2006-07-10 05:10:13 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Well the fact that you already know that she can hold her own bottle, but just won't, leads me to believe there is nothing for you to worry about developmentally. I mean is she crawling, pulling herself up, moving around on furniture or even walking? Does she feed herself food, like finger foods? I think that if you don't want to feed her the bottle or give her the bottle every time and if she wants it, she'll go for it, she'll hold it for herself.You may go through some unhappy moments with her(don't know her temperament)but if she wants a drink, she'll do it on her own!!! Why don't you make a time for you and her, like a night time bottle, that you can have special time with feeding her? Turning one year old, for them, is a big deal, the world feels sooooo big to them, and they're becoming toddlers soon, it's all changing. Just relax, in time, she'll be throwing that bottle, picking it up, drinking it and throwing it again!!!LOL I remember those days, oh so well, and just take it a day at a time, and enjoy her!! She'll be fine! :) Being a good parent, especially we Mom's, is the hardest job in the world, what's normal?what isn't?When do I take her to the doc if she is sick or something is wrong? I know, I know, but in time, lots of patience and love,,,,,,,,,,she'll grow up faster than you can ever imagine!!!
2006-07-10 05:21:21 · answer #1 · answered by Laurie S 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a battle of the wills between parent and child.
You will have to show some tough love on this situation. I know you want to make sure your child is cared for, but you will ultimately do more to help your child by being firm.
Don't hold the bottle for her. Put it down next to her. Walk away (possibly around the corner where you can keep an eye on her but she can't see you). She will probably give you all kind of grief (crying, throwing down the bottle, call you all sorts of names in her own language) but if she throws it down, leave it. Let her point to it and make her get the bottle, But DON'T keep feeding it to her. Eventually she will get hungry enough to pick it up herself.
Also, have you tried the gerber sippy cups. They are great. They have a seal in the inside of the lid that keeps the cup from leaking and your kid will start to think differently.
For instance, when I potty trained my 3 year old I switched between diapers and underwear on her. When she had underwear on she would wait until she was in the bathroom to "go" but whenever I switched her back to diapers or the thick underwear, she would "go" in the diapers. I finally figured out that she associated the diaper with being a baby and the underwear with being a big girl. Perhaps changing to a sippy cup and letting her see others who also hold cups would help her to make the change.
Good luck. I know this has to be a very frustrating situation. But let her cry. Honestly she won't be harmed.
2006-07-10 05:25:58 · answer #2 · answered by Searcher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs the comfort of the closeness and security she feels when you hold her and hold her bottle.But as it can be inconvienent for you to sit that long,if you just sit the bottle down next to her,if she really wants it she will hold it! But... you should take the time and enjoy the closeness too! One day soon you will turn around and she will be grown.One thing I realize now that my kids are grown.I wish I would have spent more time holding my babies rather than cleaning house. A hundred years from now nobody is going to remember whether or not your beds were made or the house was spotless!
2006-07-10 05:22:50 · answer #3 · answered by Jo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter never liked the bottle; so we got her a little sippy cup instead. When we set her up in her high chair, she was very aware of everything we were doing and wanted to taste things and drink from our glasses. I was not willing to start using a bottle to get her to try one, so we didn't use the bottle. My wife was pretty upset, but what can you do? She's 9 now and turned out fine.
2006-07-10 05:16:42 · answer #4 · answered by n0witrytobeamused 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bottle? A one year old should be drinking out of a sippy cup with handles. At six - nine months of age a sippy cup should be offered 1-2 x a day w/ water or juice. That's where your problem lies, you need to offer a cup. If they are thirsty enough they will do it themselves and they won't suffer if they choose not to. You may for a little bit with their crying but you'll survive.
2006-07-10 05:22:40 · answer #5 · answered by a.kranz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son did the same, I think it is a case of "why should I if I don't have to?". Don't worry, When she goes on to sippy cups she will learn to hold it because she won't be able to grip with her teeth like she can on a bottle teat.
2006-07-10 05:15:04 · answer #6 · answered by bertha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your child is still young and obviously is not ready to be independent on her/himself. Maybe he or she feels if they have to hold the bottle they will no longer have the company or the closeness of the parent
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2006-07-10 05:19:51 · answer #7 · answered by mermaiden_4_ever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at 1 she should be almost bottle broke take it away and give her a sippy cup - and yes if she gets thirsty enough she will hold it. u just have ot be stronge and let her have a temper tantrume and get over it
2006-07-10 07:04:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then throw away the bottle and switch her to a sippy cup!
2006-07-10 07:42:38 · answer #9 · answered by tiggyman41 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 1 years old she should be moving on to sippie cups.
2006-07-10 05:16:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋