My fiance & I have never really fought? should we still do it. (we have been living together for 4 years and own a home together, so there wont be any significant changes in our life style once we are married).
2006-07-10 07:18:03 · 18 answers · asked by atkinajean 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Its a good idea.
However, pre-marital consulting, not counseling.
A good pre-marital consultant will raise issues for you and your intended to think and talk about to be sure you are on either the same page, or at least compatible pages, about most of the major issues that have the potential to mess couples up down the road.
Its a good "safety-check."
2006-07-10 07:25:00 · answer #1 · answered by DalDrWill 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Pre-Marital counseling is always a good idea. Even if you have been together for four years, it is never too late. If you never really fight, that's good, then re-enforcing it with counseling can only help. Pre-Marital counseling is set up to help, and never hurts.
Our pastor said that even after you get married, you should get more counseling. Not to fix a problem. But more like a "physical" for your marriage. Just to make sure all the parts are still functioning properly, and maybe to reiterate some things from early on.
Hopefully you do get Pre-Marital. It will only help - I swear!! Me and DH got it, and we had been living together, and rarely fought, but it was a way for me and him to understand each other better. It worked great!
Good Luck!!
2006-07-10 15:16:01 · answer #2 · answered by irishcreaminator83 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to pay for the therapist sessions,there are plenty of books that cover the same ground a therapist would, from asking about future financial goals, plans for kids, etc. If you go through a book or two (together) and don't find any serious differences, then you don't need the counselling, probably. But if there are any major surprises, you might want to work out the future in the presence of a mediator.
2006-07-10 14:22:16 · answer #3 · answered by MOI 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some ministers will only preform the wedding if you take some kind of pre-marital counseling. My friend got married at the church her family attends regularly and had to. My sister was going to get married a couple years ago and doesn't attend church, neither does her boyfriend, and they were still told they had to for that minister to do the wedding. When my husband and I got married we just had to have a meeting with the minister a few weeks before. We don't attend church but I was going with the minister that was currently at the church my family weddings had all been at and my mom and her siblings all grew up in.
I don't think that it depends on your relationship, I think it depends on the minister and how they do things.
2006-07-10 21:09:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutely, it can help you learn how to deal with any problems that may come up. AND just becaue you think all is well, your partner may have issues that need to be discussed. Also pre-marital counseling may bring up issues you and your fiance have not thought about. you could avoid big problem by talking about them prior to you walk down the aisle.
2006-07-10 14:22:40 · answer #5 · answered by bubba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Omigawd, premarital counseling is a FABULOUS idea! The things that you haven't even thought of would probably come out and give you two a chance to deal with the logistics of a marriage AND to prepare for potential problems each and every marriage faces. It's a GREAT idea - and we would have less divorce is everyone went though it.
Go for it!
(And good luck in your marriage!)
:)
2006-07-10 14:27:58 · answer #6 · answered by two 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A great idea! Even if there won't be many changes, it's good to have someone unbiased to talk to - and to get EVERYTHING out in the open. If you ever do fight after marriage, marriage counseling is wonderful.
2006-07-10 14:22:10 · answer #7 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I recommend it , it will help prevent major fights in the future. You can't go wrong w/ Pre-Marital counseling.
2006-07-10 15:07:25 · answer #8 · answered by BB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well technically you have to sit and talk the priests or person that is going to marry you because if they feel you are not compatible, they will not perform the ceremony. However, im not sure if it makes a difference if you are already living together, but to answer your question, it is something that you are going to have to do regardless! good Luck and Congrats on everything!
2006-07-10 14:22:53 · answer #9 · answered by shawny2623 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are soooooooo confused!
You will need counseling Pre, During, and After the marriage.
2006-07-10 14:34:17 · answer #10 · answered by BooBaby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋