So heres the deal. I messed up with my girlfriend, we were together for just under 2 years. She cheated on me but i lied to her and moved out. 2 months goes by and she still says she loves me and I still love her. I want to move in and make it work but now she has someone else in the picture. She isn't steady with this guy yet but she says she can't take a chance on getting hurt with me again. But I hurt everyday. I told her how sorry I was and we still talk. How do I get her back? And get her to forgive me for moving out in the first place?
2006-07-10 04:58:59 · 21 answers · asked by JGuy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Give it time....
2006-07-10 05:01:41 · answer #1 · answered by The Hit Man 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ahhh, the fish on the line. She has you dangling, while she decides on the other fish in her basket.
Your not that simple are you? If she cheated on you once, and it seems she has not shed her ways, and will do it again, I would say it's time to move on. Find a real woman. After all, the monogamy thing was their idea, now they want to break the rules they set. Time to walk a new road my friend. You made the right move, moving out. The reality of the situation is that she probably needs financial help, which she;s not getting from this other guy, and wants to keep you around just for that. If she truly has feelings for you, what's with this other guy? If she can't take the chance of getting hurt, why did she hurt you in the first place. All you did was move out, she was an infidel. Who hurt who? If you consider returning to her, your twice the fool she thinks you are. Clearly there is no choice to make here. Find someone NEW! The women will only see the LIE, and not the cheating by their comrade. If it were the other way around they'd crucify you for cheating, now they want to crucify you for a lie. They'll always be on the side of the female. BE a MAN, realize the double standard - SHE CHEATED, YOU LIE< THEN MOVED OUT> YOUR GONE, why does she want you back. Any reason cannot be good enough for you to return to a woman who has cheated on you!
2006-07-10 05:10:03 · answer #2 · answered by Insight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, she cheated, and you lied? You both have issues. Moving out was not an unforgivable thing IMHO; it was probably the right thing to do, while you guys worked out your problems. I think you should try honesty and start thinking about your actions going forward, since there are obviously many consequences here. Not to put you in a state of paralysis, but if you can't trust your own judgment, talk to a close friend or a counselor/psychiatrist. Talk to your friend and don't expect her to run back to you; ask her if she would consider it. It's her choice, and there is another factor (her other guy, who you claim is not steady). Just remember that the two of you broke up before and for a reason, so it tends to complicate any future relationship.
2006-07-10 05:05:19 · answer #3 · answered by TL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What did you lie to her about? I'm thoroughly confused here. But as far as the cheating goes, that's hard. I've no doubt in my mind that's what my ex-husband was doing and that's why he ended our marriage. After all, I did find that he had accounts on Yahoo Personals, Americansingles.com, and Match.com... But it didn't change the fact that I had loved him and made vows to him. I still love him, and a small part of me would be willing to give it a second try if he truly was sorry and put 100% into it. So it's hard to say. Just be honest with her. At this point in the game what can it hurt? Just sit down, the both of you, and have a serious talk on things. And then take it from there.
2006-07-10 05:07:45 · answer #4 · answered by ridersinthesky11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She cheated on you and you are saying sorry for a lie? What happen to her saying sorry for what she did? Both of you did wrong, but just because you lied doesn't mean that she gets off the hook. And you need to tell her that.
Let time take its course. If it was meant for the two of you to be together then it will happen. But you can't make someone be somewhere if they dont want to be there.
Wish You Enough
2006-07-10 05:04:46 · answer #5 · answered by ronce_1118 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bro, she cheated on you. I dont even understand how she has the nerves to be pissed off at you for LYING. she cheated. you lied. now you tell me which one is worse. but since i don't know your situation, maybe i'd feel the same way that you're feeling right now. but if you really want her back make sure she remembers what it is that she liked so much about you. you've got to make her remember that without actually telling her. Take her out somewhere really nice as a surprise. If it's a problem for you two to see each other, just tell her a white lie and say that you just want to take her out to a random diner for dinner, and then actually take her to an upscale restaurant, and spend a nice evening with her. hey, who knows, she might invite you into her place afterwards.
2006-07-10 05:06:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you she cheated on you, why do you want her back? You don't need to put up with that. There are girls out there that won't cheat on you and can give you all the love you need. It is hard to move on after a two year relationship, but she seems to have done it so you can too. You need to just let it go.
2006-07-10 05:06:50 · answer #7 · answered by j_c_goat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to her once, and honestly. Put the ball on her court and leave it. If she makes the move and wants to reconsider you, she will let u know - give her space to do that.
If she doesnt, move on. Its not easy, but its best for the both of you before it gets more messy.
2006-07-10 05:03:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot get back trust once it is broken. Even if you really want to, you'll never totally trust her again. It also sounds like she's playing you. You can still care about her, but move on from her. You deserve better.
2006-07-10 05:04:02 · answer #9 · answered by T Time 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i cheated,and she never forgave me.i think she stills hates me for that.we are not a couple since 1 year,but we had some talk or coffe(very rarely).just few days ago we had war again for stupit think.so i believe..if the "glass crack,you cant put it together again"
even if a say goodmorning she would translate it as "**** u".after such things words take another meaning..
2006-07-10 05:09:08 · answer #10 · answered by seveneight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on there Mr. Desperate. Just because you hurt doesn't mean it's going to go your way. Find another chick and quit blubbering.
2006-07-10 05:02:48 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋