Is she right to be upset?

Question

I am the youngest out of 3 sisters from a traditional indian family. A few months back I graduated and my mum brought me a card and an expensive briefcase. The year before it was my sisters brief case and we got her nothing. She insisted we go out for a celebration and after the meal I suggested that she pay as kept saying she would. She said she didn't have her card so my parents paid. A few years back it was her birthday and we got her a card but no present. My mum handed her a bag of loose nuts. a few weeks later it was my birthday and my mum gave me some presents. My mum has always said I will get the property that she owns. that is 3 houses worth in total over half a million. However I am the youngest and it was my sisters who helped my mum pay for the mortagages...they turned over quite a bit of their salaries. My folks gave my two older sisters 'ok' weddings and for my other unmarried sister my mum is encouraging her to make it small.

My mum made a reference to how people have big weddings and then split up. for me she gets really excited about how glam my wedding day will be with a traditional Indian horse etc. I can sense there is very little relationship left now with my sister. Is she right to be upset or is she over sensitive?

Answer 1

Your sister is NOT oversensitive - YOU are insensitive.
You have received the lions share of attention, praise and by the sounds of it inheritance whilst your sister receives little.
Whilst it is your parents right to give away their money and property to whoever they want your sister is probably more upset that she does not receive as much love and attention as it sounds you get and rightly so.
Try not to rub it in your sisters noses and be alittle more sensitive - after all when your parents are gone they will be the closest family you will have.

Answer 2

She is right to be upset, you are obviously shown more attention than the others, however that is not your fault. Try to keep a good relationship with your sister and encourage your mum to show your other siblings the same type of affection she shows you.
It is her decision what to do with the property she owns, but it would be nice of you to share with your siblings once her property becomes yours.

Answer 3

you are the youngest your mothers baby and so you will get special treatment and yes your sisters has reason to be upset but she should not take it out on you, your sisters should take this up with your mother it is not your fault there fore you are and should be be free of guilt and it just happens that maybe your mum trusts you more or maybe you are more responsible, only your mother can answer these questions. good luck x

Answer 4

is your mum probably wired ..I always treated my 2 sons equally I think you are a spoilt brat and your sister is getting the shitty end of the stick all the time sit down with her and sort it out .and tell your mum to look at both of you with the same eye

Answer 5

You should not be the one to blame but your mum. How can she make a difference between her children is beyond me!
next time refuse her presents! and explain her you don't understand why

Answer 6

seems your mum is taking sides always remember you can buy property you cant buy family even if your mother did leave you the houses you can still sort your sisters out as they will be your to do with as you please

Answer 7

It's your mum's property, she can decide what to do with it. Good luck straightening it out with your sisters.

Answer 8

Family is family, don't let petty things break it up

Answer 9

You sound mean.