my fiance insist on giving me giving me them daily and now has invited two, three, and sometimes even four people to join in with her. I do not like it and she knows it, but I do it because I love her and look at it like a compromise. Since her friends have joined me vision is blurry and I now have a rash. Should I tell her to piss off?
2006-07-10 05:11:02 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's a tough one. On one hand, you have the ability to refuse. On the other, you have chosen to not use that option.
However, you do still have the first option; you've never surrendered that for all time. You can politely refuse with words like, "I love you and want you to be happy. However, I do not like this and do not want to do it again." At that point, the ball will be in her corner. If she accepts your decision, then she is interested in you for who you are. If she doesn't, then her true love would be her fetish and it would be best to discontinue the engagement.
The key is to be polite, simply repeating what you have to say instead of esculating any negative reaction on her part. There is no need to do anything to make her angry.
Assuming that she is willing to compomise with the idea that she can exploit her fetish with someone else, but remain devoted to you and your relationship. Then it would be back in your court. However, that is another question altogether. I mention it as it is a possibility.
2006-07-12 20:35:06 · answer #1 · answered by Ѕємι~Мαđ ŠçїєŋŧιѕТ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is not using her ears and eyes then you really, really need to think long and hard about the relationship. Suggest that she shower someone else she loves, like a friend or relative. Too much of a good thing can be bad!! Isn't there something else she could do to show how she feels (other than sex)? Sounds like she is doing it more for herself than you. How can you love someone that does not respect how you feel? And...how strongly have you let her know that you do not like it?
2006-07-10 13:49:05 · answer #2 · answered by SuzyQ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she knows that you don't want to participate in this, and keeps on doing it anyway, AND invites other people to do it as well, doesn't that say something there? Your feelings are clearly not important. Also, you are not obligated to stay in a situation where your health is in danger.
2006-07-10 12:19:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her more about it, if she tends to start thinking about not doing it, then things will be alright. If she insists on it, I would just let her do what she has to do, I'm sure she will thank you for doing it.
2006-07-10 12:15:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Golden Rain - yes tell her that you are pissed off with her antics.
2006-07-10 12:17:23 · answer #5 · answered by thomasrobinsonantonio 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Your in" a bad situation. You have to "show her" that something has to change. Maybe you just need to "Pamper" her. Does she live overseas or is she "incontinent". Maybe you should just go with he "flow", just don't be "yellow".
2006-07-10 12:19:58 · answer #6 · answered by lampoilman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would. First and formost YOU have to be happy. If she does not respect your feelings about it then why should you respect hers.
2006-07-10 12:16:15 · answer #7 · answered by ladychineen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its better to tell her the truth even though she gets pissed.
2006-07-10 12:16:27 · answer #8 · answered by goofypenguin11 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to leave her and i think she not in love with you
2006-07-10 12:19:04 · answer #9 · answered by maya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, i think i understand what you are saying, if you don't like it then she should stop. end of discussion.
2006-07-10 12:14:54 · answer #10 · answered by jada_24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋