I watched my grandma die?

Question

and I want to know if anyone has any tips on dealing with that. She had cancer and we were REALLY close.

Answer 1

spend every moment with her... make scrapbooks together then when youll miss her then you can open it and read tru

Answer 2

Many suggested pray and thoughts about heaven. And that helps many people.

But whether you are not religious or not, you can think of the ways in which she lived a full life, touched other people (obviously yourself, likely many others) and left the world a little better for having been who she was.

Grief over a parent or child or very close relative is hardest initially. I have found the first weeks horrible, the first months tough but getting better with time. Talking with friends, treating yourself to enjoyable activities (movie, hike, etc), and getting exercise all help. Try not to mope around inside. Consider what she would have wanted you to do - to be happy as you go on with your life.

At some point, the pain and sadness are not the predominate feelings. Increasingly you remember the good times and value what she added to your life. With my mother's death, that took a little over a year, with the death of my young son, it was about two years. I know that might sound like a depressingly long time, but you should have a perspective and habits that are sustainable for a while. Drink a lot of water and not a lot of alcohol (don't take a depressant while depressed!), eat healthful food, get exercise. If not, initially, for yourself, do it for your grandmother.

Oh, and let yourself cry. It does help. Some people think how they'll cry a million tears over their loss and how every few thousand gets them that much closer.

Be well,
David

Answer 3

I'm sorry for your loss, that must have been extremely difficult to go through. I don't have any tips to help you cope with it, but this experience definitely will make you stronger as a person. I lost my grandmother when I was 12 and she meant the world to me...it was the last time I ever cried. Time and mourning her passing are the only things to help deal with your loss. It could be a life long thing and that's not such a bad thing because you never want to forget what she meant to you. Keeping her memory and greatness alive inside you will allow you to share her greatness with those around you.

Answer 4

The emotional wound will hurt and always be there. On the other hand, you will grow from a tragedy like this and learn a lot about life and death. Try to think a little more abstractly and have faith. Right now, it is difficult for you to accept death as a part of life. Everyone and every living thing dies. You will reunite with your loved one again. Every time you do something that your loved one would have done, or done something good in their name, they will live vicariously through you.

Answer 5

I can relate. I also was with my grandmother when she passed and we were also very close. When someone close to us dies it's incredibly difficult, no matter what the circumstances and even harder when we're with them. She's been gone for a little over 16 years now and I still miss her very much. Don't be afraid to cry, it's part of the natural grieving process. Try to remember the good times you had with her and be grateful for the time that you did spend together. You have my sympathies.

Answer 6

Just remember that she is at peace now, and not hurting anymore. And I am 100% sure that it brought her great comfort to know you were there with her. It is extremely hard to lose a loved one, even if you know it is coming (ie cancer versus a car accident). Sometimes time is the only thing that can help us heal. I lost my grandfather to cancer, and I could not be there with him when he passed. Hold that close to you, knowing that you were with her and she was not alone. Know that she will always be in your heart and that you made the dark times brighter. I am sorry for your loss, and you and your familty are in my thoughts.

Answer 7

Let your grief show. I't only makes it worse keeping it in forever. Cry, sob, scream, laugh hysterically. I know it may be difficult to have to endure all the "she's in a better place" and the" god needed her more then you" All those people don't know sh*t.But also, remember that your grandmother probaly would not want you to grieve for her forever.You have an entire lifetime ahead.Live it for yourself, and live it as big as you can in honor of those who died, inhonor of your grandmother.
Get involved in something.Find a passion, be it running or writing, painting or climbing trees.Or raise cancer awarness. I wish you healing tears and love for life.

Answer 8

Everyone's different when it comes to coping and grieving. All you can really do is remember her for the special person that you knew her as, and hold the memories you do have of her near your heart. Cancer happens to the best of us, and it often can't be helped. Just keep going on with your life as best you can. It's going to be difficult no matter what.

Answer 9

For all the "she is in a better place" answers, I say BULL!!! That is the worst thing to say to a person who is grieving. The best advice is to talk about your grandma and remember all the special times you shared. The grief feels impossible now, but it does get less intense as the months pass. There is no real timetable, just allow yourself to grieve at your own pace. Best wishes.....................

Answer 10

That's a rough one. My uncle died three years ago of cancer, and I was there with him right up until the very end. I still wish he could be back here with me. But I just remember how much he suffered while he was alive, and now he isn't in pain anymore.

Answer 11

Hey look i understand how you are feeling and the pain that you are going though i have been there with my mom.you have to keep doing what you were you were doing before she left this world.Everybody will go some day and you don't stop living because God called one of his children home.Continue to make her proud of you and the path that you get on.A lot of people get wild after they lose someone just because they are gone and they can't deal with the pain of them being gone