is crying everyday bad?

Question

i have alot of problems with my family.my mom hates me alot,& i cant even talk to her.i never have done anything for her to hate me. when i talk to her about the way she treats me she just laughs @ me. my mom has nothing in life that i should respect her 4. she has never worked,lives on child support,never gives me any money,i cook for myself,i clean myself,and i have to find my own way to placeseven to school.my dad is remarried, and does illegal things but i love him,he puts me in danger all the time and ive tried talking2him.my mom has neverloved me for anything i have done,never congradualtes me in school.&she talks so much crap about me,making me look like a bad person. i cry everysingle day of my life for everything that she has done,& i cant stop.i even wanted to commit suicide,i told her &shejust laughed in my face,&said that i am an idiot. i have no respect for her as a mother, a woman,or even a human being.how can i deal with this,&im only 16 this has been going onall my life

Answer 1

To be honest, you sound like a fantastic kid to me. To take care of yourself like you do....you should be proud. Your mom sounds like she is doing this to you because she is unhappy and it hurts her to know she can't seem to better herself. SHe treats you this way in the hopes that you wont see her for who she is ....a loser. When all you needed from her was love and that would have been enough and she wouldnt be a loser in your eyes if she just loved you and supported you. You have a couple years until you can go on your own. I would say get a job, save all the money you can and get away from her. Do you have a counselor at school you can talk to? You seem like a sweetie and you shouldnt let her get to you. Live your life and make something of yourself. You can do it. Get away from her and her negativity.
try to stay with your friends overnight to get away from her, work, just try to stay out of the house as much as you can until you can move out. Make a life for yourself and show them you can be better than all of them despite the fact that they brought you down.
Now........the only thing I can suggest is if you want a relationship with her before you break all ties and move on is...talk to her and tell her you love her but she hurts you.......see if you can get her to show you she cares, cuz I think she does but doesnt know how to show it. If that doesnt work, cut your losses and move on, you will find love somewhere else cuz your worth it and it's out there for you.you just be a good person and you will go far--- with out them if you have to!

Answer 2

You sound like you are going through the transition from your child-self to your adult-self and the pressures of life seem completely unbearable. It seems that there is no complete escape from the cold uncaring side of people and hard realities. Your mother sounds like an extremely negative person if she really does all those things. You should take a look in the mirror and define yourself with inner strengh instead of allowing these influances to dominate your life. Part of being an adult is dealing with impossible and EXTREMELY unfair situations. We all go throguh what you are going through (although some with less stress). You need something positive to help you escape the depression. Really in the end, there is only yourself who can make your life a success and gain the happiness that you want and deserve.

You need to become yourself in spite of the negative factors and stressful times. Think of the positive things. You meantioned that you had some school sucess which means you are smart. Also, coming from a harsh background will definately make you a strong person if you can survive it.

Really i would suggest going to a counciler who would best be able to talk out your feelings with. Crying everyday sounds like you need an outlet really bad. I dont discount however that you may just like sympathetic attention. You have my empathies in this as i went through a rough/depressive period right around your age.

Answer 3

Wow, that's pretty heavy! Lets give it a try, though. There's no such thing as an impossible situation.

Being sad is ALWAYS bad. Unfortunately, it can't always be avoided. But suicide is never the answer. Just remember, that as bad as things are right now, there's no place left for you but up. I know, I've been there. And besides, it doesn't make sense to destroy yourself over other people's behavior! It's not your fault!

First of all, remember that respect IS earned. If your mother truly doesn't deserve respect, then don't respect her. And make the choice, now, to live a life worthy of respect. But, she's still your mom, and for the sake of your peace, obey her. I would seriously reconsider sharing anything private with her, though. Especially if she routinely laughs at you.

It sounds like your Dad's pretty messed up, too. The way I see it, you're at a crossroads. You've got to decide whether your love for your dad is worth your safety. If your parents, who's purpose in life is to protect you, refuse to do so, then you've got to take care of yourself.

But regardless, your options are limited. If you're a minor, It sounds like you COULD turn to child welfare services for help. They could probably remove you from the home, but sometimes that doesn't work out so well. You never know where you'll end up.

Your other option is to avoid your home and parents as much as possible when you're not home sleeping. Get involved in school, church, or community activities. Your local church probably has the best resources to help a person in your situation, but you have to ask for help.

Set some realistic, but ambitious goals for your life. And a deadline to accomplish them (i.e., when I'm 18 I'm going to...). When you give yourself a fixed target in the future, it gives you something to have hope for. Then, all you've got to do is burn time 'till you're out of there.

If you're old enough, try to get a job. Even flipping burgers will keep you out of the house, and your mind off your troubles. If not, find a hobby to help you get away from it all. Even reading a book can be a great escape.

My best advice is to do whatever it takes to survive, and then build your own life the RIGHT way. But, remember to make friends who are doing it the RIGHT way, so you can learn from them!

Answer 4

Oh absolutely not a bad thing, crying is a way of coping with the abnormal build up up of too much tension, anxiety and stress and sometimes, we just gotta let it go! I still leak a tear every once in a while when i shut myself in the room to reflect the day and to evaluate the ups and downs i just experienced. Yr 12 for me can be so **** sometimes haha.
But anyway, to put it fair and straight, your mother sounds like a horrible person and i think you should consider moving out and staying at your friends or a relatives while your mother sorts herself out. Sounds like she needs counselling. Have you talked to your yr coodinator about this? I think you guys need to have a good sit down with a middle man and sort out why you guys are logger-heads with each other all the time, for i'm sure you must have been "bad" as well to fuel up your mother's anger and this may be true. But in the end, you gotta tell her you love despite all this. If she admits too she loves you and is sorry, then way to go. If not, it's not worth trying anymore, you should pack and leave the house. Don't think about it anymore and concentrate on the more important things in life like having fun with friends and social outings at our age as well as school. Those are the good things in live we should look forward to rahter than backwards.

Answer 5

dang i really wish i could help u.. Y don't u go to spend da night with ur fri3nds talk to ur best friend sweetie i bet u r a very nice person.... But just find ur self a hobby that will help u 4 get all this kinds of stuff. Make sure to find some1 that u can trust.. N believe me 3very1 in the world has thought bout suicide.. N if not every one they will someday.. But death is not the answer. We all need 2 learn how to be strong. U will improve n one day u'll find da answer n how to deal with ur life without crying... G3t more invovled in school in sports... Get a job just do a lot of stuff to keep u away 4rm home. if u went to talk to me just click on my avatar n email me anytime sweetie okay good luck n i hope that i helped just a little

Answer 6

You sound very depressed. You need to see a professional about it, probably a medical doctor and therapist. It's so hard being a teenager, without all of the extra stuff you're going through. If it's that bad living with your mother and living with your father isn't an option, maybe try petitioning the courts for emancipation.

Answer 7

You need to tell a teacher, guidance counselor, or another adult that you trust. You should not be in that environment any more. Do not kill yourself because that does not solve anything. I think you need to get out of the situation you are in and seek some counseling. Please tell an adult that you trust what is going on (and not your dad). Even the police department could help you. You love your dad but you should not be in harms way with him. Go find someone now!

Answer 8

WOW, well, I must say you do not have it easy. First of all, Do Not commit suicide. You are already 16, which means, you have only a few more years til you move out, and then things can get better. Assuming you can drive, get a job and earn some money and then, you could move out now. Just some advice.

Answer 9

Sounds like my family, you MUST become self dependent as soon as possible. Then You MUST make your on family if that is your desire. That desire being do you want a family. Lastly never let your successful family enter mingle with your failed family. Try to find someone stable to marry check them out very well you should be able to know who is good or bad based on your past experience. Do not rush into a relationship to save your self you could be entering a worse place than you were at, good luck and love.

Answer 10

If you are old enough to work, you can try to get a job and get legally "divorced" from your parents. You have to prove that your living conditions are dissatisfactory....

good luck. If you are almost 18, I would say to just hang it there. It is almost time for you to be on your own.

Best of wishes =).

Some states offer free counseling....that may make you feel better.