He just left! The bastard just got up and left!!?

Question

Last night i was hanging out with my fiance and all of a sudden he wanted to make out in the front seat of my car but i wasn't interested in anything physical i wanted to talk. He wasn't in the mood to talk I wasn't in the mood to be touch so i asked him to drive back to where we'd left his car.

I was so hurt that he wasn't even trying to talk to me (lately it seems it's only about sex) that i couldn't even open my eyes. At the end of the drive he parks leave my keys in the seat slams the door gets in his car and floors it down the street. I sat there for a minute or two just hoping on the off chance that he'd turn around come back and apologize. He didn't...

Today he said that he did come back but i'd already left and that he drove by my house but that i had already gone inside. I don't know what to do! Suggestions??

In fairnes to him since that night he's called my cell 40times and left 5 messages

Answer 1

If he loves you it will work out. He should respect the fact that you may not always be "in the mood." If it's meant to be, it will be.

Answer 2

If you really love this guy then talk to him. Its this sort of thing that we tend to sweep under the carpet and hope just goes away, but it never does. He hurt you and needs to know that, you need to talk about it so that it doesn't happen again.

I'm not sure why he didn't come to your house when he knew you were home to get it taken care of right then and there. What I do know is that men and women process things totally differently and there is nothing we can do but except that for what it is ... a difference that will never change.

Communication is key here ... talk to him and then make your decision based on the outcome. Stay true to yourself and know that if you think long and hard that you will find the answer to what if anything needs to be done.

Good luck!

Answer 3

It pains me to say it, but it looks like your man is a dog in disguise. A lot of men only want us for our bodies, but they know we wouldn't touch them with a ten foot pole if we knew that. So they play Mr. Perfect until we're so wrapped up in our own fantasies that we can believe everything's wonderful even when they've long stopped pretending.
Of course I don't know your guy, but since you posted, you'll have to deal with any misinterpretations. From what you said, it really seems that you guys have some issues. There’s a chance he's not as nice as you think he is, like when you hoped he'd apologize. But maybe he's just stressed and taking it out on you.
Communication is important in a relationship, but make sure that by 'talking', you don't mean 'you blabbering on for hours'. Guys get annoyed by chattery women. If you guys get on good terms again soon, and the opportunity presents itself, try asking him about things he's interested in. If he likes working on cars, ask him what different parts do, or to teach you to drive a stick. Sports? Ask who's his favorite player. Nobody doesn't like talking about things they love.
If you want to save your declining relationship, you can't expect him to do all the work. Be aggressive and let him know you care about the almighty 'us' between you two. At the same time don't you dare bend over backwards for him. He's got to care about you, too. If things look bad, it may be time to stamp a big red "X" on his forehead and call it done.

Answer 4

My question is, why would you want somebody like that to come back and apologize? Don't you have any self respect? Find someone who will show you the dignity you deserve. Guess maybe I shouldn't be surprised by your behavior, though. A lot of women are like that.

Answer 5

Sit him down and tell him how you feel and ask him to try to be open with you. If he is all about sex then you know your relationship will never work,try to have a real conversation with him.If you can't do that with him then that should be a big red flag!! Get out!

Answer 6

Sounds to me like he has no time for your feelings Cause the only thing he wants to feel is you. If you are engaged and he cant even listen to your problems now what will it be like when you are married??? And if he wanted to appologize he would of tried harder to get ahold of you like wake you up or call you there are ways of doing things. Sounds like he wants the credit but didnt put forth the effort of attempting to appologize.
He needs to realize you have a right to say no to sex without fighting with him sounds like he needs to grow up.
Good luck

Answer 7

We all have needs. He needed sex. You needed to talk. Neither of you got what you wanted, you were hurt, he was pissed.

Any relationship needs to be a two way street. Why not make a compromise, let him touch you, if he'll talk to you afterwards? That way you both get what you need.

Answer 8

Talk to him, not us, about this. If you do want to marry him, you need to communicate with him. Remember that sometimes people fight and it's perfectly normal. But it sounds like the two of you just aren't communicating and that's probably how the whole thing got started.

Answer 9

I suggest you take a good hard look at reality and how he really is before you set a date. Make sure that you are willing to put up with this type of mini-tantrum the rest of your life.

Answer 10

Depends on what you will settle for. If sex is all you need (and it doesn't sound like it) you hope he comes back. (Yeah, right, he came back for you!) If you want more, you'll have to find another. You knew that but didn't want to face the fact, right?