I was adopted and I have started cutting. My parents found out and now I cant go anywhere because they are afraid me and my friend are going to do it again. I told my mom that I would stop once but I never did What do I do to reassure her that I wont do it again and gain her trust at the same time?
2006-07-10 07:42:19 · 13 answers · asked by Punker 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just do the right thing and no more cutting. It will take time for your parents to start trusting you again. But dont look at it like they are holding you down by not giving you freedom. You need to see it how it is intended, as concern and love for you. Your parents care about you very much and just want to keep you safe form yourself. Only time will help you regain their trust.
2006-07-10 07:50:55 · answer #1 · answered by heathermama_tx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, figure out why it is you're cutting if you don't already know. second, find another way to release you frustration, sing, read, dance, scream into a pillow, anything but cutting yourself. third, ask your parents to take you to counseling...I know a lot of kids don't look fondly on this but it can help so much to talk to someone and let it all out. and lastly, don't do anything you know will make them lose trust in you, you're going to have to work very hard from this point on and once you lose it and get it back you can lose it again so easily. stay on the straight and narrow. if your friends are trying to talk you into it, try to talk them out of it and if they continue, get new friends hun. your life and happiness isn't worth all that. good luck to you sweetie.
2006-07-10 07:56:51 · answer #2 · answered by pohter1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents know when their kids are lieing. You need help - ask your parents to get you some professional help from a counselor that understands cutting. I pray you won't die from an infection or permanently scar yourself too badly before you get help from someone. Life doesn't have to be so depressing. Faith in God helps many of us find peace - check out a local Baptist or Evangelical Free youth group.
2006-07-10 08:03:51 · answer #3 · answered by mumsy_of_two 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going to quickly guess, you are still a teenager.
being thus, I will attempt not to talk-down to you, since I am in my 50's.
I will try to say this much,
...A--find a qualified doctor for your cutting issue.
THAT is your primary task.
B-gaining trust anywhere in life entails someone being able to show responsibility to others, and to themselves.
if you can show yourself first that you love yourself and do not wish harm to yourself, that is one step.
assume small responsibilities around the house, for your parents, adopted or not, you are not an adult I am guessing.
and even if you were,..everyone has-to prove their worth. in a job anywhere in life, you will be expected to perform...so start now at-home, and show yourself as well as others you are a responsible person. you MAY wish to, try, when you feel like cutting, go to your elders and speak to them, honestly, openly, about it,..if you feel you trust THEM.
trust,..IS,..a two way street.
I am here typing this, TRUSTING you will listen to a man that has had his bad moments in life, and is trying to show not everyone in life is-a-bad-guy.
there are many many good people out there.
seek THEM out and make them friends.
do not seek-out the ones that they themselves can not show responsibility to themseleves or the world.
please take care---and be good to yourself.
good luck!!
2006-07-10 07:56:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are cutting yourself then you need to address the reason why you are doing it. Is it because your friends are doing it or do you feel a need to do so? How do you feel after cutting?
Talk to your parents and ask them to get you some counseling.
2006-07-10 07:54:57 · answer #5 · answered by myste 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cutting?
2006-07-10 07:45:37 · answer #6 · answered by aussie_east_ender 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one for all...are you not going to do it again?
and also. tell them why u started cutting. possibly give a reason such as-" i thought i was unhappy before but now i cant go out. and its making me want to cut even more."
just sey that you need to go out to stay happy and away from cutting. also. cutting sucks so if u want to again..put an elastic on your wrist and when u feel like it-> snap it. i saw it on a show once?
hope this helps :)
2006-07-10 08:36:50 · answer #7 · answered by nikki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to stop, or ask your mom to help you. She'll gain your trust once you stop cutting.
2006-07-10 07:55:02 · answer #8 · answered by Priscilla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you need god in your life. y would you ever cut your self. so i don't blame your mom and dad for not trusting you. well i would just pray and get the word of god in to your Lief. it might sound stupid but it not. my life was a big hole and now i have him in my life my life is turning out fine. hope you take my answer and get the word of god in your life. god bless.
2006-07-10 07:52:49 · answer #9 · answered by Chris Bell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm by not doing it or if you really really really want their trust back then go to a counselor or you can just talk it over with them and tell them how you feel and why you did it in the first place
2006-07-10 07:46:40 · answer #10 · answered by Cat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋