How do you deal with being called perverted names for being a redhead?

Question

I'm a redhead and I get called names all the time, mostly by boys. Although all of them think I'm pretty they still call me those names and I cant help but feel horrible and want to run and hide. Even my boyfriend called me a sick name before.

Answer 1

Find someone who actually appreciates a redhead. There are many many out there.

If they are using that name that Lindsey Lohan got called don't worry people will forget about that soon enough.

Answer 2

how do you like all of these answers? some times boys are really stupid, sometimes we say things before we think. we are not the smartest sometimes. I know its hard but but you can ignore it, or say something back. Anybody that's says anything bad to a person because of their redhead is really not very smart.
This is a girl I know that is a red head and she turns it around. Now I'm just repeating what she says, and I mean no disrespect to you. but she says that she keeps a little hair pacth to prove it, and only the lucky ones can see it. Then she looks at the guy and says you will never be lucky enough. That is how she deals with it. Depending on your age I would not say that if you were young, but if you are over 18 why not. It really shuts them up. Im sorry for the outher stupid boys out their. try to have a good day.

Answer 3

I hope I can help! I just know that if I was in your position that it would be extremely hard not to judge others and not to feel judge. I am most certain that these people are either joking harmlessly or they are calling you names because they know it bothers you and they enjoy the attention.

Being a red head has got to be tough because you do stand out (although I am not aware of what perverted names that call red heads). Just remember that you are who you are and that the people you want close to you are the ones who don't judge you for your hair color.

And as far as judging on hair color is concerned... I think red heads are the most attractive woman in the world. There is nothing more sexy or alluring than a woman with red hair.

You may not be able to stop these boys from calling you names... but by ignoring them they are less likely to continue to call you these names. Don't justify their actions with a response because you will only encourage them.

Lastly... these "boys" seem a little immature and they will either grow out of this need to cal you names or they just are not worth your time.

Good luck!

Answer 4

I hate to tell you girl, but having red hair comes with the assumption of the red hair attitude. My advice, give it a try! Not the nasty stuff of course, but bring out your fiery side. I LOVE being a red head! I have always taken the names in stride.. they are compliments. They may not always be the ones you want to hear, but for a lot of guys it's the only way they know how to express it. The best come backs however are "Oh yeah, you wish buddy" , " Wouldn't you like to know" and " All that and SOOO much more!" Most times, one of those (which ever is most appropriate) will shut them right up. You just have to say it with a little attitude and a little shake in your walk. I have never had them back fire on me
- Just an opinion from an experienced redhead.
Hope this helps a little.
- Tasha

Answer 5

Wow, that is so uncool of these people to call you names just because of your hair color. I would embrace my haircolor if I was a redhead because it really does make you stand out and automatically makes you unique in a crowd of brunettes and blondes. If it's too difficult to get passed these guys right now, maybe you could tone down the color a notch or two with lowlights. One day though, the name-calling will stop and they will be calling you on the phone any which way they can. These boys need to do some serious growing up, and with time, you will love your haircolor and know that it is beautiful to be different.

Answer 6

It doesn't matter what age you are name calling always hurts, I think most people just get thicker skin the older you get.
Along with learning that your true friends will understand how you feel and not call you any names.
There is name calling and there is harmless joking, only you know which one it is and you can ignore it or you can be bothered by it. All colors, types of people wither they are fat , skinny, tall or short all have name calling, nick names others of the opposite that they are call them, along with stupid jokes that people think are funny that are offensive to others.
Most people do this because they are jealous of your hair color, or you as a person, either way you don't need people like that in your life.
If they can't respect you as a person stay away from them.
If you don't take it personally and you don't show them that it affects you either way, they may stop doing it all together.
good luck and enjoy being a red head...
and if I were you I would find another boyfriend if he can't respect you...

Answer 7

30+ years ago I don't recall the names being perverted. But I clearly remember not liking the names I was called even back then. It's kind of ironic to look back now and see the girls that called me those names all dying and perming their hair - seems curly red-hair is a good thing.

Does your boyfriend and his buddies call each other insulting names when they're joking around? A lot of guys do - and they don't think much of it. That's just how the guys play. They may not understand that girls don't usually joke around like that and don't understand that's how guys accept each other. (sounds odd, huh). When girls usually say something like that, they're usually being hateful. Girls (in general) don't like jokes at their expense, especially about their looks.

But sometime when you're alone with your boyfriend you need to let him know that the perverted names aren't cool. If you haven't seriously told him this before, politely let him know that you find these names hurtful and that you try to shrug them off in public, but in the end - they hurt. Let him know that you need him to not call you those names any more. Let him know those kinds of names make you want to cut your hair and dye it so you don't have to listen to it any more. Let him know what names you'll deal with, and which ones you just can't take. And let him know how much happier you will be if you're being insulted like that.

Don't be whiney when you tell him this, but don't be angry either. Keep your cool. If he has respect for you, he'll quit. And if you're lucky, he'll stand up for you (you might not get to see it though) and tell some of the other guys to knock it off.

Good Luck!

Answer 8

That is a hard question! Nobody likes to be called mean names. It is my personal opinion that redheads are beautiful, but boys do not usually admit that until they get older! You need to do everything you can to show off your hair and style it beautifully. Sometimes guys name call because beautiful girls get them tongue tied and they don't know how to act! If you could give me some examples of the names you are being called maybe I could help you come up with some good comebacks?

Answer 9

I'm a redhead & I know exactly how you feel. Those guys are calling you those names because they have no respect for who you are as a person. You're better than that! I hated my red hair when I was a kid because of all the names. But now that I'm older I love my red hair. No matter what anyone says--it's mine and I didn't have to pay for it. I love it because it's different. And someday you'll meet a guy that's different. Wait for him. Only those deserving should experience the fire of a true redhead.

Answer 10

I don't know how old you are. You seem to be pretty young. If fact I would bet you are so young that you will consider me ancient. I am 56 and I have had red hair for every one of those years. It is hard, I remember being called names and even being thought of as evil. At some point it stops and people always remember you because you are the one with BEAUTIFUL red hair. And guys really do dig it! The names are only words and they can only make you feel bad if you let them. You will have the last laugh because you will always be envied because of your hair and that has always felt pretty good to me. True redheads make up only about 11% of the population so we are indeed a rare breed. Relish that, thrive on it and celebrate your innate beauty.

Answer 11

Take it from a redhead that there's nothing you can do except be bigger than that. Ignore it, smile and laugh, or tell them to lay off (except people who do that want to get a reaction...so they've won if you get too emotional). You don't want a boyfriend that will make fun of you. Moreover, everyone gets made fun of for something...your beautiful red hair is just an easy target. I'm sure you've gotten enough compliments from tons of people to know that many, many people would love to have red hair. Why else would there be so many fake redheads if they didn't love it? If worse comes to worse (if you have the guts) remind them of those other redhead stereotypes like the temper and ask them if they want you to invoke it. Whenever they ask me to confirm the stereotypes that involve the bedroom I just say, "Wouldn't you like to know." and leave it at that.

I was really self-conscious of my fair skin that comes with the red hair. 2 cute, popular guys from my high school said one day at the swimming pool that, "she'd be hot if you didn't have to put on sunglasses to look at me" (because of the glare of my fair skin). Since then I've realized that they'll all be old looking and leathery while I'll still have that porcelain skin that everyone praises Nicole Kidman for having.

Wait a few years and the guys will be over trying to make fun of everyone to make themselves fell bigger.