I'm 16 yrs old and I found out 3 yrs ago that I might have had a half-brother who died of leukemia 4 yrs before I was born. I've found an album containing pictures of him and a birth certificate stating that my mother was his mother except he had a different last name. My family also knew about him because they were in the pictures of his 1st birthday and that is where the album ends so I'm guessing he only lived for about a yr and a half. Would there be a reason for my mother not to have told me about a previous pregnancy or who was it that she was with before my father got into the picture? Like I said before, I'm confused. Should I confront my mom about what I have discovered or wait for her to tell me eventually?
2006-07-10 07:35:36 · 10 answers · asked by ranchogurl09 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't think she was hiding ths from you to hurt or decieve you. This was probably somehting so painful for your family to have to go through. Maybe it is so painful that they'd just rather not talk about it at all, because it woul djust stir up the hurt again. But now that you know about it somewhat, I think the best thing to do is sit down with your parents and discuss it. Be sensitive to them and their feelings. Just ask to be informed. Don't dig too deep, like I said, this may still be an open wound. If you let them know you found the album, maybe they will come around and fill you in on things piece by piece. Hugs to you and your family.
2006-07-10 07:47:54 · answer #1 · answered by heathermama_tx 3 · 9⤊ 1⤋
Don't confront your mother because it's her business and if she doesn't want to tell you then she doesn't have to. Also, if EVERYONE in your family is keeping this away from you then it must be for your own good. Also, there may be other reasons, maybe your father doesn't know about this kid and there is probably a reason for that. You should explain to your mom that you found some things and are confused about them. Having a child die is one of the most painful experiences any person can go through and your attitiude that it is all about you and that you have a right to know is one that will get you nowhere.
2006-07-10 14:50:21 · answer #2 · answered by BeachBABE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well ya surely..you have to confront your mum in this regard since she kept this a secret from you....but not now..you have to be a little more patient and try to find out more about this somehow..and then fire it at her...otherwise do everythin on your own and try findin out all by urself and then throw it back at your mom...
i can understand how confused you must be right now..you will get a lil feelin of insecurity but remain calm and always smile...it could all be something else as well or just a misinterpretation...so just do a lil bit of investigation on this and the truth will pop up soon...so as of now just try n keep your mind calm..relax and smile..
2006-07-10 14:47:33 · answer #3 · answered by alfred a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not 'confront" your mom. That's stupid. Find a quiet time and a quiet place and gently ask her about it. The death of a child is a painful experience that stays with you your entire life. It may just be to painful for her to talk about. Tell her you know about the baby and you would like to know more about him. If she would ever like to talk to you about him you would like to listen. Then leave it at that. If she wants to talk about it with you she will. Otherwise respect her privacy and her pain.
2006-07-10 15:08:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this might have been a tragedy that started a chain of painful events that your mother may not wish to share... but he is your brother and you should have the right to know maybe tell her you know about him and when she's ready to talk you'll listen but i wouldn't push it anymore than that
2006-07-10 14:39:35 · answer #5 · answered by captspankey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should have talked to your mom before you asked the rest of the WORLD!!!!
2006-07-10 15:00:41 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs.♥Patrick♥ Stump♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i think you should confront your mom becouse, then you will find out if it is for real or not.
2006-07-10 14:38:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
confront her cuz she probebly won't tell you id she's kept it a secret for this long then she won't tell you at all
2006-07-10 14:40:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she could be hiding it to save && never planned on telling you... so yea you should confront...but privately
2006-07-10 14:40:44 · answer #9 · answered by XxHomicidialfrenzyxX 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your mom.
2006-07-10 14:38:51 · answer #10 · answered by I A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋