I am the youngest brother and I have 3 sisters from a traditional indian family. A few months back I graduated and my mum brought me a card and an expensive briefcase. The year before it was my sisters graduation and we got her nothing. She insisted we go out for a celebration and after the meal I suggested that she pay as kept saying she would. She said she didn't have her card so my parents paid. A few years back it was her birthday and we got her a card but no present. My mum handed her a bag of loose nuts. a few weeks later it was my birthday and my mum gave me some presents. My mum has always said I will get the property that she owns. that is 3 houses worth in total over half a million. However I am the youngest and it was my sisters who helped my mum pay for the mortagages...they turned over quite a bit of their salaries. My folks gave my two older sisters 'ok' weddings and for my other unmarried sister my mum is encouraging her to make it small.
2006-07-10 05:33:52 · 13 answers · asked by Rain M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
As I said, you sound mean.
2006-07-10 05:36:47 · answer #1 · answered by R.I.P. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wouldn't you if you were in her position? Your mom ought to know that your sister(s) is/are as much her children as you are. Tradition? Well, I'm African and I understand what that means but gilrs or boys, children are children and they ought to be treated the same way till each takes their own route in life.
What you need to do to help your sister(s) avoid being upset and perhaps hating you is to talk to your mother and remind her that your sister deserves as much loving as you do and pampering you and showering you with presents is not the only way for you to feel loved. Tell her to try and divide her love equally among her children or she is going to divide the family and I am sure you don't want a divided family.
Got a job of your own? Why don't you try to get independent? this will make you your own man other than becoming mama's boy.
2006-07-10 12:45:18 · answer #2 · answered by kombo6m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put yourself in your sisters' place and think for a moment. I'm an Indian girl too and I'm really fed up of 'Indian mothers' like yours. Won't they ever change? BTW will you be comfortable with some one else's wealth or money (even if it is your mum's) Don't you think you should be ashamed to get money which you are not actually worth? (No offence meant)
2006-07-10 12:40:02 · answer #3 · answered by Nadine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thrown this tradition out the window! Sounds very biased to me. Guaranteed to build resentment in the family. Girls and boys should both get presents on graduation and birthdays!
2006-07-10 12:38:10 · answer #4 · answered by Okkieneko 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its sad for parents to do that. Your sisters deserve the same as you get in all aspects. When your parents are gone and you have no one but your sisters don't you want some sort of relationship with them. Some traditions aren't worth carrying on......Just my opinion tho
2006-07-10 12:48:31 · answer #5 · answered by Texas_at_its_best 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have always found it unbalanced that families from any culture treat their sons like kings and their daughters like second-class citizens. Especially in this case where your sisters have put forth their hard earned money to help pay your parent's mortgages, etc... Why shouldn't they be entitled to all the same luxuries you are afforded?
2006-07-10 12:39:07 · answer #6 · answered by jet_333 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is it for the Indian males?? they seem to get priority to the Indian females. You sound like a very selfish person. fancy boasting about Ur property on yahoo. and what you get from Ur mum..... family are and will always be for myself anyway, the most important in life. i love my older sister, and whats mine is hers... greed will get u no-WHERE...
2006-07-11 04:58:38 · answer #7 · answered by Heavens-@ngel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Sounds completely unfair to me, and I know I'd be upset, but then again I know nothing of traditional Indian culture.
2006-07-10 12:37:09 · answer #8 · answered by LEG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It does not sound like your mother is treating her children equally. I don't think your sister is getting a fair deal here.
2006-07-10 12:38:05 · answer #9 · answered by mmw108 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course , she is right to b upset but its not your fault , your mother destroy the relationship between you and your sisters bcz of jealous, she may love you more but she must not and must not show this bcz your sisters are her daughters too i don't know your mother know the story of messenger of Allah Josef and his brothers and how his father who distinguished between him and his brothers Josef was also the youngest . ( plz read it )ammmm you may need 2 talk with your mather and told her that what she does upsetting you not only your sister .
2006-07-10 12:57:32 · answer #10 · answered by dalida 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no enjoy the favoritism and she probably does it because she is a female and knows how cruel they are and will probably not appreciate it and shes making them earn it the good old fashiion way lying stealing deceiving cunning you know from a manand your a guy and she doesnt know fully how messed up guys are
2006-07-10 12:40:12 · answer #11 · answered by Ralphie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋