i see my bf every Monday after my class I go to his house we chill or go out, the reason is that I don’t have time a lot because of school and work, and he cant come to my house because my parents want like him. We have been together for 8 month and that is how it HAS been. But I will admit that I have problems I want everything to be my way, like today I want to see him right after I WAS done with my class around 10.am but he said that his friend WAS coming over, he didn’t Know what time he was coming so he said that he will call me back which he didn’t call me back so I called him after 3 hours and said what’s up and he said he was as sleep, and he still waiting for his guy friend to come over, and he said I will call u back, I got SO MAD ???so I told him that I was going out with my friend and he said ok just make sure ur girl is not going to try to hook u up with her guy friends. I my over reacting???? I hate it when I act like that I don’t want to show him, that I am abbess with him because he is going to take advantage of it, WHAT SHOULD I DO TO NOT GET MAD, OR IS THAT NORMAL THAT I AM ACTING LIKE THIS?
2006-07-10 06:52:51 · 21 answers · asked by sweet84 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I just want to say, thank you to each one of u, who replay to my Q. it was very helpful thanks again, I know I can count on you guys.
2006-07-10 09:06:11 · update #1
The real thing is you are going through so much, school and work... your parents not liking him etc.... you are over stressed this will often cause you to act or react in ways you sometimes wish you hadn't... You probably really feel you need some emotional support even if you don't recognize that you are feeling this way... Keep this in mind, no one person can be your total support system... it can wear them out emotionally too... If the only time you two are able to get together is on Mondays, it might do you well to try to let him know as calmly as possible that you really value this time together and that it hurts when you miss this time to "hook up".... as far as what's normal or not, no one can tell you how you should feel... your feelings are what they are... YOURS!
If he was joking with you about your friends hooking you up with someone else, try to let him know those kinds of jokes bother you, assuming you have been faithful to him for these past 8 months...
Has he been good and faithful to you all of this time as well? It doesn't seem by your question that you fear him cheating, so try to be patient not only with him but with yourself... mostly it sounds like you two need to work on some communication... and of course as I mentioned before that you simply have a lot on your plate right now, which is bound to cause you to feel emotional at times... calling him after 3 hours is fine, I know many girls who would not have waited that long to call... and that too is often a mistake... you don't want to be too clingy... not even if he is your "true love"...
If you know he is going to busy with other things, try taking a little down time for yourself, maybe a nice bubble bath with some relaxing music... take time to appreciate yourself and all that you are accomplishing right now... in the long run, loving yourself is going to be the most important thing you can do for you...
Be proud of you... I am, and I don't even know you.... Good Luck
2006-07-10 07:10:10 · answer #1 · answered by tink_n_fockers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are, but it sounds like you are pretty young. Most teenagers over-react to petty situations in relationships. It's nice to have a boyfriend, but I highly doubt you are going to go anywhere in your relationship with this guy.
Furthermore, if your parents don't like him, maybe you should take a closer look at why? He doesn't sound right for you.
I would call it quits and focus on bettering yourself, your education, spending time with your girl friends, and just enjoying your life. Soon enough you will mature & find someone who is equally mature... someone who you are secure enough with that you don't have to spend every second together. Plus, a relationship is about caring for another person... not getting your way!
2006-07-10 07:11:57 · answer #2 · answered by .·:*RENE*:·. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just using you for sex. If he really loved you and cared he would want to be with you a lot more. He would want to take you out in public and let his friends see you. He would want ot meet your family and convince them that he is ok for you. In most cases he would want to spend his time with you when he is not working. He would call you if he cared. He would buy you a gift or card if he cared. 8 months is a long time. I would move on. You are only fooling yourself that you are in love, what is it you love about him? All the things you wrote about in this and other messages doesn't mention anything good. Each person in a relationship should give equally and should care about how the other one feels and pretty do anything for that person. Good luck.
2006-07-10 11:05:36 · answer #3 · answered by Snuffy Smith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, you are overreacting a little bit. i totally understand that you got mad when he never called you back and when yu called him he was sleeping. you could of gone over his place and hung out there until his friend came. or he could of been lying to you. im not sure.
the best thing to do is calm down. he is a guy and he doesnt want you to suficate him. give him some space.
you should really have a talk with him about his. go to his place and just the two of you or go out to a park where its quiet and talk. tell him that it bothers you when he tells you that he would call you back but never does. tell him you feel like he is ignoring you.
2006-07-10 07:18:56 · answer #4 · answered by All4Christ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have some right to be mad....if he said he would call you and didn't call for three hours then its good that you called him. You shouldn't be TOO mad though it isnt that big a deal. Maybe you should just try to talk it out with him so he can work on things to make you happier and more secure with the relationship.
2006-07-10 06:55:15 · answer #5 · answered by Tiffany C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its ok.i dont see whats wrong with what he did.his behaviour is not wierd,if he thinks he wouldnt have time for u when his guy friend is around its ok.would u rather be there for him to more or less ignore u?about the call I guess he was asleep so there was no way he could have called you whilst asleep.Just have patience with him and all will be well.He really loves you thats why he advised you not to let friends influence your relationship with him.he means no harm.you need to be "humble" more or less.i'm a girl and I know how it feels.its not easy for girls to combine school and relationships.you always feel u are u.if u dont control it.u'll loose it all.Make sure your parents like him and introduce him to them otherwise your heart will be broken when you want to marry him and they refuse.Best of luck girl!
2006-07-10 07:08:08 · answer #6 · answered by onel2k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no my frnd u're not over reacting u're just trying to figure out wats wrong but the more u figure it out u're just falling in deep ****. Just dump this guy coz he has no feelings for u. 'use and dump ' is the new quotation for boys. And if u feel that i'm wrong as i don't know him ,why dont u just sit and sought out things with him, be a bit calm and patient ,as boys are very sentimental from heart they need some one to be soft and supporting.But be careful my frnd as u can never judge a guy within 8 months
2006-07-10 07:04:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to look at your situation from an outside perspective.
Your only worry is that you worry too much. You need to evaluate your own feelings before you react the way you currently do. You will drive him away from you if you continue.
Your obsessive behavior wreaks of insecurities and pre-existing trust issues. If this relationship is worth anything at all, the two of you need to talk. Before you do, get a good inventory of your real issues, not worries.
2006-07-10 06:58:48 · answer #8 · answered by bbd5150 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a right to be mad, he told you he would call you back and he never did and then when you called him he said he was sleeping and still waiting for his friend, it seems a little suspicious to me. I think that maybe you should just drop him and concentrate on your schooling.
2006-07-10 06:57:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to take it easy.
sometimes, when you two see so much of each other, it doesn't make ur relationship all that sweet but if you don't see so much of each other, you cherish every second of it.
I'm not saying it is bad to see sum1 all the tym but the situation at hand doesn't allow that.
Find a spot where you meet eachother frequently, I guess that will help.
2006-07-10 06:59:49 · answer #10 · answered by Deejay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋