I was in relationship for 15 months. She was a devout Catholic I just beleived in God and had no religion. Finally when I accepted the Catholicism she started saying how she loves me but she couldnt get herself to beleive with her heart that it will stay this way. Ever since we broke up she has been pushing me away as far as possible and trying not to have contact with me. It has been 3 months since we broke up and I was diagnosed clinically depressed, I still love her with all my heart and would give and do anything to be with her and make her beleive, I need to get her to beleive me or at least talk to me. I dont know what to do I been in relationships before but with her Its different cause for her and for us I was willing to do anything and still am. By the way I am 27 years old. Please help
2006-07-10 08:05:51 · 20 answers · asked by djecak 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Find someone else. She doesn't want you. Stop being a stalker. Stop being depressed. Go out and live your life. You're old enough to have learned this **** by now. Stop being immature. Just because you want to talk to her does not mean she wants to talk to you so leave her alone.
2006-07-10 08:09:55 · answer #1 · answered by jdscorrupted 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Here's a question to ask yourself - now that she is gone, would you consider yourself Catholic? Have you gone to church, taken communion, or gone to confession since you broke up? Are you truly a believer, or do you just want someone who doesn't want less than to truly share their religion and have a spiritual connection?
I sympathize with you, though.
I haven't ever really heard of this for being a reason for breaking up, and if it got to the point that you were 15 months into this relationship, why would now be the final straw? Its not like she didn't know that going into it. I really think either a) this was her lame excuse or b) she may not have known what she wanted when you met, but knows now that sharing faith is an important part of what she wants in a relationship
Don't change yourself for anyone but you. And maybe you'll find someone that shares your own religion and find something that is not only emotionally but spiritually satisfying as well.
2006-07-10 08:16:52 · answer #2 · answered by jiltdnjaded 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since I believe marriages are made in heaven and love a magical communication when heavenly partners knows each other I'll say that you must not hate her coz' of this. That never happens. Yet now it is seen that she is loving the religion and believing in religion but not in the god who had made u love her. If you loves her tell it one more time open heartedly. If she really loved she could not throw you out just for her belief. You or she never feel departed if true loves rests in you. How far away she may be the power of true love makes you more and more close. So let you first analyse that you have true love to her and she too had it once. then if you are tobe united u'll understand that love and finally will be united. Else she may not be your heavenly partner whom god chose 4 u.
2006-07-10 08:20:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anikuttan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay first of all, why cant you see that she is selfish? I dont have a problem with religion. I have my relationship with God. I accept Jesus in my life I am neither catholic nor christian. I made this decision because I see many people claiming religion and making judgments on others. Not very nice. But by no means do I push anyone else to believe what I believe. And for her to do that is just wrong. I think that you need to let this go seriously. Dont you wanna be with someone who loves you for you and not what you believe in but yet supports you? Why did you guys break up?? Don't you think that she doesnt want anything to do with you? Maybe it's not tied to religion. Maybe she just doesnt wanna be with you as harsh as that sounds. Its proly her form of getting over you. Move on. When she realizes that you arent suffocating her with your calls and visits or w/e things might change. I think your suffocating her and not allowing yourself time to heal because your becoming so infatuated. Breathe let it go and move on with life. If you believe in your God, then you know He will provide for you....Take care. God Bless.
2006-07-10 08:21:30 · answer #4 · answered by Cloe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she has some issues. Talk to her or find some way to communicate with her and let her know you love her and are willing to do whatever it takes to make it work. Counseling would be your best bet in this situation that way you can both (but especially her) work through your issues. You might even want to suggest going to get counseling by your Priest.
If she refuses to go to counseling with you - then it's clear she is done with the relationship and it's an indication that you need to move on.
2006-07-10 08:09:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It looks to me like she is afraid of commitment. I had the same problem where I was like her and it wasn't until my husband told me that we would never love each other 24/7 and that there would be times we just would not get along. Finally it dawned on me just how afraid I was of not being in love 24/7. We've been married now for almost 14 years.
2006-07-10 08:16:48 · answer #6 · answered by Mommymonster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really deserve alot better than that. You seem sweet and you actually care unlike all the other friggin guys in this world. Nobody should ever ask you to change your beleifs in god. If she doesn't like you for who you are than I'm sure there's someone who loves you for you. It might sound cheesy but there's many fish in the sea. GOOD LUCK!
2006-07-10 08:12:04 · answer #7 · answered by Kelsey W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people "convert" and it doesn't mean that you'll change back later. I think she was looking for a reason to break up with you. It seems like she has already found someone else, follow her sometime and you will find out for sure. I don't mean act crazy like a stalker, pay attention to your surroundings and you'll find out, that's what I'm saying. Good luck to you :-)
2006-07-10 08:10:38 · answer #8 · answered by Karen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you dis was really sweet..
maybe your not really meant to be together..
i know its really hard to forget someone that you really love..
i broke up with the person i love for about 3 months also and im far from over him..
its hard to move on, specially if you dont want to move on..
just give it a rest for the mean time and hope for the best..
2006-07-10 08:15:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send her a letter telling her how you really feel. Ask her to come with you to a couples therapy or something to talk about what changed or happened to make you guys break up. Maybe there is more to it then she wants you to know.
2006-07-10 08:09:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋