I just recently got out of a relationship that lasted two years. (Ended july 3rd) We were engaed since Dec 05 and now are splitting up. We live together and she has not even moved out as of yet. - she will be by the end of the month. We have been more like friends for a long time, and we were hardly ever intimate at all. Like not even in the last six months. We are still going to be friends though. Personally, I did my crying; drove home to see my mother and family etc. I am not distraught at all anymore, although it still hurts slightly I suppose.
I posted a profile on a web board and a nice young lady responded to me. I added her to my favorites and she could see it, so she emailed me. My question is, how long should a person wait to date again? Aren't these things rather difficult to explain? I have not told her as of yet, but I feel to hide it from her would be wrong. I feel the need to tell her, but I don't want to ruin it with the truth. Any thoughts?
2006-07-10 08:14:25 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I'm agreed with the others on the idea that the relationship is done and done means that it really isn't any of her business what your status is in the dating department. I also agree with churchmusicgirl on the 'how you broke up' suggestion. Two thumbs up to that.
The only time that I would consider telling her is if you plan to have the new prospective gf over to your residence while the ex-gf is still living there. That is only polite as the ex is still your roommate/housemate for the time. Seeing as the ex is only going to be at the place you live until the end of the month, it would probably be just easier and more tactful (since you don't know what your ex's feelings are) to wait until after she leaves to invite prospective girlfriends over.
In regards to how soon to get back on the dating ball, dittos to those who said to date when you feel ready for it.
2006-07-10 08:51:01 · answer #1 · answered by randomnight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I certainly wouldn't start dating again while you two are living together. As for telling her, you really don't have that obligation. This is going to be a sticky point if you two remain friends. You should start dating again when you feel ready, but that doesn't mean that she's ready to date or that she's ready to see you date someone else.
Something else to consider is the way in which the breakup occurred. If she broke up with you, she has no right to be upset about you dating someone else. If you broke up with her, I would bet it'll be a long time before she can comfortably talk about this with you. If it was mutual and you two are still on very good terms, you should probably talk with her openly. But I still wouldn't do that (or even start dating) until you two have seperate residences.
2006-07-10 08:24:56 · answer #2 · answered by Church Music Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no time limit to wait to start dating again. It's when you feel comfortable doing so. You shouldn't have to explain yourself right away either. If you see a new relationship going towards the serious direction, then you can talk about it. Only you can know when you are ready to start dating again.
2006-07-10 08:23:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm in a protracted distance dating on the 2d and actual now this is actual for me, interior the week i will get on with my existence and then see him on the weekend. Its greater in spite of works for you, no it is user-friendly to tell you that! yet, in spite of you do, do not date different adult males except you have spoken to a minimum of one yet another and desperate that its ok for you the two to this element different persons. this is not honest in case you have all the exciting! in case you have merely moved then you certainly may be sitting around the residing house in spite of while you're in a protracted distance dating or not. Its okay to be friends with adult males yet dont date them except your boyfriends is extensive-unfold with which you're or its rather not honest. to safeguard merely shifting I recommend you get on the information superhighway and seem for some golf equipment like a activities club or poker club or some thing to top off or evenings. this might assist you're making new friends and shop you busy so which you ought to not be sitting around the residing house and merely moping around lacking male touch/lacking your guy. Then if that doesn't artwork possibly the completed long distance factor merely isnt actual for you on the 2d.
2016-12-08 18:00:01 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your relationship with her is over, but I would wait to discuss dating again for awhile with her. In the meantime, you should continue to discreetly explore your options. You have a right to find someone new and if it's not Miss Right, it might at least be Miss Okay For Now. :) Right now you need to take care of you! Hugs!
2006-07-10 08:19:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Done is done.
If you are ready, then you are. It's no one else's business, I personally have switched during the same day... (although I don't recomend this, I am also many ex's 'that guy' so I really don't recomend following my example)
Either way, it is really none of the ex's business what you do at this point, as you no longer 'share your time' with her.
2006-07-10 08:25:03 · answer #6 · answered by palevox 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're officially broken up... I feel there is no need to tell her anything. Me personally, I would wait to date, just to give me time to know I'm actually over that person... But everone is different.. If you're ready to date, do so. I don't think you should tell her anything though...
2006-07-10 08:20:50 · answer #7 · answered by qbanita0113 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait till the old bag leaves then get the new one.
2006-07-17 04:18:52 · answer #8 · answered by jim w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋