Why is that so many people feel because they are attractive they are entitled to love more then someone who may not be as attractive. Does being beautiful knock out the need for a good and caring personality? Why do people think that someone that may be unattractive to you may not be attractive to someone else? Why do some think unattractive people have to be doing extra stuff like buying gifts, putting out, or being someone's personal doormat to find love?
2006-07-10 07:45:54 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
For those whove answered. I'm not speaking about myself but another topic in Q&A got me thinking.
2006-07-10 07:54:05 · update #1
One more thing.
I AM NOT IN HIGHSCHOOL!!! I'm am 30 years old. These situations don't die when you graduate it happens every day in life. Plus like I said before this was created in regards to another forum.
2006-07-10 08:01:29 · update #2
You are so right, I was raised differently as I was taught beauty is from the heart and soul....Looks fade with time. It cracks me up too. To me there is no ugly person, God made us all beautiful. I have tried to teach my daughter that beauty isnt what makes the girl. When someone tells her she is pretty not to let it go to her head. Beauty dosent make you special, it dosent make you anything. Sometimes the most beautiful people are the ugliest ones. Because they think that everyone owes them something because they are pretty.
2006-07-10 07:56:49 · answer #1 · answered by Texas_at_its_best 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are in high school, because that is where we all learn this crap. Children can be mean and childish and when you put them all together in a school setting where all must conform to "standards" both academic and social, those children that stand out as different are easy prey for the meanest attention.
In truth, society does not feel this way - though there are ignorant individuals who would like folks to feel otherwise (and unfortunately he is very loud). There are all kinds of people in this world and we all tend to gravitate to our kindred spirits.
Our own thoughts and beliefs attract positive and negative influences into our lives. It's almost as if god can hear you thinking and he just sends more of whatever he hears you thinking about most. Please, be smart and rise above this silly nonsense and think positiviely. You are the creative power in your existence - think about the way things should be in your life.
Sit quietly and imagine yourself happy - really happy and warmly loved. The more vividly you can do it, the better it works. Do it at least 1 time for about 3-5 minutes each day - you will see positive results within 2 weeks if you maintain. Beleive my friend - we have the power to create our world every day.
Peace!
2006-07-10 07:58:48 · answer #2 · answered by carole 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think its just a by-product of being in a looks based society. Being attractive opens all sorts of doors... or should I say has everyone opening the doors for you. So when an attractive person looks at this... of course they pick other "attractive people".
I think that if there's an attractive person that has their nose up in the air, is looking down at people.. or whatever, they really aren't so attractive after all. If they're beautiful *and* have some humility, they're a winner.
2006-07-10 07:53:21 · answer #3 · answered by Nobody 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everybody is attractive to someone. It is not anybodies right to say that someone is unattractive because just because you may think you're attractive doesn't mean that you really are. Everyone wants and deserves love. "Attractive" people don't think that "unattractive"people need as much love as they do because they are self-centered. But not all all "attractive" people are like that. "Unattractive" people think that they have to go the extra mile to find love but really love is right there waiting for them. If someone says that they found love by doing something extra then they are wrong. Because true love is something you can't buy.
2006-07-10 07:59:08 · answer #4 · answered by britneyc05 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Um...
Personally, I'd rather be with the person that the world views as unattractive. I find that attractive people feel they deserve the negative treatment you described from everyone, not just those they deem as unattractive people. We all learn sooner or later that it's about what's on the inside that counts...and some of these so called attractive men and women aren't that wonderful at all.
2006-07-10 07:54:47 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because the love that they experience and know is not genuine love. People like that commonly only experience and offer superficial loves. A person that has experienced that real love, knows that it transcends all of the petty things, like looks, that we preoccupy ourselves with. And "unattractive people" as you defined it have self esteem issues that they feel can be complimented with materialism. Some men do this. They buy "manly" cars and act "macho" to promote a masculinity that they internally feel they lack.
2006-07-10 07:51:53 · answer #6 · answered by Big Daddy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have not met many people, ugly or beautiful, who thought that 'love' should be given only to attractive-looking people. It is factual that society has the tendency to treat 'people' the way 'people' treat themselves. In other words, if I think I deserve a nice car, I will wind up with a nice car. People get what they EXPECT to get. When people have low self-esteem, they expect nothing wonderful for themselves, and other people can 'sense' that. When a child gets positive attention from his family, he feels valued and he EXPECTS to be valued. When a child is neglected or abused, they EXPECT to be neglected and abused. It is the only reality they know. It takes years to undo the damage done to an abused child.Good Luck !
2006-07-10 08:00:29 · answer #7 · answered by SpongebobRoundpants 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i imagine unattractive actual, yet i imagine of as instantly as someone receives to be attentive to me that i'm surprisingly mind-blowing! Haha i'm no longer self-obsessed in any respect I surely imagine of i'm an mind-blowing human being and my outside seems must be deceiving(no longer a montster surely extremely lower than common).
2016-11-06 03:54:42 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a sterotype. Are you in high school or a lower level? Don't worry, past the age of 18, it doesn't really matter anymore. There are many people out there that doesn't feel that you have to be attractive to be loved. From my experience, I've only met people like that back in school. what?....i lost my train of thought
2006-07-10 07:50:28 · answer #9 · answered by Oh My 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They are all arrogent *** holes. Sorry it had to be said. I am an "ugly" person by societies standards, but not all men think alike. I get told I am beautiful all the time and to stop worring about my looks. Just because someone is not what the world wants them to be, doesnt mean they are ugly. Everyone is beautiful in there own way and if you have to be someones door mat to get them to love you then they are not worth your presious time!
Liz
2006-07-10 07:51:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋