because im in sort of a dilemma.. i have a reallly ugly boyfriend and my friends make fun of him but hes sooo sweet! i just dont know what to do! help!
2006-07-10 06:25:52 · 36 answers · asked by zoe 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Languages
looks fade but a personality is forever. Besides you can just turn off the lights when you have sex...lol
2006-07-10 06:28:20 · answer #1 · answered by b_sav510 3 · 6⤊ 5⤋
i've been in your shoes before and i gotta say...
don't listen to your friends
if you really like him, and they're your true friends, then they should be happy for you, not making fun of you!
listen to your heart... as cheesy as that sounds, its true... deep down, do you love him? obviously its bothering you that your friends and other people think that he's ugly, but have you ever seen the movie Shallow Hal? you're the one that's with him and you have to decide if what other people think means that much to you to lose a really sweet guy..
looks are only temporary but personality is forever
beauty is in the eye of the beholder and inner beauty is much more of a greater thing that outer looks
if looks really do matter... try getting him to dress nicer or try a new hair cut or something... sometimes the smallest things can make the biggest difference
i'd pick a guy with a great personality any day over a guy thats just good looking. your guy can treat you right and better than an *** that has a pretty face
love him for who he is, not what he is
2006-07-10 06:34:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love my bf he's not all that. But he makes me laugh and he is so sweet at times. And I love him for that.That's what makes him attractive to my eye. We've been together for almost 2 years now. And I think he;s the finest thing!
Don't worry what other people say. They don't know. You shouldn;t worry about them at all. Don;t let them interfere.
When your in love it's just you and him. And nobody else. People were like that in the begining of our relationship. Saying that :"you guys look like an odd couple".."your so pretty why are you with that."."And that I dress like a classy woman and he dressed like a thug". And we "dont look right together". It had me thining and doubting like...Is this true. Am I blinded by love or something. And it hurt badly when they said those things.
The worst part was that those harsh words came from my friends. which aren't my friends anymore. Theyre just jealous.
My friends usually date people because they have a nice car, theyre hot, theyre social status, or because theyre rich.
My man posses all of those qualities in my heart. I'm not picky. I didn;t care what he had or didn't. He found me. And made me happy!
Don't dump him just because of what other are saying. If you love him..Do the right thing.They are gonna have to accept it one day. But if you care about how he's going to affect your image...hmmph i don't know what to tell you. Just follow what you think is the right thing okay?
Tell me something, How ugly is he? hahaha j.k
Good luck! =]
2006-07-10 06:38:10 · answer #3 · answered by blah blah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I could never be with someone who I did not find attractive. Beauty, as the old saying goes, is in the eye of the beholder. It shouldn't matter what other people think so long as you find them attractive. To be realistic though when a guy has a sexual fantasy about a woman it doesn't tend to involve a whole lot of personality.
2006-07-10 06:36:33 · answer #4 · answered by Dr.C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The old saying is " To each his own"....What is cute or handsome in one person's eye's does not mean that another will feel the same. I think my man is beautiful and I don't care what anyone else thinks. Don't let your friends talk crap about him, that's not nice and not a very good friend in the first place. You are the only one that is going ot be with him or sleeping wit him etc...you are all that matters. You love him for a reason,looks shouldn't matter.
2006-07-10 06:32:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my girlfriend does it all the time. I'm no looker, but I am funny, sociable, and can make intelligent conversation in just about any social circle. Plus, she says I'm great in the sack, so as long as the lights are off, I'm a dream!
As for your 'friends', if they can't accept who you want to be with, then they aren't really your 'friends' at all. I would talk to them, explain how you feel and see what they say. If they react negatively, then kick 'em to the curb and find some real friends. They may not know that they're hurting your feelings.
2006-07-10 06:31:31 · answer #6 · answered by trevor_brown 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me a persons personality really changes the way someone looks. For instance...I truly think Jessica Simpson is very ugly!
And the same is true in reverse, I knew a girl that wasn't much to look at but after getting to know her a little she became beautiful. It is like the ugly duckling story!
2006-07-10 06:30:09 · answer #7 · answered by arcy_wanna_b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that no matter what a person looks like, if they are true to themselves and are a great person, then yes, I would definately have sex with them. I could never have sex with someone just because they look "hot". I would go with how I feel over how they look. Who cares what your friends say anyway, they aren't the ones who want to be with him.
2006-07-10 06:31:01 · answer #8 · answered by cows4me79 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why ditch a guy because some shallow friends don't like the way he looks? If this is the guy for you, if he makes you feel good about yourself, if he's great to talk with, then he's definitely a keeper!
2006-07-10 06:31:08 · answer #9 · answered by Nosy Parker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really care for him then do what your heart tells you to do. Just remember if you go for it to use protection and to be smart about it. It is a little sad that you refer to your own boyfriend as ugly though. His great personality should make him attractive to you. It's great that you're looking beyond appearances though.
2006-07-10 06:28:31 · answer #10 · answered by vince_pballer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to do what you feel in your heart is right. I had a boyfriend that was "very ugly" according to my friends, but turned out to be the best lover I have ever had.
2006-07-10 06:30:18 · answer #11 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋