Ive been in a relationship with my g/f for about 3 months now. I treat this girl great. I buy her gifts for no reason at all. She come over and I'll have this girl new clothes, take her on trips, even put gas in her car, and also buy her son things. She is a quiet girl, dont express herself alot. She does say thanks and all that but i dont know if she truly appreciates it. She has alot of male friends that are always trying to hang out with her. I'm the type of person that dont ask questions about previous relationships cause its bettter if I dont know but she has guys calling and writing her all the time. But she dont talk or write or read what they wrote her in front of me. She tells me she would never cheat or anything and tells me that shes not going ot let me go but should i be concerned about these guys calling and writing her and all that?
2006-07-10 05:04:55 · 12 answers · asked by george 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well she hasnt had alot of b/f's cause she has been hurt and cheated on. She tells me I treat her better than anyone every has. I'm a nice looking guy and I have ladies try to hit on me alot. I care about this girl alot and her son means alot to me but I have ask her about these other guys and she says they are just friends but then its like she only talks or reads what they write when im not around so thats the part that confuses me. She knows if she messes around then im leaving her. Just need some advice.
2006-07-10 05:21:19 · update #1
Man, that is a tough one. All you can do is honestly ask her. Does she know these guys, does she talk to them, does she write them? All you do is ask. But try to do it to where you don't care, not like you are accusing her of something. Then brace yourself. It is either a yes or a no. If she doesn't talk to them and only wants to be with you, leave it at that. You will kill yourself if you keep thinking about it.
2006-07-10 05:10:13 · answer #1 · answered by Cierra Janece 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should not worry if she has never done anything to lose your trust! I have male friends and that is all they are! I would talk to her about how this makes you feel. But make sure that you let her know that you trust her that it is just uncomfortable for you the way she goes about certain things. For example the note reading and such.If she cares for you the way you have explained then she will be willing to compromise. But if you go and get all paranoid and think the worst she just might go else where. Try having some time alone maybe take a walk in the park or when you lie your head down at night and talk with her then. With her not to her. It is all about communication and trust right!?!?
2006-07-10 12:14:42 · answer #2 · answered by SL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is not that quiet, simply because people don't usually write and call people all the time that don't talk. Maybe she is so quiet because she doesn't want to say the wrong thing to you that will result in you not buying her things. If you buy a woman gifts for no reason all the time just to keep her attention, (this might hurt), she probably views you as a sucker. Her saying she wouldn't cheat on you sounds like she is just telling you what you want to hear. I think that deep down you know something is wrong and you are not ready to admit it because you really like her. She might just be getting over on you, see how she reacts when you stop buying her all these gifts.
2006-07-10 12:13:58 · answer #3 · answered by Brandy O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it depends, just because she says she would never cheat doesn't mean shes telling the truth, i mean think about it, would she tell you, i cheat on you all the time, no she wouldn't. maybe you should talk to her, let her know how you feel, and if she could just respect the fact that you don't like guys calling and writing her, maybe she can try to alter things a little bit, if she really loves you and cares for you she will. if not then maybe its time to move on and stop wasting your money and something that will go no where.
2006-07-10 12:10:33 · answer #4 · answered by Missy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You absolutely should be concerned about these other men. If she cared for you, she'd be discouraging them. For the moment, I think the best thing you can do is pull away from the situation. See if she'll come to you. Right now, you're doing EVERYTHING for her and getting very little in return. If she's using you, you're making it very easy for her. If she does care for you, she'll come to you. If she doesn't, it's best that you know now and find someone else who'll appreciate you and not use you.
2006-07-10 12:11:57 · answer #5 · answered by clarity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about how you feel. She should be open about her male friends if nothing is going on she has nothing to hide. It does seem as if it bugs you so you should talk about it with her and see how she feels too.
2006-07-10 12:13:28 · answer #6 · answered by absolut_meeow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u feel aleinated by these guys just talk to her about it and maybe she can get them to either not call or write as much or put u at ease with them contacting her so much
2006-07-10 12:10:34 · answer #7 · answered by becky_693 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know try to talk to her about it.It's not bad to want to know about her other relatonships.If you don't show any interest in her other relatonships she may think you wouldn't notice if she cheats on you.
2006-07-10 12:12:47 · answer #8 · answered by ALLY (: 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well dont be too concerned but i think u should consider talking to her.
2006-07-10 12:10:56 · answer #9 · answered by JAZY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, i'm just like your girl and i have quite a few bootycalls out there, so i'm guessing she has stepped out
2006-07-10 12:33:24 · answer #10 · answered by MARIA G. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋