the void with the ex because it's an easy fix. It's easier for him to deal with the break up if the ex is there because he's not alone. I suggest you do the same. Find Mr. Booty!

Answer 4

Life is too precious and sweet for you to allow it to be messed up. Its not like there is any dirth of men around you. If a man has an unsettled mind at this stage, can you imagine what a loser he could be later? Be normal, go to school and enjoy with other boys and girls. Becoming seriously involved with someone can come on later. Actually, believe me, you miss out on some of the best times when you get tied down to someone at an early age. Celebrate your freedom! Enjoy!

Answer 5

it seems that your boyfriend or ex is conveniently confuse, (he wants to have the opportunity to date you both, and what are you suppose to do sit and wait, hell no) and if i were you i wouldn't want to be part of that confusion. while he is dating your friend, you should also explore the possibility of dating someone new too, im almost sure that you will never want to be with your ex again. and yes it will be uncomfortable to see them 2gether but if you are busy having a life and dating someone way cooler (and possibly better looking/richer than him) it won't bother you as much. Just move on and have fun, let's wish them both the best

Answer 6

First, this will make a great novel someday. Second, I think the guy is playing both of you, so he has little "downtime" between girlfriends. Third, I think you need to find somebody maybe outside this close little circle, so you don't mix your band life with your dating life. Keep yourself sane!

Answer 7

I know its hard hun, Ive been there, sort of. My boyfriend of 1 year, dumped me for my friend, and the next day I see them at school laughing and hugging and kissing. I say you stop being her friend, cause she did even ask you for your permission , ( and you did), and date another guy to get even. A guy you like, not just a rebound. Forget him, hes playing you both, and he knows it.

Answer 8

Since you and him already broke up and all, the best thing you can do is move on with your life. You have no right to force a decision on his life as well as he has no right to do the same with yours. It is just human nature. Learning to accept it and moving on is the best thing to do here.

Remember, Anyone who doesn't value your sense of Trust and your sense of People doesn't deserve to have you in their lives.

Answer 9

TWO THINGS YOU SAID!! one MY X and the ONLY TWO GIRLS HE LOVES.. That my love should answeer your question..If I was talking to my daughter I'de advise her to start looking for another boyfriend, one that wants only her..Its hard and hurts but sweetie the writtings on the wall..Theres alot of nice guys out there , find one for yourself, one that will be true to you and you alone..I dated my wife in h/s and were still together (HUSBAND AND WIFE ) for 45 years, US FAITHFULL GUYS ARE STILL OUT THERE SWEETY JUST LOOK...LOL, Good Luck and Hang in there... LOL ROB

Answer 10

that is what happens when u date friends leftovers.dump him n learn 2 be mature n deal with them being 2gether. he is not right 4 u if he can go back n forth so easily.