I have been with my man for 4 years now...is it time to discuss it? or am i pushing it?
2006-07-10 07:24:34 · 6 answers · asked by racingurl37 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, you are not pushing it. 4 years is definitely an acceptable amount of time. I have lived with only 1 other man before my husband and we moved in after 6 months of friendship and 2 months of dating because we lived too far from each other.
With my huband, we were engaged after knowing each other only 2 weeks, moved in after 2 or 3 months and married 3 months after that - been together 8 years now.
My little sister is a bit more conservative that I am - she dated her husband for about 2 years (1 long distance) and they moved in together for 1 year. At the end of the lease she told him that he should have a good enough idea of what it is like to be married to her and she moved out. They dated for another year I think and then they got married.
Of course I was already 30 when I met my husband and he was 35. My sister was 25 when she got married.
It might help to look analytically at the situation. Is your intention marriage? After 4 years, one would think so. Why are you still dating? School or something else? After 4 years you certainly have a right to say, where is this relationship going - and you could save a lot of money together living together, if you each live on your own.
It is certainly worth talking about. By when will you want to be married? How many more years do you have? If he doesn't want to talk about it after 4 years, there maybe be a problem.
Peace!
2006-07-10 07:35:36 · answer #1 · answered by carole 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell Yea it is, I moved in with my g/f only after 1 month or so of dating her, now we have been living together for over a year, and are now talking wedding plans, WINK, WINK.
2006-07-10 07:29:28 · answer #2 · answered by bret_hues2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think if youve been together 4 years its time to move to another step or look at why your still in the dating stage
2006-07-10 07:27:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes 4 yrs is a while go ahead bring it up
2006-07-10 07:25:51 · answer #4 · answered by lovesugarkisses 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should move in together
2006-07-10 07:27:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage first, then move in!
2006-07-10 07:26:52 · answer #6 · answered by Linn E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋