My six year old has been the only child for about 4 years, and now she has to share the glory of childhood with her 16 month old brother. It's like she HATES him. She has gone as far as hurting him, and just pain out being rude to him. Her thing is that we don't punish him like we do her (the cornor, grounding, etc...) We have tried to explain to her that he's too young for that kind of punishment but she still doesn't get it. Don't get me wrong, we spank him when needed. But that's about all you can do for a baby this age. When she see's him getting spanked, it's like a litte switch goes off in her head, and she gets this evil look in her eye's,like, "Yes! get him MOM, get him...." I find it kind of scary. I even take out time in the day just for her and I to play, and do things. But it's not enough for her. Its like it's all or nothing for her. And everytime we try to talk to her about it she starts the eye rolling and really doesn't listen to us at all. PLAESE HELP ME!
2006-07-10 05:52:48 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
That's pretty weird. Most little girls have a nurturing side that comes out around babies. I would try to appeal to that nurturing side and have her take part in the daily care of her little brother. She could help give baths, feed, and that kind of thing but in your case that probably wouldn't work. It seems like she really thinks things are uneven and not fair. You could try to explain that you treated her the exact same way when she was that age but reasoning with children tends to be an exercise in futility. You could also try to stress how she gets more privilages because of her age. Both answers are roundabout ways to show that life is not fair, it will never be fair and she will eventually accept that. Of course, you may be insane by that time. Hang in there.
2006-07-10 06:12:21 · answer #1 · answered by Cybeq 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had this problem, but not to that extreme. This is what I did.
She need to know that she is still special to you. You don't love her any less than her new brother but because he's a baby he needs more attention. He can't do for himself like she can. She can be trusted to do things by herself that he isn't able to do. Since you are the mommy/daddy and it is your job to keep them safe, it's up to you to help him learn and be safe. This won't always be this way..as he grows up he will be able to do things and you won't have to help as much...just like you did with her. It's not fair that the baby gets more attention but it's something you have to do...just like you did for her.
Praise her when she does something good and tell her she's a big girl. Hug her every chance you get...ask her what she did that day and LISTEN to her...don't let the baby interfere and if he tries to get your attention tell him "No...mommy/daddy is holding (childs name) right now...I'll hold you in a minute." Make her feel special and wanted again...she's trying to get attention..even if it's negative attention from you.
2006-07-10 13:05:26 · answer #2 · answered by Rabbit Ritto 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put up one of the kids for sale on ebay.
2006-07-10 12:57:38 · answer #3 · answered by zabac99 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to deal with it, they'll get over it.
2006-07-10 12:56:24 · answer #4 · answered by Answer_master 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋